Doing MB and DB's laundry...

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Anonymous wrote:Infant nanny here and while I don't do the majority of MB or DBS laundry, if there's something in the mixed baskets in the laundry room I'll toss it in. It's mostly DBS things that end up in there, but on occasion MBs as well. It's such a non issue. I have several chunks of free time during the day (charges are infants) and it's literally 5 extra minutes of my time. Same with unloading the dishwasher or tossing some pasta on to boil or chopping vegetables. It's not rocket science (to me) and I'm of the same mind as the PPs former nanny. Anything *I* can do to ease up the evenings for MB and DB, well why not. I go home to a quiet house and an older child. They come home to a noisy house with 2 babies, after working all day. So I pitch in extra. I'm paid neither above market nor below. Middle of the road pay for above average nanny care.

You are like our nanny. I've never asked her to do my laundry, nor do I expect it, but on occasion she has thrown my laundry in when she was doing the kids. I've also never asked her to unload the dishwasher and usually try to do it myself but if she sees me doing it she usually tells me to leave it and she will do it. Because she goes above and beyond so often I am much more willing to be flexible with her if she needs something in return.

This. The more my nanny helps me, the more I appreciate it and the more indispensable she becomes. When her hours were shortened to the afternoons because kid started preschool, she asked for a big raise, so her weekly income would stay similar. At first I was annoyed, but basically she was so helpful in our lives that I just sucked it up and raised it. I don’t ask her to cook or do our laundry, but once she saw our adults laundry in the dryer when she went in to do the kid’s, and she took it out and folded it all. She noticed my seat covers for the kitchen chairs were stained with stuff my toddler dropped she washed those.?she washes the kid’s bedsheets once a week though I never asked her to. Things like that. I really appreciate her thoughtfulness and she feels like a caring mom at her daughter’s house out to help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Infant nanny here and while I don't do the majority of MB or DBS laundry, if there's something in the mixed baskets in the laundry room I'll toss it in. It's mostly DBS things that end up in there, but on occasion MBs as well. It's such a non issue. I have several chunks of free time during the day (charges are infants) and it's literally 5 extra minutes of my time. Same with unloading the dishwasher or tossing some pasta on to boil or chopping vegetables. It's not rocket science (to me) and I'm of the same mind as the PPs former nanny. Anything *I* can do to ease up the evenings for MB and DB, well why not. I go home to a quiet house and an older child. They come home to a noisy house with 2 babies, after working all day. So I pitch in extra. I'm paid neither above market nor below. Middle of the road pay for above average nanny care.

You are like our nanny. I've never asked her to do my laundry, nor do I expect it, but on occasion she has thrown my laundry in when she was doing the kids. I've also never asked her to unload the dishwasher and usually try to do it myself but if she sees me doing it she usually tells me to leave it and she will do it. Because she goes above and beyond so often I am much more willing to be flexible with her if she needs something in return.

This. The more my nanny helps me, the more I appreciate it and the more indispensable she becomes. When her hours were shortened to the afternoons because kid started preschool, she asked for a big raise, so her weekly income would stay similar. At first I was annoyed, but basically she was so helpful in our lives that I just sucked it up and raised it. I don’t ask her to cook or do our laundry, but once she saw our adults laundry in the dryer when she went in to do the kid’s, and she took it out and folded it all. She noticed my seat covers for the kitchen chairs were stained with stuff my toddler dropped she washed those.?she washes the kid’s bedsheets once a week though I never asked her to. Things like that. I really appreciate her thoughtfulness and she feels like a caring mom at her daughter’s house out to help.

Oh so when she wants to bring her kid when it’s snow days or teacher training days or like yesterday due to wind, personal days off, late start times due to her attending her kids stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Infant nanny here and while I don't do the majority of MB or DBS laundry, if there's something in the mixed baskets in the laundry room I'll toss it in. It's mostly DBS things that end up in there, but on occasion MBs as well. It's such a non issue. I have several chunks of free time during the day (charges are infants) and it's literally 5 extra minutes of my time. Same with unloading the dishwasher or tossing some pasta on to boil or chopping vegetables. It's not rocket science (to me) and I'm of the same mind as the PPs former nanny. Anything *I* can do to ease up the evenings for MB and DB, well why not. I go home to a quiet house and an older child. They come home to a noisy house with 2 babies, after working all day. So I pitch in extra. I'm paid neither above market nor below. Middle of the road pay for above average nanny care.

You are like our nanny. I've never asked her to do my laundry, nor do I expect it, but on occasion she has thrown my laundry in when she was doing the kids. I've also never asked her to unload the dishwasher and usually try to do it myself but if she sees me doing it she usually tells me to leave it and she will do it. Because she goes above and beyond so often I am much more willing to be flexible with her if she needs something in return.

This. The more my nanny helps me, the more I appreciate it and the more indispensable she becomes. When her hours were shortened to the afternoons because kid started preschool, she asked for a big raise, so her weekly income would stay similar. At first I was annoyed, but basically she was so helpful in our lives that I just sucked it up and raised it. I don’t ask her to cook or do our laundry, but once she saw our adults laundry in the dryer when she went in to do the kid’s, and she took it out and folded it all. She noticed my seat covers for the kitchen chairs were stained with stuff my toddler dropped she washed those.?she washes the kid’s bedsheets once a week though I never asked her to. Things like that. I really appreciate her thoughtfulness and she feels like a caring mom at her daughter’s house out to help.

Oh so when she wants to bring her kid when it’s snow days or teacher training days or like yesterday due to wind, personal days off, late start times due to her attending her kids stuff.

NP here, and I can't really accommodate late starts and personal days off unless I know months in advance. But my amazing nanny also watches other children, and I don't mind her bringing her other charges to my house or bringing all of the kids to her house if schedules overlap. She has a credit card to charge things. I don't care if she is having a rough day and lets the kids watch tv. Our previous nanny was more rigid with us, and we were more rigid with her in return.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The one family I'm working for this summer has me do the laundry for the whole family. It gets on my nerves because I'm there two days a week, and I'm literally the only one doing their laundry. If my shift ends on my last day of the week before a load is done in the dryer it stays there until I come back five days later. Once I had to take the kids to swim lessons for two weeks, and we stayed at the pool for the rest of the day after that, and there was two weeks' worth of laundry waiting for me upon return!

I do find it incredibly odd to be folding MB and DB's laundry, especially their underwear. It's definitely not something that I would feel comfortable having someone else do for me.

Your employers sound just like mine. I have been a nanny for 4 years and I have only ever done child related cleaning, laundry, ironing and cooking. I have never been asked to do anything more than this. My current employers leave their plates and pots from the previous night's dinner scattered on the counter next to the sink and they leave their dining table with food all over as well as under the table and they also leave their kitchen counters and stove dirty then expect me to have time to look after their children when they want me to be a housekeeper. They have guests staying for two weeks at present and these guests just eat and leave their dishes for me to wash. There are 4 adults in that house and none of them can manage to wash the dishes or clean the kitchen and dining room for themselves after meals. I find it utterly ridiculous. Last week on my arrival one day, the youngest child who is still in nappies had such a full nappy of wee it was drooping down and yet the female guest who was there with them didn't even bother to change the poor child. I was annoyed that she would just sit there watching her stupid TV shows and wait for me to come and change her.

So far I have been asked to clean the bathroom and iron the parents clothing. I did it on two occasions because I'm new to their family, but 2 times was more than enough. When I told employer I don't do ironing for parents under any circumstance she got upset. Last week both parents were late home 3 times out of 4 days but they didn't even call to inform me or even apologise for being late. Anyway I am writing them a very long letter informing them that I know how to do my job very well and if they doesn't like the fact that I will not clean her bathroom, sweep and mop their entire downstairs, clean her kitchen and dining room they can let me go. I really couldn't care less. I have never worked for employers like them as a nanny or otherwise. She thinks she has a built in housekeeper, but I have never been a housekeeper and have no desire to become one any time ever. They have 2 lovely children who I am perfectly happy to care for, but their parents are terrible employers. As people they are pleasant enough, but hopeless as employers as it's their very first time using child care services because the grandparents who usually care for the kids at this time did not come over on holiday this year so they advertised on child care sites.

As a guest in someone’s house it would never occur to me to take it upon myself to change a child’s diaper when there’s a nanny. First, it’s your job, second, I may not be authorized by the parents to see their child’s genitals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The one family I'm working for this summer has me do the laundry for the whole family. It gets on my nerves because I'm there two days a week, and I'm literally the only one doing their laundry. If my shift ends on my last day of the week before a load is done in the dryer it stays there until I come back five days later. Once I had to take the kids to swim lessons for two weeks, and we stayed at the pool for the rest of the day after that, and there was two weeks' worth of laundry waiting for me upon return!

I do find it incredibly odd to be folding MB and DB's laundry, especially their underwear. It's definitely not something that I would feel comfortable having someone else do for me.

Your employers sound just like mine. I have been a nanny for 4 years and I have only ever done child related cleaning, laundry, ironing and cooking. I have never been asked to do anything more than this. My current employers leave their plates and pots from the previous night's dinner scattered on the counter next to the sink and they leave their dining table with food all over as well as under the table and they also leave their kitchen counters and stove dirty then expect me to have time to look after their children when they want me to be a housekeeper. They have guests staying for two weeks at present and these guests just eat and leave their dishes for me to wash. There are 4 adults in that house and none of them can manage to wash the dishes or clean the kitchen and dining room for themselves after meals. I find it utterly ridiculous. Last week on my arrival one day, the youngest child who is still in nappies had such a full nappy of wee it was drooping down and yet the female guest who was there with them didn't even bother to change the poor child. I was annoyed that she would just sit there watching her stupid TV shows and wait for me to come and change her.

So far I have been asked to clean the bathroom and iron the parents clothing. I did it on two occasions because I'm new to their family, but 2 times was more than enough. When I told employer I don't do ironing for parents under any circumstance she got upset. Last week both parents were late home 3 times out of 4 days but they didn't even call to inform me or even apologise for being late. Anyway I am writing them a very long letter informing them that I know how to do my job very well and if they doesn't like the fact that I will not clean her bathroom, sweep and mop their entire downstairs, clean her kitchen and dining room they can let me go. I really couldn't care less. I have never worked for employers like them as a nanny or otherwise. She thinks she has a built in housekeeper, but I have never been a housekeeper and have no desire to become one any time ever. They have 2 lovely children who I am perfectly happy to care for, but their parents are terrible employers. As people they are pleasant enough, but hopeless as employers as it's their very first time using child care services because the grandparents who usually care for the kids at this time did not come over on holiday this year so they advertised on child care sites.

As a guest in someone’s house it would never occur to me to take it upon myself to change a child’s diaper when there’s a nanny. First, it’s your job, second, I may not be authorized by the parents to see their child’s genitals.

Hopefully, it WOULD occur to you to clean up your mess in the kitchen.