Would you fire a grumpy nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over it, OP, and give her a raise. You should focus on how blessed your children are.

Exactly. Just for the fact that op is willing to shake up a constant in her kids lives (4years!) because the nanny doesn't float through the door on bubbles and butterflies every morning. Ego can cause tragedies smh

I am the OP and, while I disagree, I found this post hilarious. I don't expect her to float on bubbles...LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over it, OP, and give her a raise. You should focus on how blessed your children are.

Exactly. Just for the fact that op is willing to shake up a constant in her kids lives (4years!) because the nanny doesn't float through the door on bubbles and butterflies every morning. Ego can cause tragedies smh

I am the OP and, while I disagree, I found this post hilarious. I don't expect her to float on bubbles...LOL

This whole thread has to be a joke, right???
OP: The person I employ has a terrible attitude and can't even muster basic social skills.
DCUM Nannies: Giver her a raise! Tip her! Kiss her feet! You are the problem, OP, you Mom bitch, in fact you probably mistreat her and it's all she can do to be in the same room with you!!!!! Keep this terrible employee or your children will end up tragically scarred due to the "nanny revolving door"!

This is a whole new level of entitled.

[Anonymous]

It would depend.

How long does her grumpiness last?
Is she ever grumpy around your children?

Some people are just not morning people & need a cup of coffee before they properly wake up.
She could be one of them.

If this is your one + only complaint about her, then no of course I wouldn't issue her walking papers over just this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will start by saying our nanny LOVES our children and is perfect, except for the fact that every morning she is very grumpy. Looks mad and barely looks me in the eye. She has worked for us for 4 years but this is really getting old. She is under a lot of pressure (long story and not relevant) but we all are? Just not sure I can put up with it for one more minute but then again, this is really the only thing she does that bothers me...

Then fire her. I have a feeling that you may be the reason she is so grumpy

[Anonymous]

Op sounds like a brat.

[Anonymous]

Yes! My nanny names me feel good every morning !

[Anonymous]

I am an nanny and I feel that OP has a valid complaint. Very few workplaces would put up with such nonsense. Tell your children's nanny to put on a smile and cut the immature crap. I went to work three days after my husband died and managed to smile all day -- your nanny can too.

PS I once quit a good nanny position because the MB was stunningly moody and generally a horrid grump in the morning. Life is too fricking short to have to deal with such childishness. "Act as if..." In this case tell your nanny to act as if she were a grown up.

[Anonymous]

I am also a nanny and I am absolutely flabbergasted at all of these replies. This is totally unprofessional and unacceptable behavior. The poster says that she acts this way because her bosses are late every night and therefore she feels entitled to essentially be a bitch to them: do you not understand that that is incredibly passive aggressive very unproductive? Would you accept it if your child was mad at a sibling for stealing their toy and so they went and peed on their sibling's bed? Because it seems to me that is essentially what you were doing. They did something you did not like, so instead of addressing the issue clearly and straightforwardly and coming up with a solution, you have decided to punish them by making their life as miserable as possible. Does that seem like it is going to make things better for anyone involved ?

To the OP: I would maybe overlook this if your nanny had a very early start time and very long hours and was universally cheerful and kind to both your child and you the rest of the day. But if she's she is too tired and grumpy to be kind to her charge before her 3rd cup of coffee, or if she is snippy with you in the afternoons as well, then either of those is a serious problem. Even if she is loving towards your child but is consistently rude to you, that still impedes your ability to work together as a team caring for your child. If she is too burnt out on the job to have a positive working relationship, then that's going to make your child suffer. You need to be able to talk to one another and have a genuine rapport. Your child will know if the two of you are barely civil and faking it. Having two beloved caregivers hate each other is no easier on a child when it's mom and nanny than mom and dad.

As you have seen from this thread, it is apparent that the kind of nannies who behave this way often feel justified for some unrelated and arbitrary offense on your part. I think you should open the conversation by asking your nanny if there something that you have done to hurt or offend her. Whatever the issue is, the first step is getting it out in the open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will start by saying our nanny LOVES our children and is perfect, except for the fact that every morning she is very grumpy. Looks mad and barely looks me in the eye. She has worked for us for 4 years but this is really getting old. She is under a lot of pressure (long story and not relevant) but we all are? Just not sure I can put up with it for one more minute but then again, this is really the only thing she does that bothers me...

How much time are you spending with the nanny every morning?

[Anonymous]

OP here ... I spend at least 15 minutes and more of it is trying to make her in a better mood. We treat her well, including bonuses, health ins, days off, which is why it upsets me so. I don't expect her to come in "bubbles and buttetflies" and found that funny. I just want a simple hello. I feel bullied by my own nanny some days!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here ... I spend at least 15 minutes and more of it is trying to make her in a better mood. We treat her well, including bonuses, health ins, days off, which is why it upsets me so. I don't expect her to come in "bubbles and buttetflies" and found that funny. I just want a simple hello. I feel bullied by my own nanny some days!

I agree with you, OP, her attitude is unacceptable and unprofessional. Tell her that it has to stop - no other job would tolerate such crap. Give her examples of how you want to be treated in the morning.

Is your nanny young? She sounds very immature.

[Anonymous]

MB here - OP some people on here are insane. No you should not have to bend over backwards and give bonuses to make someone have a basic level of professional appropriateness. My work situation is horrid, many people are angry with my boss and yet we still manage to show up and be pleasant while we're all looking for other places to go. Nannies on here always want to be treated like professionals, which I agree they should, but if you want to be treated like one, act like it too which means putting on a pleasant face most days (everyone is entitled to a few shitty mornings here and there I would approach her and just say that you've noticed some tension in the am and is it related to anything that's happened?

[Anonymous]

I'm beginning to think nannies are the single most entitled group of people, possible only second to athletes and Brock Turners dad.

Nanny is a butch, she needs a raise! In the real world, of you know professionals, this kind of behavior leads to absolutely nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an nanny and I feel that OP has a valid complaint. Very few workplaces would put up with such nonsense. Tell your children's nanny to put on a smile and cut the immature crap. I went to work three days after my husband died and managed to smile all day -- your nanny can too.

PS I once quit a good nanny position because the MB was stunningly moody and generally a horrid grump in the morning. Life is too fricking short to have to deal with such childishness. "Act as if..." In this case tell your nanny to act as if she were a grown up.

I would not want someone caring for my children so cold as to feel so little grief at her husbsnd's death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here - OP some people on here are insane. No you should not have to bend over backwards and give bonuses to make someone have a basic level of professional appropriateness. My work situation is horrid, many people are angry with my boss and yet we still manage to show up and be pleasant while we're all looking for other places to go. Nannies on here always want to be treated like professionals, which I agree they should, but if you want to be treated like one, act like it too which means putting on a pleasant face most days (everyone is entitled to a few shitty mornings here and there I would approach her and just say that you've noticed some tension in the am and is it related to anything that's happened?

Comparing a nanny job and office job is apple's and oranges and you know this.