One year anniversary but cant afford a raise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot afford a nanny or a 2nd child

Well, our 2nd child is actually our 4th child and our nanny is very happy with us. I am sure she'd appreciate a raise but we gave her the salary she requested, so we can afford her. I'd just like to show her how amazing I think she is.

NP here. The bolded is not so cut and dry as you'd like it to be. Apparently you could afford her last year, but you maxed out your budget to hire her. It's really up to her if you can still afford her this year. If this is the first year you've employed her she may stay on for another year without a raise, but if you're maxed out and start using terms like "can't afford" before her first freaking raise, don't expect her to stick around for more than another year. The reality is, if you can't afford a [deserved] raise after only a year, you in fact cannot afford this nanny.

[Anonymous]

I would try to figure out a way to give her at least a week's pay as a bonus for working for you for a year. As nannies we understand that you can't always afford to give us raises, but a little appreciation would be nice. My current NF gives me great reviews and praises me all the time, but gave me $40 on our one year with no hourly raise. Kind of made me feel like they like me, but not enough that they feel the urge to actually pay me a decent wage.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the nasty nannies on this forum, OP. Sadly, they are bullies that rule the roost and you can't trust anything they say. They are truly awful.

Raises are earned, and you should schedule your nanny for a performance review every year and have her detail her successes and you detail the goals. If you feel her successes have earned her a raise, you should offer her a raise of 3-5%. This is typical in the professional world. Yes, you can offer more, but only offer what you can afford. Most workers in most industries have not seen a raise in years. If she walks, she walks. She likely won't because for all their complaining, nannies know it's a saturated market and you can find a new nanny easier than they can find a new job.

All that said, if she is deserving of a raise and you can't afford one, you can offer a good bonus or some extra perks (PTO and or health insurance).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the nasty nannies on this forum, OP. Sadly, they are bullies that rule the roost and you can't trust anything they say. They are truly awful.

Raises are earned, and you should schedule your nanny for a performance review every year and have her detail her successes and you detail the goals. If you feel her successes have earned her a raise, you should offer her a raise of 3-5%. This is typical in the professional world. Yes, you can offer more, but only offer what you can afford. Most workers in most industries have not seen a raise in years. If she walks, she walks. She likely won't because for all their complaining, nannies know it's a saturated market and you can find a new nanny easier than they can find a new job.

All that said, if she is deserving of a raise and you can't afford one, you can offer a good bonus or some extra perks (PTO and or health insurance).

OP has not been bullied nor has anyone been nasty. This has been a constructive thread. As for market conditions, high performing nannies can command fair wages in any market. If the nanny has earned a raise then its unjust of you to hide behind a poor job market in order to justify denying her one. You accuse nannies of being bullies then post something like this... Smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You cannot afford a nanny or a 2nd child



Well, our 2nd child is actually our 4th child and our nanny is very happy with us. I am sure she'd appreciate a raise but we gave her the salary she requested, so we can afford her. I'd just like to show her how amazing I think she is.


Geez....sew it up already! 4 kids?!

You think this is nice and constructive, PP?

[Anonymous]

I expect to have her for 2 more years, until #4 is old enough to go to preschool. I should be able to give her at least one raise next year. She is welcome to look for another job, but in this area, most shares pay about the same rate, so its not like she would start out any higher. She just might have longer hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I expect to have her for 2 more years, until #4 is old enough to go to preschool. I should be able to give her at least one raise next year. She is welcome to look for another job, but in this area, most shares pay about the same rate, so its not like she would start out any higher. She just might have longer hours.

I suggest being honest about that, and as a show of good faith amend your contract to guarantee a performance based raise. If you are asking for her to be understanding then it would be nice if you can assure her that it won't be for nothing.

[Anonymous]

I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.

What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.


What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.

Look. Another constructive and helpful response from a nasty nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.


What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.

Look. Another constructive and helpful response from a nasty nanny.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.


What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.

Look. Another constructive and helpful response from a nasty nanny.

The ridiculous behavior of one a**hole is not representative of the character of an entire group of people.
Please stop with the "oh look, it's just one more horrible nanny."

[Anonymous]

I have a question to the OP

you say she gets plenty of time off and just had 4 extra days off. Or something like that (sorry on my phone and your post is on a prior page).

Is this her days off (days she asked off and paid?) Or just day off because your not using her?? And its unpaid?

Also you said it was a share? Is the other family giving her a raise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.

Of course she expressed gratitude, that is the polite way to respond. Were you upfront that your gifts were a substitute for a raise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I ended up giving her a heartfelt card, gift (set of knives she admired that I had bought for myself) and a cash bonus. She seemed happy and appreciative.


What else could a well mannered person have done? She is probably looking for a new job, I hope so. Maybe you should save up enough money to have your tubes tied.


Look. Another constructive and helpful response from a nasty nanny.


The ridiculous behavior of one a**hole is not representative of the character of an entire group of people.
Please stop with the "oh look, it's just one more horrible nanny."

Since the forums are anonymous, it's impossible to tell how many mean nannies there are here.