Return trip home

[Anonymous]

As someone who has dealt with the logistics of moving internationally and domestically solely via public transit (two college move-in days, one year abroad, and coming up on another one in a few months) multiple times in my life, though I have not yet been an AP, I think that the kind thing to do is to help support her through a miserable experience (logistics wise, not even counting emotions) by offering to even split the costs of a car service (or giving her $20, just a gesture to show that you understand and want to make things easier on her.). At least what I read from your post, your view seemed to go beyond not being able to drive her and support her in the moment (totally fine, she's an adult and can help herself) and say that she should either pay lots and lots of money for shipping (boxes that may not ever get there depending on the country/your budget) and or give up possessions outright in order to make your life easier by not requiring your car or your funds to get her to the airport. Is this something that APs should budget for (Uber/Taxi)? Maybe? However given the disparity in your resources and the nature of the AP-Host family relationship I want to echo those that have said that helping the AP with this last stage of your relationship is the kind thing to do.