Ideas to have a new nanny feel welcomed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an employe. I pay my nanny a fair on the books salary. She does childcare and (gasp) light housekeeping. I guarantee 50 hours a week and if I am 15 min late I pay for a full hour. If less, I pay extra half hour. It works for us. I hate to admit it but I also hire nannies who have no childcare responsibilities. The privilege of having a nanny IS that I don’t have to rush to pick up my kid. As long as I compensate her for her time.

It’s still not right, PP. Your child is waiting for you, too. You are an adult and a parent - you can get home on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an employe. I pay my nanny a fair on the books salary. She does childcare and (gasp) light housekeeping. I guarantee 50 hours a week and if I am 15 min late I pay for a full hour. If less, I pay extra half hour. It works for us. I hate to admit it but I also hire nannies who have no childcare responsibilities. The privilege of having a nanny IS that I don’t have to rush to pick up my kid. As long as I compensate her for her time.

It’s still not right, PP. Your child is waiting for you, too. You are an adult and a parent - you can get home on time.

+1. It’s very disrespectful to your nanny and to your poor child. Why can’t you see that, PP? Why do you put your life so above that of your nanny and your child?

Habitual lateness is narcissistic and attention-seeking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an employe. I pay my nanny a fair on the books salary. She does childcare and (gasp) light housekeeping. I guarantee 50 hours a week and if I am 15 min late I pay for a full hour. If less, I pay extra half hour. It works for us. I hate to admit it but I also hire nannies who have no childcare responsibilities. The privilege of having a nanny IS that I don’t have to rush to pick up my kid. As long as I compensate her for her time.

It’s still not right, PP. Your child is waiting for you, too. You are an adult and a parent - you can get home on time.

+1. It’s very disrespectful to your nanny and to your poor child. Why can’t you see that, PP? Why do you put your life so above that of your nanny and your child?

Habitual lateness is narcissistic and attention-seeking.

+2. Of your ability to be late is the only benefit to having a nanny, you have serious self-esteem issues. Are you planning to be the parent who leaves her child waiting last to be picked up from school?

[Anonymous]

First & foremost, I would like to say that you sound like a very considerate employer!

To make your Nanny feel comfortable, these are my suggestions:

• Never make her feel like “the hired help.”
Treat her w/the upmost respect by valuing her time as well as anytime she goes above + beyond in her duties.
Thank her as much as possible!

• It would be generous of you to let your new Nanny know that she is welcome to eat whatever she wants.

• Give her as much autonomy as you can.
It’s a real drag working for bosses who restrict their Nanny from doing this or that, etc.

[Anonymous]

• Make her feel trusted.
Always!
Best to keep up her job morale.

• Do not leave dirty dishes in the sink.
Also, make sure to empty the garbage + diaper pail (if full) and keep enough diapers and wipes in stock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Focus on being a fair employer.

Pay her on time.
Pay unemployment insurance, paid family leave contribution, workers compensation insurance.
Pay overtime when it’s due.
Don’t switch her hours around with little notice.
Don’t be late.
Don’t have her “make up” vacation or sick leave.
Give her paid holidays, vacation time, and sick leave.
Guarantee her hours - ie, when you don’t need her, you still pay her.

Don’t worry about being “fun.” She works for you for money.

Sorry but I'm a very child centered nanny and this is all correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Focus on being a fair employer.

Pay her on time.
Pay unemployment insurance, paid family leave contribution, workers compensation insurance.
Pay overtime when it’s due.
Don’t switch her hours around with little notice.
Don’t be late.
Don’t have her “make up” vacation or sick leave.
Give her paid holidays, vacation time, and sick leave.
Guarantee her hours - ie, when you don’t need her, you still pay her.

Don’t worry about being “fun.” She works for you for money.

Sorry but I'm a very child centered nanny and this is all correct.

Except for the fun part

[Anonymous]

When it is time to pay your nanny at the end of the week, don't roll your eyes or sigh or grumble or complain about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it is time to pay your nanny at the end of the week, don't roll your eyes or sigh or grumble or complain about it.

And don’t “forget.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it is time to pay your nanny at the end of the week, don't roll your eyes or sigh or grumble or complain about it.

This is a good comment; really good. And funny too. But that's true.

[Anonymous]

If you are always /often / frequently late then just extend the nanny's regular hours! She may not have children to get home to but she may have a parent or grandparent, grocery shopping, a class at the gym, or studying to do. Your time is in no way more important than hers Just extend the duty day!

[Anonymous]

Agree. If you really cannot comfortably get home by 5, then her duty day is 5:30, and both of you are not worried about it.

[Anonymous]

^^ That extra 20-30 mins also gives you "discussion time" about the kids, the day, the plans for tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are always /often / frequently late then just extend the nanny's regular hours! She may not have children to get home to but she may have a parent or grandparent, grocery shopping, a class at the gym, or studying to do. Your time is in no way more important than hers Just extend the duty day!

Nanny here. I did this twice with my former employers. 5 to 5:30 then 5:30 to 6:00. They were still constantly late.