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[Anonymous]

I know one former au pair. The family became controlling and in the end was hardly allowed the house. Very bizarre case. Host family does not have right to control like that.

This au pair just about 'escaped'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know one former au pair. The family became controlling and in the end was hardly allowed the house. Very bizarre case. Host family does not have right to control like that.

This au pair just about 'escaped'

Au pairs need a safe place to report their experiences and get some real help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our current AP's "best friend" AP (she met her at a cluster meeting and now they are inseparable) is with a HF that has had 10 au pairs in the last 5 years. I was shocked by this. (Also, sidenote if this BFF AP was our AP, I would rematch. I don't like her. But I don't say anything to our AP because they are friends and it's not like the BFF AP ever watches my kids.)

I've never met the other HF but how the hell do you go through so many au pairs in such a short period? At some point, you have to realize that the AP isn't the issue... it has to be you or your kids. Right?

My understanding is that this HF is fairly wealthy and AP has a vehicle and all the trappings that she "should" and would expect in such an environment. I haven't dug deeper but it does beg some questions.

This IS shocking. You have to wonder how many of the 10 got sent home as failures? While the rich American family continues to switch au pairs like dirty socks.

These au pair agencies need to get some oversight.

The au pairs get sent home before they're allowed to speak with reporters and journalists who can tell their stories.

[Anonymous]

99% of the stories are not newsworthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:99% of the stories are not newsworthy.

So says an abusive parent or agency worker.

[Anonymous]

I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

Sure. But will it make the evening news? um...I think not.

Kids rude to au pair...details at 11!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

Thank you for sharing these experiences.

You should tell the au pairs to come here to tell what's happening to some of them, and how they're being treated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

Thank you for sharing these experiences.

You should tell the au pairs to come here to tell what's happening to some of them, and how they're being treated.

Because the 40 Facebook pages they already have to complain on are not enough???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

Thank you for sharing these experiences.

You should tell the au pairs to come here to tell what's happening to some of them, and how they're being treated.

Because the 40 Facebook pages they already have to complain on are not enough???

No. Sorry. Maybe you should shape up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I follow some au pair blogs and read au pair forums. Some au pairs post about issues with the family. Kids being rude and disrespectful, fighting. It gets bad when family is going thru divorce or the one parent is having an affair. One person found the neighbor creepy and was really so intimidated by this she started avoiding certain times of day and places. Host family took it to mean she was racist.
Then there is always the issue of sexual harassment. It happens.
This might not be what you want to hear.

Thank you for sharing these experiences.

You should tell the au pairs to come here to tell what's happening to some of them, and how they're being treated.

Because the 40 Facebook pages they already have to complain on are not enough???

What did she say about you in her 40 pages?
Can we anticipate "The Au Pair Diaries"
coming soon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know one former au pair. The family became controlling and in the end was hardly allowed the house. Very bizarre case. Host family does not have right to control like that.

This au pair just about 'escaped'

Many of these families are very disfunctional.

[Anonymous]

If I see kids disrespecting their au pair or nanny at my pool or wherever, I'll call them out on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I see kids disrespecting their au pair or nanny at my pool or wherever, I'll call them out on it.

Well good for you for getting involved in situations you know NOTHING about.... These disrepespecting kids could have special needs and even if they don't your "calling them out" only undermines the caregiver and makes it harder for them to do their job. Mind your own business!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I see kids disrespecting their au pair or nanny at my pool or wherever, I'll call them out on it.

Well good for you for getting involved in situations you know NOTHING about.... These disrepespecting kids could have special needs and even if they don't your "calling them out" only undermines the caregiver and makes it harder for them to do their job. Mind your own business!!!

Now who's surprised that the rate of special needs kids is off the charts?

Not saying this kind of "hands off" parenting style is the only reason, but I'm seeing it more and more. The above poster is a good example why.