Mother's Day

[Anonymous]

New poster here and yes, you come off as hysterical, but not hysterical hahaha.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny ,my boss always give something,spa,hair saloon,gift certificate,any thing,I do the same for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

So you don't care if your husband does nothing for you?

As soon as the kids are old enough to do something for me on their own then DH is off the hook. Same with me and Father's Day. All he does now is organize something special for me with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to get hung up on terminology but any reference to the nanny as "mother" makes it much harder for the actual mother. Just something to consider...

Why? Its a word. Are you threatened by the word Godmother? Stepmother? Den mother? Stop being so insecure. Your relationship is the your kid should not be so precarious and fragile that it is threatened by acknowledging the other women who also influence and care deeply for them. No one is saying they are the same, but to deny the fact that a nanny plays a mothering role to your kid is simply ridiculous. She does nearly everything that you do, and that doesn't change who you are to them.

Do you tell everyone who disagrees with you to calm down? How you can presume to infer my demeanor is beyond me.

I'm the PP and a nanny not an MB. Please calm down - I simply gave my opinion.

Not PP but you were clearly riled up enough to post your comment in the wrong spot! So yes - I add my name to the list of people asking your to calm down.

[Anonymous]

I don't do anything for our nanny on Mother's Day because she isn't a mother.

I do, however, look for other ways on other days to appreciate her.

[Anonymous]

To all of you saying your nanny is not a mother figure... What is a mother figure to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to get hung up on terminology but any reference to the nanny as "mother" makes it much harder for the actual mother. Just something to consider...

Why? Its a word. Are you threatened by the word Godmother? Stepmother? Den mother? Stop being so insecure. Your relationship is the your kid should not be so precarious and fragile that it is threatened by acknowledging the other women who also influence and care deeply for them. No one is saying they are the same, but to deny the fact that a nanny plays a mothering role to your kid is simply ridiculous. She does nearly everything that you do, and that doesn't change who you are to them.

I'm the PP and a nanny not an MB. Please calm down - I simply gave my opinion.

Nap here, but you yourself state that these are simply differing opinions so why must you keep directing people to calm down? I didn't see anything in the PP (or the other PP that you demanded "calm down" as well) to indicate the poster(s) were as hysterical and out-of-bounds as you are trying to portray them to be.
You can't just answer the question? I'll repeat it for the PP, since I'm curious too: Why would referring to someone close to your child as a mother figure make it "harder for the actual mother"? Huh? Only if you are so INSECURE, as PP noted, as to think someone else could take your place as mother, I suppose. Otherwise, how the heck does it "make it harder"? That's bizarre.

[Anonymous]

*NP here

[Anonymous]

Nothing.

I'm a single childless nanny. I would be weirded out if my employers got me a Mother's Day gift.

If she has children? Eh...it depends. Usually you give gifts to your mother/grandmother but I know some people give gifts to all mothers they are close to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all of you saying your nanny is not a mother figure... What is a mother figure to you?

She may be a parental figure, but a nanny isn't the mother (in most cases, I do know several nannies who might as well be).

I just think it complicates the relationship and the dynamic with the family.

[Anonymous]

No one is saying that your nanny is your child's mother....
Does your nanny play as a substitute mother when you are NOT THERE?? Yes and if she doesn't you need to find a new nanny... Or send your child to daycare... A nanny comes into the home and replaces the primary care giver and does most if not more than what the mother does in her time with the children. Am I saying every nanny should receive a gift on Mother's Day. Absolutely not!! But if this OP wants to give her child's caregiver a gift to signify she is a mother figure in her child's life then that shouldn't offend anyone else..

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and last year my boss gave me a gift for Mother's Day and a card.
She thanked me for being like a mom to her kids when she's not there and also taking care of her fur babies.
I thought it was absolutely sweet of her.
She gave me a set of plates and bowls in my favorite color.
We're close in general (friends on FB, talk about personal things, etc.)

I send flowers to my mom on Mother's Day, send "Happy Mother's Day" texts to my friends who are moms and always make something special with the kids I take care of, so they can surprise their mom with breakfast in bed and gifts

To each their own.

[Anonymous]

My nanny family gave me a card and a gift card to Target! I'm so happy I work for gracious people!