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Anonymous wrote:Honest question, no snark intended: what would you prefer her response be instead of "I know."?

Same question to the second scenario. What are your expectations? What do you want her to say?

I would expect her to act interested in sharing information/stories about the thing the two of them have in common: her charge. That's not micromanaging; it's relating to another person who presumably shares your interest in something. A comment or two about what the child did over the weekend should be met with, at the very least, polite interest from someone who presumably cares about that child.

I agree. Our nanny would come in Monday morning asking about the kids weekend right away. I didn't have to tell her anything. She's now no longer our nanny (we do APs) and she calls quite often asking about the kids, wanting to visit.

That's the kind of person you want watching your kids.

This nanny, I am sure, is interested in her charge. What she isn't interested in is an MB who never gives her credit for that fact that the nanny is teaching him things during the week. I have much the same situation in that my MB will always tell me on Monday mornings what her parents taught her daughter to do over the weekend - and it is always something I have been working with her on for weeks.

Maybe the problem is you are so cold and uninterested in conversing with your employer that they don't know what you are supposedly working with their child on. I wouldn't believe your story if you were to claim you often mentioned working on X and Y and then the parents still can in on Mondays and said "Grandma taught DS X yesterday."

In other words try to be a better and more sociable employee and talk with your employer instead of running out the door exactly at 6pm and maybe you will have a better relationship and more enjoyable life.

PP here and I never "run out the door". We talk for about fifteen minutes while we do the transition. I simply do not "toot my own horn" -- but you're right, PP, I should. I should make a point of telling my employer every thing I have done well that day and everything that my charge learned through my teaching.

They have nanny cams so I guess I assumed that MB and DB were watching me with their child at times during the day.

Thank you for the advice.

Nanny cams are for if they come home one day and see their child all bruised and with a big hand mark on their face. They either watch the tapes are watch during the next day (if they don't just fire you there.) No one just watches you work.

And I don't see how it's tooting your own horn to say what you did and what her child did.

PP again and thank you for your advice. I will tell MB everything I do with their child and his reaction to it. "I really made Larlo laugh when I..." and "Larlo is getting so good at singing the songs I teach him in French".

No, my employers got internet nanny cams so they can see their child during the day. They frequently just watch us play.

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My MB is an extremely generous soul. She always mentions/compliments me on how well I do my job and recognizes that if my charges know something new - they learned it from me. She also never micromanages or harps on anything. She respects me.

She is also the boss of over twenty employees at her place of work and I have met a few of them - they all rave about her as a boss. She is simply a great manager of people.

I feel you could learn a lot from emulating my MB, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop telling her about what happens on weekends. She doesn't care clearly. She's off duty then.

I agree with this PP, just start looking for a new nanny and replace her, she is clearly not interested.

Um, if I'm off duty, no, I don't care what your child is doing. Do you want a rundown on every paper that went around your office while you were off for a day? Unless you micromanage, I wouldn't think so.

Yes, if something big happens (illness, milestone, injury), inform her. Otherwise? Sorry, nope, I don't really care how often the baby smiled at you over the weekend, she's been smiling for months.