Nanny used all vacation and wants more

[Anonymous]

I’m taking an extra week this summer because I am TIRED. Tired from working 60 hrs a week. Tired of WAH parents. Tired of cleaning up after grown adults all day. Tired of cleaning up after kids. Tired of ‘light housework’ (what a joke) since the housekeepers haven’t come in 3 months. I’m TIRED AND NEED A BREAK. If my bosses won’t let me take a week I am prepared to quit. It’s soooo easy to find a job right now. I’m a former teacher in California where cases are going up by the day. Schools aren’t going back. I will have my pick of jobs so if my boss is smart, they will give me my week off. If not, next in line! I’ve already had 5 messages from families trying to poach me, since they know I’m a former teacher.

[Anonymous]

^ If you have an educated nanny right now, they have their pick of jobs so you should probably be nice to your staff.

[Anonymous]

no, I don't think it will be over in a month or 2 but past 3 months we were still peaking here in MD for goodness sake, it's getting a bit better now with numbers going down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be in a huge bind if our wonderful nanny asked for another week off. This covid pandemic has been so stressful for us. DH and I live in panic that we’re going to lose our jobs or be furloughed and struggle to work from home. We have no backup because both sets of grandparents are over 65 and two have health issues. Our nanny has been absolutely brilliant during all this and we couldn’t be more appreciative. I know it’s been hard on her with no playgrounds, library, classes, play dates and us in the house but she has handled it and adjusted better than we have!

Nanny is going to get a huge bonus and another five years at least of job security as I’m pregnant again. I’d love to give her the moon but couldn’t handle things without her for even a week this summer.

That's really lovely of you to acknowledge your Nanny's value to your family. Please please just be mindful that your Nanny needing time off does not lessen her value. Sometimes we put our best self forward during the day and we get home and are bone tired and have to drag ourselves through the evening and try to recuperate as best as we can to make the next day with your children the best one that it can be.

I say all this to say that while its nice to state how much you appreciate your Nanny, be mindful too that she may need a little extra time off while dealing with this very stressful period in ALL our lives. Consider her needs as well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be in a huge bind if our wonderful nanny asked for another week off. This covid pandemic has been so stressful for us. DH and I live in panic that we’re going to lose our jobs or be furloughed and struggle to work from home. We have no backup because both sets of grandparents are over 65 and two have health issues. Our nanny has been absolutely brilliant during all this and we couldn’t be more appreciative. I know it’s been hard on her with no playgrounds, library, classes, play dates and us in the house but she has handled it and adjusted better than we have!

Nanny is going to get a huge bonus and another five years at least of job security as I’m pregnant again. I’d love to give her the moon but couldn’t handle things without her for even a week this summer.

That's really lovely of you to acknowledge your Nanny's value to your family. Please please just be mindful that your Nanny needing time off does not lessen her value. Sometimes we put our best self forward during the day and we get home and are bone tired and have to drag ourselves through the evening and try to recuperate as best as we can to make the next day with your children the best one that it can be.

I say all this to say that while its nice to state how much you appreciate your Nanny, be mindful too that she may need a little extra time off while dealing with this very stressful period in ALL our lives. Consider her needs as well!

People hire nannies so they can work. If they don't have child care its difficult to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m taking an extra week this summer because I am TIRED. Tired from working 60 hrs a week. Tired of WAH parents. Tired of cleaning up after grown adults all day. Tired of cleaning up after kids. Tired of ‘light housework’ (what a joke) since the housekeepers haven’t come in 3 months. I’m TIRED AND NEED A BREAK. If my bosses won’t let me take a week I am prepared to quit. It’s soooo easy to find a job right now. I’m a former teacher in California where cases are going up by the day. Schools aren’t going back. I will have my pick of jobs so if my boss is smart, they will give me my week off. If not, next in line! I’ve already had 5 messages from families trying to poach me, since they know I’m a former teacher.

Cut your hours back, PP. And talk to your employers about not being their maid. Stop doing housework! A week off will be great but it isn’t going to solve your problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m taking an extra week this summer because I am TIRED. Tired from working 60 hrs a week. Tired of WAH parents. Tired of cleaning up after grown adults all day. Tired of cleaning up after kids. Tired of ‘light housework’ (what a joke) since the housekeepers haven’t come in 3 months. I’m TIRED AND NEED A BREAK. If my bosses won’t let me take a week I am prepared to quit. It’s soooo easy to find a job right now. I’m a former teacher in California where cases are going up by the day. Schools aren’t going back. I will have my pick of jobs so if my boss is smart, they will give me my week off. If not, next in line! I’ve already had 5 messages from families trying to poach me, since they know I’m a former teacher.

Cut your hours back, PP. And talk to your employers about not being their maid. Stop doing housework! A week off will be great but it isn’t going to solve your problems.

+1. You shouldn’t be do any housework beyond what’s involved with the children. A week off will be great but then you’re just going to go back to the same ridiculous grind.

You’re a teacher, PP. Start looking for a new job now. In Los Angeles you can easily earn $30 an hour for one child with no household chores whatsoever. Try The Help Agency in Brentwood. They placed me in a home with one child, two housekeepers and a daily chef (who made my lunch everyday).

[Anonymous]

It shows she is not dedicated to her job and wants a break. Next thing you know she is giving 2 weeks notice.

Whether or not you let her take unpaid leave is almost irrelevant. I was in your shoes before. After the unpaid leave she wanted more unpaid leave then she called in sick then she cut her hand and had to go to the hospital which resulted in stitches which resulted in her not being able to care for my young child for 3-4 days then when she came back not able to cook for my young child for 3-4 days more.

Otherwise we had a good relationship. The difficult choice for you should be if you want to be in a employment relationship with someone who is not more dedicated and reliable.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't deny the time off. People need a break.

How many paid vacation days did you give her? If it's only two weeks, that's not nearly enough time off.

[Anonymous]

We just finished month 5 with our nanny and she has already taken 3 weeks of vacation. Not to mention that her most recent week was to a hot spot (Florida) for vacation, so we are not seeing her for a couple of weeks.

To say I'm annoyed is an understatement. We will likely look for a new nanny soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just finished month 5 with our nanny and she has already taken 3 weeks of vacation. Not to mention that her most recent week was to a hot spot (Florida) for vacation, so we are not seeing her for a couple of weeks.

To say I'm annoyed is an understatement. We will likely look for a new nanny soon.

Three weeks of vacation to relax is understandable. Going to hotspots is not.