Please help me reframe my relationship with my MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally OP, I couldn't stand to work FOR someone like this.

Sure, it would be ideal if there were a way to magically have her words roll off of your shoulders. Unfortunately there is not.

So you will just have to accept that part of this job is dealing w/a lousy MomBoss. There are no if, ands or buts here.

If you can self-talk yourself out of feeling discouraged by her words, please share your strategy here.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smile and let it slide off you back, Op, if it is something minor. Bring her crap to her attention if it is something that you cannot get past.

Sometimes good nannies can be too devoted to their charges and accept more than anyone should have to accept.

+1 Please try not to let your love and devotion to your charge cloud your judgement on your working conditions. And make sure you get a glowing letter of recommendation from this rotten MB before you tell her you are leaving.

Somehow I think this MB incapable of writing a glowing recommendation about anyone.

[Anonymous]

I am having a hard time with my MB/DB as well and the heat of the summer doesn't make it any easier. After 18 months, if my MB/DB ever once said I did something right or well with their child or said thank you for anything, I would drop dead of shock. (I know they are happy with me since they met every demand at my annual review) And they are so fricking knee-jerk about everything (one read somewhere that Tide Free is bad for a child somehow so no more Tide). I love my charge and love being a nanny so it has been worthwhile to put up with their lack of appreciation but now that I am working a few weekend jobs I see how lovely other employers can be.

[Anonymous]

I am having the exact same situation with my MB - she is simply an unpleasant person. I know she has trouble with no one liking her at her work as well. She is simply the most self-centered person I have ever met. She treats her husband like crap too.

It is so hard to have to see her and talk to her everyday. I feel for you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Were you successful, OP? I have been following this thread because I am in much the same situation with a very self-centered and deluded MB. I am finding it harder and harder to go to work in the mornings.