The parents never mentioned their four-year-old wasn't toilet trained.

[Anonymous]

I would let the parents deal with their big kid's poop pants, the way they do in preschool.

I once had a big kid walk over to me with poop pants, as if i'd wipe him up. I pointed him to the bathroom to clean himself.

After that he magically pooped in the toilet.

[Anonymous]

The better preschools demand that a child be independently toilet trained by three-years-old and so do the better nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The better preschools demand that a child be independently toilet trained by three-years-old and so do the better nannies.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The better preschools demand that a child be independently toilet trained by three-years-old and so do the better nannies.

Agree.

...Real nannies don't take shit... from parents OR a preschool child.

[Anonymous]

My first and last day on the job, I had an almost four-year-old SCREAM "I need a diaper to make poopy!!!" at the top of his lungs. The parents never warned me about this or even bother to tell me where his diapers were. I went running around like a mad woman searching for this kid's diapers (he wouldn't tell me where they were - he just kept screaming that he needed to "make poopy"). He's just gotten out of the bath so he was naked. I was frantic so I just picked him up and put him on the potty -- I hugged him and tried to calm him down when he finally had his bowel movement in his potty and was so proud of himself. I praised, praised, praised him!

The rest of the evening was great. When his parents got home I told them what happened. They admitted that they neglected to tell me where they had hidden the pull-ups (their bedroom closet) but acted very put-out and bugged that I'd gotten him to poop on the potty for the first time. I explained that I had no choice as he wouldn't poop on the floor (kids that age rarely will - the whole point of the pooping in diaper is to keep the stool close to their body) but they still acted all put out and pissy.

They called four times to hire me back and I told them no all four times. On the fourth time the mother even told me that he was pooping on the potty thanks to me and I still declined to work for them again.

Too bad -- he was a cute and smart kid. Just nasty parents.

[Anonymous]

This is why I always ask if the child is completely toilet trained in my book this means can wipe self and doesn't need reminders.
When I started off as a nanny I could safely assume that a child 3 and older would be completely toilet trained.
Things have changed drastically within the last 5 or 6 years the number of non toilet trained kids over age 3 has increased and the vast majority of these kids are developmentally and physically typical.

[Anonymous]

Where's that "Nannies as Parents" thread?

And "Parents as Grandparents"?
We just want to enjoy our child...
Nanny can do the unpleasant parenting work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first and last day on the job, I had an almost four-year-old SCREAM "I need a diaper to make poopy!!!" at the top of his lungs. The parents never warned me about this or even bother to tell me where his diapers were. I went running around like a mad woman searching for this kid's diapers (he wouldn't tell me where they were - he just kept screaming that he needed to "make poopy"). He's just gotten out of the bath so he was naked. I was frantic so I just picked him up and put him on the potty -- I hugged him and tried to calm him down when he finally had his bowel movement in his potty and was so proud of himself. I praised, praised, praised him!

The rest of the evening was great. When his parents got home I told them what happened. They admitted that they neglected to tell me where they had hidden the pull-ups (their bedroom closet) but acted very put-out and bugged that I'd gotten him to poop on the potty for the first time. I explained that I had no choice as he wouldn't poop on the floor (kids that age rarely will - the whole point of the pooping in diaper is to keep the stool close to their body) but they still acted all put out and pissy.

They called four times to hire me back and I told them no all four times. On the fourth time the mother even told me that he was pooping on the potty thanks to me and I still declined to work for them again.

Too bad -- he was a cute and smart kid. Just nasty parents.

Asshole parents. I would never work for them again either.