Great nanny candidate will only start with newborn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the one who you guys are attacking about me saying you can’t love an older child....
I’m in shock by your responses!
Both my last jobs I started with 2 year olds and a newborn being born months later or already born.
Both 2 year old loved me a lot and I loved them back a lot within weeks. We spent so much fun times together, and no matter what 2/3 year old, they come with the same issues regardless because it’s the age.
By laziness I mean get up and teach them manners and values, that’s what our job is and that’s what great nannies do. The kid will rub across the street regardless if you had him from the time he was born or later, you have to teach them to not run and use time out and punishments.
You have to show them you’re the boss and not them, and kids learn very fast if you consistently say no and follow through. I don’t want to attack anybody, but for the OP, my opinion is that of the nanny said she only works with newborns, GOOD riddance! She’s obviously lazy because she doesn’t want to deal with crankiness and tantrums of a 2/3 year old lol! That newborn baby will be cranky too in 2 years! And that newborn doesn’t know any rules either!
Find a nanny that actually loves kids and understands them being cranky.

So you’re right and everyone else is wrong and lazy if they don’t agree with you? Umm ok

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the one who you guys are attacking about me saying you can’t love an older child....
I’m in shock by your responses!
Both my last jobs I started with 2 year olds and a newborn being born months later or already born.
Both 2 year old loved me a lot and I loved them back a lot within weeks. We spent so much fun times together, and no matter what 2/3 year old, they come with the same issues regardless because it’s the age.
By laziness I mean get up and teach them manners and values, that’s what our job is and that’s what great nannies do. The kid will rub across the street regardless if you had him from the time he was born or later, you have to teach them to not run and use time out and punishments.
You have to show them you’re the boss and not them, and kids learn very fast if you consistently say no and follow through. I don’t want to attack anybody, but for the OP, my opinion is that of the nanny said she only works with newborns, GOOD riddance! She’s obviously lazy because she doesn’t want to deal with crankiness and tantrums of a 2/3 year old lol! That newborn baby will be cranky too in 2 years! And that newborn doesn’t know any rules either!
Find a nanny that actually loves kids and understands them being cranky.

Please stop embarrassing yourself, PP. And please... no one under 70 uses “lol” anymore. You clearly are not an educated nanny or a native English speaker.


The nannies giving their experience and feeling on OP’s question are not “lazy”. They simply choose (and can choose) to start with a charge from infancy.

I don’t know how to make the concept of “opinion” to you any more clearly.

[Anonymous]

NP. I'm just kind of sad for all of you who think the preschool age is tough. It's an amazing age, full of love, silliness, learning and laughter. Sure, it's also about boundaries but no stage is without learning, which is the cause of most stress for kids. Sure if the parents or previous caregivers have spoiled the child, it's very challenging. But to assume all kids are hopeless cases by age 3 is to miss out on a lot of hugs, kisses, artwork gifts and i-love-yous.

[Anonymous]

OP, the nanny just wants job security. That's not a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm just kind of sad for all of you who think the preschool age is tough. It's an amazing age, full of love, silliness, learning and laughter. Sure, it's also about boundaries but no stage is without learning, which is the cause of most stress for kids. Sure if the parents or previous caregivers have spoiled the child, it's very challenging. But to assume all kids are hopeless cases by age 3 is to miss out on a lot of hugs, kisses, artwork gifts and i-love-yous.

I am a PP who always starts with newborns. I am also a former preschool teacher and I love three-year-olds. You misunderstood if you think my reasons for insisting I start with newborns has anything to do with not liking or not being able to handle older kids. I just have not been able to bond or love a charge as much when I start when they are older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm just kind of sad for all of you who think the preschool age is tough. It's an amazing age, full of love, silliness, learning and laughter. Sure, it's also about boundaries but no stage is without learning, which is the cause of most stress for kids. Sure if the parents or previous caregivers have spoiled the child, it's very challenging. But to assume all kids are hopeless cases by age 3 is to miss out on a lot of hugs, kisses, artwork gifts and i-love-yous.

When you actually work with kids for years you understand what’s more enjoyable. A nanny is able to pick and choose who she wants to work with. I’ve worked with every age range. Ages 2.5-4 are just very hard ages. That’s when tantrums really begin and push back about everything starts. Ppl who aren’t taking care of kids for a living only remember the good times. They seem to forget all the tantrums and mood swings. Yes, I can do it, and I love every kid I’ve taken care of but, why would I choose an age that I don’t enjoy over an age I do? Not everyone enjoys infants, do you feel sad for those ppl too?

Also, my current charges who are 22 months hug me, smile when they see me, give kisses (be it just a wet open mouth on my cheek) and are learning to color. Even infants smile and cuddle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm just kind of sad for all of you who think the preschool age is tough. It's an amazing age, full of love, silliness, learning and laughter. Sure, it's also about boundaries but no stage is without learning, which is the cause of most stress for kids. Sure if the parents or previous caregivers have spoiled the child, it's very challenging. But to assume all kids are hopeless cases by age 3 is to miss out on a lot of hugs, kisses, artwork gifts and i-love-yous.

? No one said preschool age is tough nor given you any reason to be “sad”. All of us who insist on starting with newborns hope we are with our charges thru preschool age! I love my 3.5 year old charge and totally enjoy her. I also will do anything and everything for her to learn and be happy - far above my own comfort at times when I am exhausted or unwell. I put her needs as well as now her baby sister needs far above my own. I go the extra 200 miles every day because of the love and connection I have with her. I can’t imagine feeling this way had I not been with her since birth.

[Anonymous]

This is why you hire wisely and treat her well....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This is why you hire wisely and treat her well....

Wonder what happened to OP’s first nanny...

[Anonymous]

I actually do feel the same as OP’s nanny candidate. I love starting with a newborn and staying thru school. I couldn’t bond by starting with on older child - it’s one of the great joys and privileges of being a nanny to be with, and love, a child from birth until school or later if they have more children.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has different preferences. Personally, I only work with older kids. I’d never take a job with a baby or even a toddler. 5 and up only for me. Babies are boring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Great. Then you take OP’s job. I won’t. And if you think newborns are easier than toddlers, you are doing it wrong. Narrative, reading, singing, doing fingerplay and signing is exhausting. And I do it in English and French. It’s so much easier with communicative toddlers.

It’s very exhausting. And because most parent want young infants birth to three months (sometimes even up to six months!) kept at home, it’s also isolating. I love toddlers, but unless your nanny can take both out from the start, I wouldn’t consider your position either. And I usually start sometime between 6 months and 3 years.

[Anonymous]

Isolation isn’t good for anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Great. Then you take OP’s job. I won’t. And if you think newborns are easier than toddlers, you are doing it wrong. Narrative, reading, singing, doing fingerplay and signing is exhausting. And I do it in English and French. It’s so much easier with communicative toddlers.

+1. Those who think newborns/infants are easy haven’t got a clue. Just a bad nanny...

I'm a mom. Healthy newborns are the easiest childcare gig in the world. Except sleep deprivation but that is normally not the nanny's problem. Spending time with toddlers is way more taxing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Great. Then you take OP’s job. I won’t. And if you think newborns are easier than toddlers, you are doing it wrong. Narrative, reading, singing, doing fingerplay and signing is exhausting. And I do it in English and French. It’s so much easier with communicative toddlers.

You'll be doing all that, and way more, with "communicative toddlers", but they run away and have opinions, unlike newborns. Not buying that it's easier.