Would you fire a grumpy nanny?

[Anonymous]

Get a new nanny. Requirement #1:
Make Mama feel good every morning.
Good luck with that, OP.
You deserve what you get.

[Anonymous]

I would never hire a nanny without a cheerful disposition. She's bemail gone so fast her head would spin. There are so many great nanny candidates out there. It's so easy to get a great replacement who has the disposition to work in a family. Too bad the OPs nanny couldn't hack it in accounting.

[Anonymous]

I've been a nanny, a teacher, and a data analyst (among others) so I have a nice range of experience with varying work settings.

I always arrived to nanny with a smile on my face. Okay maybe a handful of times I was having a personal issue and was a little subdued, but in nannying you'd better arrive with your energy intact of you want a good day.

I would not be comfortable employing a nanny who looked upset or grumpy every single morning.

[Anonymous]

My boss could have written this post word for word.

My reply:

It was you. It was your energy. When your energy shifted mine did. You can physically see the damage your shit energy caused me. My response was the only response. Self preserving.

If you felt bullied you only needed to glance over at your child to know you should just suck it up. Up top we already established it was you but for arguments sake if it was even 50% me....MY WORK alone is enough for you to overlook a bad attitude hell even a persistent bad attitude. She is a genius. I have cultivated an interest in her. I have nurtured her. I love her. I gave you insight on parenting without an ounce of overbearance...you took my advice yet you've never given me credit for it. I have rolled with the punches. I have made allowances for family quirks etc. It was you. Believe me because I think it could help you avoid future family upsets. Be kinder. It matters.

Every morning and every evening for the first 9-12 months of my employment I performed a task above and beyond that helped you tremdously. Without it you would not have been the best mother you could be. My two acts of selflessness. Nothing major but it made a marked difference in your families life. You've never said thank you. That's how you will know it's you.

[Anonymous]

I'm 24, part-time live in nanny, if I catch the mom in the morning before she leaves, I always greet her and tell her to have a nice day. When she gets in, I say Hi And we chit-chat and I brief her on the kids. A simple Hi or good morning is all that is needed !! If she's great with the kids, and your kids love her.. Just keep her, but be woman enough to ask her if everything is alright. . you can't compare an office job to a nanny job, boundaries are a lot different when working in someone's personal space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will start by saying our nanny LOVES our children and is perfect, except for the fact that every morning she is very grumpy. Looks mad and barely looks me in the eye. She has worked for us for 4 years but this is really getting old. She is under a lot of pressure (long story and not relevant) but we all are? Just not sure I can put up with it for one more minute but then again, this is really the only thing she does that bothers me...

Same issue here, 3 years going now. The nanny is good with the childcare but has an awful attitude with us. We have frequently talked about replacing her but get too busy to do it. We're hoping to make it another 12 months until our youngest is in a 2 yo program and then find another.

Everyone else in our boat felt instant RELIEF at letting goo a grumpy nanny with a pattern of talking back, not listening, or getting excessively defensive about basic things. And were very happy with the replacement. Older and wiser next time round?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone mentioned here being tipped $150 every couple months. I think that's a great moral booster. Why don't you try that op?

hahahaha. Give an inch and our takes a mile.


Give her $100 cash for her birthday, then see tells you she needs to only work until 4pm Tues and Friday and get in at 8 instead of 7:30am. Um, no.

I swear, some "nannies" don't understand the role of providing RELIABLE CHILDCARE.

[Anonymous]

would you fire a grumpy nanny?

yes.

[Anonymous]

I honestly believe the majority of "kiss her feet and give her a raise for being able to wipe her bottom and tie her shoes" are coming from a single poster or two at the most.

I would have addressed this ages ago, but never too late. Attitude is a part of the job, no need to fake joy, but she absolutely needs to manage her affect. How can she help teach your kiddos not to indulge in every emotion if she cant even manage her own?

[Anonymous]

What exactly do you want her to do?

Spend 15 minutes chatting with you in the morning?

I don't chat with my MB. I say hello, I would be annoyed if she tried to get me to smile.

I rarely smile. I'm perfectly professional, and great with the kids.I've just never been a smiler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly do you want her to do?

Spend 15 minutes chatting with you in the morning?

I don't chat with my MB. I say hello, I would be annoyed if she tried to get me to smile.

I rarely smile. I'm perfectly professional, and great with the kids.I've just never been a smiler.

So, you're a bitch? Do you seriously not smile and say hello when you greet someone? I am not talking about walking around with a big grin 100% of the time, but a quick social smile and a "Good morning" is a basic courtesy in this country. I honestly can't even imagine someone refusing to smile on principle. WTF is wrong with people?

[Anonymous]

yes, I would fire a grumpy nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here - OP some people on here are insane. No you should not have to bend over backwards and give bonuses to make someone have a basic level of professional appropriateness. My work situation is horrid, many people are angry with my boss and yet we still manage to show up and be pleasant while we're all looking for other places to go. Nannies on here always want to be treated like professionals, which I agree they should, but if you want to be treated like one, act like it too which means putting on a pleasant face most days (everyone is entitled to a few shitty mornings here and there I would approach her and just say that you've noticed some tension in the am and is it related to anything that's happened?

Comparing a nanny job and office job is apple's and oranges and you know this.

professionalism is universal across all "professional" jobs, unless of course you view nannies as a lower class, incapable of behaving in a professional manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boss could have written this post word for word.

My reply:

It was you. It was your energy. When your energy shifted mine did. You can physically see the damage your shit energy caused me. My response was the only response. Self preserving.

If you felt bullied you only needed to glance over at your child to know you should just suck it up. Up top we already established it was you but for arguments sake if it was even 50% me....MY WORK alone is enough for you to overlook a bad attitude hell even a persistent bad attitude. She is a genius. I have cultivated an interest in her. I have nurtured her. I love her. I gave you insight on parenting without an ounce of overbearance...you took my advice yet you've never given me credit for it. I have rolled with the punches. I have made allowances for family quirks etc. It was you. Believe me because I think it could help you avoid future family upsets. Be kinder. It matters.

Every morning and every evening for the first 9-12 months of my employment I performed a task above and beyond that helped you tremdously. Without it you would not have been the best mother you could be. My two acts of selflessness. Nothing major but it made a marked difference in your families life. You've never said thank you. That's how you will know it's you.

This is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boss could have written this post word for word.

My reply:

It was you. It was your energy. When your energy shifted mine did. You can physically see the damage your shit energy caused me. My response was the only response. Self preserving.

If you felt bullied you only needed to glance over at your child to know you should just suck it up. Up top we already established it was you but for arguments sake if it was even 50% me....MY WORK alone is enough for you to overlook a bad attitude hell even a persistent bad attitude. She is a genius. I have cultivated an interest in her. I have nurtured her. I love her. I gave you insight on parenting without an ounce of overbearance...you took my advice yet you've never given me credit for it. I have rolled with the punches. I have made allowances for family quirks etc. It was you. Believe me because I think it could help you avoid future family upsets. Be kinder. It matters.

Every morning and every evening for the first 9-12 months of my employment I performed a task above and beyond that helped you tremdously. Without it you would not have been the best mother you could be. My two acts of selflessness. Nothing major but it made a marked difference in your families life. You've never said thank you. That's how you will know it's you.

This is hilarious.

How exactly? Which parts?