Childcare providers should reconsider their career path if being filmed at work is a problem

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who actually was recommended by three of my previous families to a new family.

Since the family matriarch works with the mothers of the other families, she trusts their judgment on me.

They actually could have canned me for complaining on how uncomfortable the cameras (+ audio) made me feel.
I must have seemed like a PITA to them.
I told them (after our two week trial period) that I couldn’t return in good faith if they continued recording audio since I never formerly gave my consent.
(Yes, I am the OP of THAT thread!)
Lol.

And I totally expected to be terminated.
However they told me I came highly recommended & that they concurred that after 2wks, they felt that I was truly a responsible nanny and they wanted me to stay.

They told me directly that they didn’t want to be beating their heads against a wall if they lost a great nanny over a camera/audio.
They said in a nutshell that me being uncomfortable would definitely affect my relationship w/their child and that they would do anything to give their child a happy & content caregiver.

And they realized that any good working relationship takes compromise first + foremost.
They also said they admired me speaking up from the get-go vs. keeping my dissatisfaction inside, then quitting later on after their child + I formed a bond.

So all is well.
In spite of the stress and all, I learned a few life lessons from this situation.

A.)That any good employer will compromise if that is what it takes to have a happy child.
(Many families would have told me to leave if I wasn’t happy w/the status quo.)

B.)Always have open + honest communication.
Do not keep things inside thinking they will get better later on.
They won’t.
Trust me on this.
Things will only get progressively worse.

I would have had to fire you. You would have put me in the position of missing out on occasionally hearing my own child's sweet voice because you were uncomfortable with... what exactly? As much as I would not have wanted to if you were a great nanny, not getting to hear my child's voice a couple of times a day and not hearing the alarm go off would have been too hard for me to give up.

If you need to hear your child:s sweet voice, stay home and take care of your precious sunflower!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who actually was recommended by three of my previous families to a new family.

Since the family matriarch works with the mothers of the other families, she trusts their judgment on me.

They actually could have canned me for complaining on how uncomfortable the cameras (+ audio) made me feel.
I must have seemed like a PITA to them.
I told them (after our two week trial period) that I couldn’t return in good faith if they continued recording audio since I never formerly gave my consent.
(Yes, I am the OP of THAT thread!)
Lol.

And I totally expected to be terminated.
However they told me I came highly recommended & that they concurred that after 2wks, they felt that I was truly a responsible nanny and they wanted me to stay.

They told me directly that they didn’t want to be beating their heads against a wall if they lost a great nanny over a camera/audio.
They said in a nutshell that me being uncomfortable would definitely affect my relationship w/their child and that they would do anything to give their child a happy & content caregiver.

And they realized that any good working relationship takes compromise first + foremost.
They also said they admired me speaking up from the get-go vs. keeping my dissatisfaction inside, then quitting later on after their child + I formed a bond.

So all is well.
In spite of the stress and all, I learned a few life lessons from this situation.

A.)That any good employer will compromise if that is what it takes to have a happy child.
(Many families would have told me to leave if I wasn’t happy w/the status quo.)

B.)Always have open + honest communication.
Do not keep things inside thinking they will get better later on.
They won’t.
Trust me on this.
Things will only get progressively worse.

I would have had to fire you. You would have put me in the position of missing out on occasionally hearing my own child's sweet voice because you were uncomfortable with... what exactly? As much as I would not have wanted to if you were a great nanny, not getting to hear my child's voice a couple of times a day and not hearing the alarm go off would have been too hard for me to give up.

Can’t you listen to your child’s “sweet voice” when you get home? You’re supposed to be working. Hilarious all these women spying on their nannies, trying to catch them slacking, as they waste their own employers’ time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who actually was recommended by three of my previous families to a new family.

Since the family matriarch works with the mothers of the other families, she trusts their judgment on me.

They actually could have canned me for complaining on how uncomfortable the cameras (+ audio) made me feel.
I must have seemed like a PITA to them.
I told them (after our two week trial period) that I couldn’t return in good faith if they continued recording audio since I never formerly gave my consent.
(Yes, I am the OP of THAT thread!)
Lol.

And I totally expected to be terminated.
However they told me I came highly recommended & that they concurred that after 2wks, they felt that I was truly a responsible nanny and they wanted me to stay.

They told me directly that they didn’t want to be beating their heads against a wall if they lost a great nanny over a camera/audio.
They said in a nutshell that me being uncomfortable would definitely affect my relationship w/their child and that they would do anything to give their child a happy & content caregiver.

And they realized that any good working relationship takes compromise first + foremost.
They also said they admired me speaking up from the get-go vs. keeping my dissatisfaction inside, then quitting later on after their child + I formed a bond.

So all is well.
In spite of the stress and all, I learned a few life lessons from this situation.

A.)That any good employer will compromise if that is what it takes to have a happy child.
(Many families would have told me to leave if I wasn’t happy w/the status quo.)

B.)Always have open + honest communication.
Do not keep things inside thinking they will get better later on.
They won’t.
Trust me on this.
Things will only get progressively worse.

I would have had to fire you. You would have put me in the position of missing out on occasionally hearing my own child's sweet voice because you were uncomfortable with... what exactly? As much as I would not have wanted to if you were a great nanny, not getting to hear my child's voice a couple of times a day and not hearing the alarm go off would have been too hard for me to give up.

Can’t you listen to your child’s “sweet voice” when you get home? You’re supposed to be working. Hilarious all these women spying on their nannies, trying to catch them slacking, as they waste their own employers’ time.

Don't worry about my "boss" (since I am the boss). Worry about your boss.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? A parent taking 30 seconds to peek in on their child is not a waste of anyone’s time.

I understand being a little uncomfortable/awkward being filmed at work, because that’s how I felt when I worked with cameras.

However...you (supposedly) willingly brought your issue to your employers, you’re begrudging a parent for wanting to check on their child like it’s an outlandish desire, making up ridiculous excuses like they’re wasting someone’s time (like they don’t have breaks). If you are that dead-set against them, then I would be a little suspicious of you if I was a parent.

Like I said, I totally get not wanting to work around cameras. Of course I’d rather have the freedom of knowing I’m not being watched at any time. I would never tell that to a parent, though. It’s their house and their child.

Hell, if I was so rich I could pay someone to come play with my freakin’ CATS, I’d wanna peek in a bit. I can only imagine the anxiety parents feel leaving their kids.

[Anonymous]

If these mothers insist on watching-listening to their child’s sweet voice and laughter, then why are they away from them so much?
A mother who leaves for work with cameras on is obviously not one-hundred percent comfortable with their nanny.
And if you are less than one-hundred percent on anything re: your child then you are being a neglectful parent.
These cameras are used for spying on their nanny. Period.
They are not for “checking in” to hear your child laugh.
This is just a lame excuse people use to justify why they prefer filming in their home.

^^^ Any parent who has to check on their nanny while on the clock should be at home with their child.
My sister did this when her kids (my nephews) were young.
My BIL went to work but she quit her job.
They lived in a 2-bd. condo, had one car & she made homemade baby food and used cloth diapers.
Money was tighter, but they made it work.
Later on, they purchased a SFH, another vehicle and that was around the time my sister returned to work.

No way would she have worked while her kids were infants * toddlers, using a home camera to check in to see her child smile.
When in work mode, one should give their all to their job.
Having the need to check on things at home is a huge distraction while on the job.
Yet these same parents get angry if they catch their nanny on her phone.
Hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If these mothers insist on watching-listening to their child’s sweet voice and laughter, then why are they away from them so much?
A mother who leaves for work with cameras on is obviously not one-hundred percent comfortable with their nanny.
And if you are less than one-hundred percent on anything re: your child then you are being a neglectful parent.
These cameras are used for spying on their nanny. Period.
They are not for “checking in” to hear your child laugh.
This is just a lame excuse people use to justify why they prefer filming in their home.

^^^ Any parent who has to check on their nanny while on the clock should be at home with their child.
My sister did this when her kids (my nephews) were young.
My BIL went to work but she quit her job.
They lived in a 2-bd. condo, had one car & she made homemade baby food and used cloth diapers.
Money was tighter, but they made it work.
Later on, they purchased a SFH, another vehicle and that was around the time my sister returned to work.

No way would she have worked while her kids were infants * toddlers, using a home camera to check in to see her child smile.
When in work mode, one should give their all to their job.
Having the need to check on things at home is a huge distraction while on the job.
Yet these same parents get angry if they catch their nanny on her phone.
Hypocrisy.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If these mothers insist on watching-listening to their child’s sweet voice and laughter, then why are they away from them so much?
A mother who leaves for work with cameras on is obviously not one-hundred percent comfortable with their nanny.
And if you are less than one-hundred percent on anything re: your child then you are being a neglectful parent.
These cameras are used for spying on their nanny. Period.
They are not for “checking in” to hear your child laugh.
This is just a lame excuse people use to justify why they prefer filming in their home.

^^^ Any parent who has to check on their nanny while on the clock should be at home with their child.
My sister did this when her kids (my nephews) were young.
My BIL went to work but she quit her job.
They lived in a 2-bd. condo, had one car & she made homemade baby food and used cloth diapers.
Money was tighter, but they made it work.
Later on, they purchased a SFH, another vehicle and that was around the time my sister returned to work.

No way would she have worked while her kids were infants * toddlers, using a home camera to check in to see her child smile.
When in work mode, one should give their all to their job.
Having the need to check on things at home is a huge distraction while on the job.
Yet these same parents get angry if they catch their nanny on her phone.
Hypocrisy.

Do you not understand how to write an actual paragraph, PP?

Regardless of your theories or ridiculous conclusions, cameras in the home are here to stay. Either get used to that fact or find another profession.

[Anonymous]

I use the cameras to catch my child's nanny on the phone and then I text her and tell her to get off the phone. She is 26 and addicted to her damn phone.

[Anonymous]

I finally get why I see so many nanny’s and au pairs at the library or other play places stuck on their phones. Their employers are constantly watching them at home and they can’t touch their phones. Now, I know why they just sit their on their phones because then can’t get a break at the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use the cameras to catch my child's nanny on the phone and then I text her and tell her to get off the phone. She is 26 and addicted to her damn phone.

Then hire a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If these mothers insist on watching-listening to their child’s sweet voice and laughter, then why are they away from them so much?
A mother who leaves for work with cameras on is obviously not one-hundred percent comfortable with their nanny.
And if you are less than one-hundred percent on anything re: your child then you are being a neglectful parent.
These cameras are used for spying on their nanny. Period.
They are not for “checking in” to hear your child laugh.
This is just a lame excuse people use to justify why they prefer filming in their home.

^^^ Any parent who has to check on their nanny while on the clock should be at home with their child.
My sister did this when her kids (my nephews) were young.
My BIL went to work but she quit her job.
They lived in a 2-bd. condo, had one car & she made homemade baby food and used cloth diapers.
Money was tighter, but they made it work.
Later on, they purchased a SFH, another vehicle and that was around the time my sister returned to work.

No way would she have worked while her kids were infants * toddlers, using a home camera to check in to see her child smile.
When in work mode, one should give their all to their job.
Having the need to check on things at home is a huge distraction while on the job.
Yet these same parents get angry if they catch their nanny on her phone.
Hypocrisy.

Do you not understand how to write an actual paragraph, PP?

Regardless of your theories or ridiculous conclusions, cameras in the home are here to stay. Either get used to that fact or find another profession.

Or find a family that understands when you hire someone to take care of your child bc you cannot, you have to relinquish some control. If you cannot trust the person raising your child then maybe stay at home. Why hire a nanny if all you plan to do is watch their every move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I finally get why I see so many nanny’s and au pairs at the library or other play places stuck on their phones. Their employers are constantly watching them at home and they can’t touch their phones. Now, I know why they just sit their on their phones because then can’t get a break at the house.

Do you know that lots of grown ups in various professions do not get breaks save a lunch hour? Grow up, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If these mothers insist on watching-listening to their child’s sweet voice and laughter, then why are they away from them so much?
A mother who leaves for work with cameras on is obviously not one-hundred percent comfortable with their nanny.
And if you are less than one-hundred percent on anything re: your child then you are being a neglectful parent.
These cameras are used for spying on their nanny. Period.
They are not for “checking in” to hear your child laugh.
This is just a lame excuse people use to justify why they prefer filming in their home.

^^^ Any parent who has to check on their nanny while on the clock should be at home with their child.
My sister did this when her kids (my nephews) were young.
My BIL went to work but she quit her job.
They lived in a 2-bd. condo, had one car & she made homemade baby food and used cloth diapers.
Money was tighter, but they made it work.
Later on, they purchased a SFH, another vehicle and that was around the time my sister returned to work.

No way would she have worked while her kids were infants * toddlers, using a home camera to check in to see her child smile.
When in work mode, one should give their all to their job.
Having the need to check on things at home is a huge distraction while on the job.
Yet these same parents get angry if they catch their nanny on her phone.
Hypocrisy.

Do you not understand how to write an actual paragraph, PP?

Regardless of your theories or ridiculous conclusions, cameras in the home are here to stay. Either get used to that fact or find another profession.

Or find a family that understands when you hire someone to take care of your child bc you cannot, you have to relinquish some control. If you cannot trust the person raising your child then maybe stay at home. Why hire a nanny if all you plan to do is watch their every move.

Checking in to see your kid a couple times a day is NOT "watching their every move".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finally get why I see so many nanny’s and au pairs at the library or other play places stuck on their phones. Their employers are constantly watching them at home and they can’t touch their phones. Now, I know why they just sit their on their phones because then can’t get a break at the house.

Do you know that lots of grown ups in various professions do not get breaks save a lunch hour? Grow up, PP.

So bc you decided on a profession that doesn’t allow breaks means everyone else should too? You should grow up and choose a profession that allows you to have breaks if that is what you want or need.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s a lack of trust on the parents’ part that leads them to wanting cameras. I think it’s more of a natural curiosity and missing their child that makes them want to be able to check up on them once in a while.

Even if I had a child that was being watched by a trusted family member, I’d be curious what they were up to and would want to check if I had a free moment. Not out of suspicion, but just because it’s natural for a parent to want to keep tabs on their kid.