One year anniversary but cant afford a raise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.


What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.


Look. Another constructive and helpful response from a nasty nanny.


The ridiculous behavior of one a**hole is not representative of the character of an entire group of people.
Please stop with the "oh look, it's just one more horrible nanny."

Since the forums are anonymous, it's impossible to tell how many mean nannies there are here.

Or how many angry MBs there are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

[Anonymous]

So when you gave her days off, where was the share child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

Things that inflate each year:
-rent
-groceries
-property taxes
-gas
-utilities
-education
And so on and so forth

For example, my rent will increase about 5% this year, groceries are more expensive, utilities are always climbing, and the cost of school is going up. If my employer failed to give me at least a cost of living adjustment, I would definitely feel it in my budget, and would have little choice but to search for a better option. I might be able to make it work for 6 months with the promise that a raise was actually coming, but if my employer shrugged off the issue with a "heartfelt" card, they would lose their nanny, no matter how much I liked the job or how "heartfelt" their card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

Things that inflate each year:
-rent
-groceries
-property taxes
-gas
-utilities
-education
And so on and so forth

For example, my rent will increase about 5% this year, groceries are more expensive, utilities are always climbing, and the cost of school is going up. If my employer failed to give me at least a cost of living adjustment, I would definitely feel it in my budget, and would have little choice but to search for a better option. I might be able to make it work for 6 months with the promise that a raise was actually coming, but if my employer shrugged off the issue with a "heartfelt" card, they would lose their nanny, no matter how much I liked the job or how "heartfelt" their card.

Hate to tell you, but rent, taxes, groceries, and gas/utilities don't go up every year. They MAY go up, but others may go down just the same.

[Anonymous]

Us inflation rate has been under 5 % annually since about 1990. Way under. Currently closer to 1.6-1.7. You ladies are crazy if you think 5% COL raises are warranted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Us inflation rate has been under 5 % annually since about 1990. Way under. Currently closer to 1.6-1.7. You ladies are crazy if you think 5% COL raises are warranted.

No one said anything about 5% col raises, just that SOME adjustment is necessary, especially for low income earners who feel the pinch the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

Things that inflate each year:
-rent
-groceries
-property taxes
-gas
-utilities
-education
And so on and so forth

For example, my rent will increase about 5% this year, groceries are more expensive, utilities are always climbing, and the cost of school is going up. If my employer failed to give me at least a cost of living adjustment, I would definitely feel it in my budget, and would have little choice but to search for a better option. I might be able to make it work for 6 months with the promise that a raise was actually coming, but if my employer shrugged off the issue with a "heartfelt" card, they would lose their nanny, no matter how much I liked the job or how "heartfelt" their card.

Hate to tell you, but rent, taxes, groceries, and gas/utilities don't go up every year. They MAY go up, but others may go down just the same.

You have no proof to substantiate that claim. You're just blowing smoke. In this economy, in this area of the country, COL has increased steeply and steadily for the better part of a decade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

Things that inflate each year:
-rent
-groceries
-property taxes
-gas
-utilities
-education
And so on and so forth

For example, my rent will increase about 5% this year, groceries are more expensive, utilities are always climbing, and the cost of school is going up. If my employer failed to give me at least a cost of living adjustment, I would definitely feel it in my budget, and would have little choice but to search for a better option. I might be able to make it work for 6 months with the promise that a raise was actually coming, but if my employer shrugged off the issue with a "heartfelt" card, they would lose their nanny, no matter how much I liked the job or how "heartfelt" their card.

Hate to tell you, but rent, taxes, groceries, and gas/utilities don't go up every year. They MAY go up, but others may go down just the same.

You have no proof to substantiate that claim. You're just blowing smoke. In this economy, in this area of the country, COL has increased steeply and steadily for the better part of a decade.

My proof is rent stays the same as it always was, it doesn't fluctuate unless you move. What groceries are you claiming cost more year after year? If that was true then cheese would be $100 an ounce now. Property taxes are the same, they are a set %. Gas fluctuates, doesn't necessarily go up. It could be $0.50 average less this year than it was last year. Utilities stay generally consistent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

Her extra days off were paid and were of our choosing but I'd be happy if my employer chose to give me extra days off. We were in town, so we could have had her work, but I had off so I gave her off.

Its a share but she has only been with the other family for 2 months (the previous share family's child went to school), so they are not giving her a raise.

She told me that everyone loved the knives and that she used the bonus money to sponsor a needy child. She seemed very excited that she had the opportunity to do that. Lots of people are happy with their jobs and salaries and dont expect a raise every year. If she leaves us, we will find a new nanny at the rate we are paying now but I sincerely doubt she will do that.

At the risk of being labeled a mean nanny, if you believe the bolded is true ESPECIALLY of employees grossing under $50k/year, you are delusional. The price of everything goes up each year. Without at least a COL adjustment, paying the same salary this year as you paid last year is effectively a payCUT. You can tell yourself she's fine with that all you like. I hope it helps you sleep at night...until she quits.

NP here. I don't know what you are seeing that goes up every year. Things go up and down all the time. Most things get cheaper over time.

But anyways, the family I work for pays me a very fair salary from day one, I do not expect a raise. I started top of the market and that is the way I like it. I would rather be making the salary I deserve from the beginning than working for less for a couple years just so I could get a "raise".

Things that inflate each year:
-rent
-groceries
-property taxes
-gas
-utilities
-education
And so on and so forth

For example, my rent will increase about 5% this year, groceries are more expensive, utilities are always climbing, and the cost of school is going up. If my employer failed to give me at least a cost of living adjustment, I would definitely feel it in my budget, and would have little choice but to search for a better option. I might be able to make it work for 6 months with the promise that a raise was actually coming, but if my employer shrugged off the issue with a "heartfelt" card, they would lose their nanny, no matter how much I liked the job or how "heartfelt" their card.

Hate to tell you, but rent, taxes, groceries, and gas/utilities don't go up every year. They MAY go up, but others may go down just the same.

You have no proof to substantiate that claim. You're just blowing smoke. In this economy, in this area of the country, COL has increased steeply and steadily for the better part of a decade.

My proof is rent stays the same as it always was, it doesn't fluctuate unless you move. What groceries are you claiming cost more year after year? If that was true then cheese would be $100 an ounce now. Property taxes are the same, they are a set %. Gas fluctuates, doesn't necessarily go up. It could be $0.50 average less this year than it was last year. Utilities stay generally consistent.

Sweetheart, look up what the word proof means. I assure you that just because you say it, doesn't make it true. But we are clearly living seperate realities, so continue on with your delusions and stagnant salary

[Anonymous]

"You have no proof to substantiate that claim. You're just blowing smoke. In this economy, in this area of the country, COL has increased steeply and steadily for the better part of a decade."

You have no proof to substantiate your claim either.

While the COL here is definitely high, it has not increased steeply or steadily.

http://www.bls.gov/ro3/cpiwb.htm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You have no proof to substantiate that claim. You're just blowing smoke. In this economy, in this area of the country, COL has increased steeply and steadily for the better part of a decade."

You have no proof to substantiate your claim either.

While the COL here is definitely high, it has not increased steeply or steadily.

http://www.bls.gov/ro3/cpiwb.htm

The PP nanny above you is under the assumption that everything automatically jacks up 5% in cost every year. She has no idea how the world works.

[Anonymous]

My health insurance goes up every year,
sometimes twice a year.