Au Pair Hotline Help Number

[Anonymous]

Why isn't there a help line for au pairs? Their counselors are often too busy to help the girls who have been placed with troubled families. Then the girls get sent back to their home country as a failure.

That just isn't right.

[Anonymous]

Every agency has a 1-800 helpline for their au pairs. And every au pair has access to 911. Your constant posts on this topic are tiresome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every agency has a 1-800 helpline for their au pairs. And every au pair has access to 911. Your constant posts on this topic are tiresome.

Everyone can see you are not an au pair.
Perhaps you shouldn't stay up so late at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every agency has a 1-800 helpline for their au pairs. And every au pair has access to 911. Your constant posts on this topic are tiresome.

Everyone can see you are not an au pair.
Perhaps you shouldn't stay up so late at night.

Ummm 7:42 is the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every agency has a 1-800 helpline for their au pairs. And every au pair has access to 911. Your constant posts on this topic are tiresome.

Everyone can see you are not an au pair.
Perhaps you shouldn't stay up so late at night.

Ummm 7:42 is the morning.

Correct.

[Anonymous]

I truly do feel for au pairs who are placed with unscrupulous families. I have advocated for many of them and worked to help them find new placements. However, it can't be overemphasized that placement in another host family -- in ANY host family-- is a privilege and NOT a right. Having a match not work out and being sent back to an au pairs home country is, undoubtedly, a disappointment. But it is NOT a tragedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I truly do feel for au pairs who are placed with unscrupulous families. I have advocated for many of them and worked to help them find new placements. However, it can't be overemphasized that placement in another host family -- in ANY host family-- is a privilege and NOT a right. Having a match not work out and being sent back to an au pairs home country is, undoubtedly, a disappointment. But it is NOT a tragedy.

Why should a rematch be a privilege, if she had been placed with an abusive family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly do feel for au pairs who are placed with unscrupulous families. I have advocated for many of them and worked to help them find new placements. However, it can't be overemphasized that placement in another host family -- in ANY host family-- is a privilege and NOT a right. Having a match not work out and being sent back to an au pairs home country is, undoubtedly, a disappointment. But it is NOT a tragedy.

Why should a rematch be a privilege, if she had been placed with an abusive family?

Is it because of your conflict of interest?

Is this why so many young people from abroad
AND American families are getting SCAMMED?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I truly do feel for au pairs who are placed with unscrupulous families. I have advocated for many of them and worked to help them find new placements. However, it can't be overemphasized that placement in another host family -- in ANY host family-- is a privilege and NOT a right. Having a match not work out and being sent back to an au pairs home country is, undoubtedly, a disappointment. But it is NOT a tragedy.

Why should a rematch be a privilege, if she had been placed with an abusive family?

I think the words 'privilege' and 'right' are the wrong words here.

For an AP that has been placed/matched with the wrong family for whatever reason, they should be given the chance to rematch...yes. If the problem is theirs, they still are given the chance, unless it's an extreme reason (underaged drinking/accident/security/etc...).

I think if a rematch happens, the AP is worthy of a best-effort to find a new family. But that doesn't always happen. Same with families. They get a best-effort to find a new AP in-country, but sometimes have to go out of country.

[Anonymous]

Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

Timing and Supply/Demand.

Even if she was the best au pair and the family is the worst...there's no guarantee that the timing would work to find her a new family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

Because presumably if her family is so unscrupulous and so awful to her, finding a new family or being sent home are both better alternatives to staying in such an awful place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

Timing and Supply/Demand.

Even if she was the best au pair and the family is the worst...there's no guarantee that the timing would work to find her a new family.

That makes ZERO sense. Every agency keeps a list of people waiting for au pairs, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

Timing and Supply/Demand.

Even if she was the best au pair and the family is the worst...there's no guarantee that the timing would work to find her a new family.

That makes ZERO sense. Every agency keeps a list of people waiting for au pairs, no?

Let's be clear that not all Au Pairs are in rematch because they were abused by their families. If they were, the family should be kicked out of the program.
I have seen many rematches simply bc the Au Pair was ill-equiped for the job, and perhaps came the USA with different priorities. You are correct, the agency does have records of existing and prospective families, but some families like ours, would rather welcome a new Au Pair from abroad every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should a poor au pair be afraid to report to her agency an unscrupulous family, and risk being sent home as a failure, if the agency fails to rematch her within their two week time limit? Please explain.

Timing and Supply/Demand.

Even if she was the best au pair and the family is the worst...there's no guarantee that the timing would work to find her a new family.

That makes ZERO sense. Every agency keeps a list of people waiting for au pairs, no?

Let's be clear that not all Au Pairs are in rematch because they were abused by their families. If they were, the family should be kicked out of the program.
I have seen many rematches simply bc the Au Pair was ill-equiped for the job, and perhaps came the USA with different priorities. You are correct, the agency does have records of existing and prospective families, but some families like ours, would rather welcome a new Au Pair from abroad every year.

We are a family in rematch right now. Our AP had two car accidents in under two weeks, so we decided to part ways with her. Surprisingly, another family decided they wanted her and will have her drive for them (for which they had to sign a waiver with the agency, since she has two accidents on her record), so she is being rematched. But we are not thrilled with the candidates currently available in rematch so are looking out of country instead. HFs get access to the notes on why an AP is in rematch, and we get three versions: the HF's version, the AP's version, and the LCC's version. In some cases, all three tell the same story. In others, there are differing versions. HFs can read where the AP feels she has been wronged by a family and can also read where the LCC agrees (this happens more than some people on here imagine). HFs can also read where the previous HF found an AP ill-equipped to handle the AP job. For our family, we would rather not risk an AP whose write-up suggests that she felt overwhelmed by the challenges of day-to-day childcare. Our job is relatively easy and our hours relatively few (25), but it is a 5 day-a-week job, and someone who feels overwhelmed by children day in and day out isn't a good fit for us. So the AP who was overwhelmed by the job in her previous family may well be sent home because there is one fewer family (ours) available for in-country matching.