Au pair very sick

[Anonymous]

I think it's great that you're so charitably interpreting her actions. I think one real possibility is she just wants to go home to be with family (understandable), but to save face she's talking about rematch knowing she'll likely go home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for your concern. She is feeling better and we have thus far avoided it. She has not been preparing food or watching our kids this whole time. For reasons I cannot entirely fathom, she decided in the midst of this that she wanted to rematch. This after we have been caring for her, buying her medicine that she couldn't afford and waiting for her to get better. I chalk it up to the emotional and mental toll of going through such an illness. Obviously, the agency has concerns and she will likely be sent home.

I wish good health to the OP, her au pair and everyone else!

Depends on the agency, it may be possible that the agency only pays for the return flight home if she goes into rematch and does not get matched. Sometimes, if AP just wants to go home regardless of reason, AP has to pay for the plane ticket.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are just emerging from a very similar situation. For our au pair, it turned out she had C Diff, which if you are not aware, is a bacteria that is usually hospital acquired and resistant to many antibiotics. Our best guess is it was a acquired after an earlier and unrelated round of antibiotics created room for the bacteria to flourish. She had stomach pain and ongoing diarrhea, but only blood that would be caused by raw tissue from wiping so much. She is close to finishing her second round of antibiotics to treat it after a recurrence either due to reinfection or incomplete eradication. I highly recommend ordering bleach wipes (NOT regular clorox wipes or anything you can find in the store. All of the bacteria and germs you could be concerned about are in that .01% that those don't kill) Clean everything you possibly can and institute draconian hand washing rules for everyone in your household.

I hope your au pair feels better soon and your family avoids it altogether.

OMG how terrible! I suffered through this and it was so debilitating. I lost 10 lbs in 3 weeks and was on disability for 8 weeks. I was never so debilitated in my life. And not counting the fact that once out of the hospital, I was absolutely paranoid about contaminating my family. I don't think I would have been able to keep an AP with flaring cdiff in my home. She is not preparing food your kids, is she?

Totally agreed on the clorox wipes, and ideally quarantining to her own bathroom if possible.

Thank you for your concern. She is feeling better and we have thus far avoided it. She has not been preparing food or watching our kids this whole time. For reasons I cannot entirely fathom, she decided in the midst of this that she wanted to rematch. This after we have been caring for her, buying her medicine that she couldn't afford and waiting for her to get better. I chalk it up to the emotional and mental toll of going through such an illness. Obviously, the agency has concerns and she will likely be sent home.

I wish good health to the OP, her au pair and everyone else!

I hope she's better! I wonder if she feels embarrassment of some kind and that's why she wants to go home.

[Anonymous]

OP here and she got diagnosed with crohns. She was better for a week or two and was doing great but then it came back. So it wasn't an illness but her first flare up....

[Anonymous]

Wow. Sounds pretty severe for a first flare and strange that she got better inbetween as I certainly didn't. Is she still working for you?

[Anonymous]

Time for AP to go home and get medical management in her country.

[Anonymous]

Poor girl. Very severe for a first flare I agree. Were there no warning signs leading up to this?

[Anonymous]

Is her insurance covering treatment?

[Anonymous]

Oh poor sweetie.... Proper management of Crohn's can be incredibly expensive. I assume she will be going home?

[Anonymous]

OP here and yes she will have to leave us now. It just came out of the blue. She was never ill before this, it's so strange and horrible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and yes she will have to leave us now. It just came out of the blue. She was never ill before this, it's so strange and horrible

I'm so sorry for her!! How awful. I hope she can get it under control at home and good luck with your new search.