Nannies: STOP doing housework. You are a child-carer. |
...what about child related mess that happens during the day |
It does not make sense for me as ananny to pick up the room as the child is going to make mess 10 min after I left, so my MB told me not to bother |
I’ll make it blunt for you. The greatest gift a nanny can give a parent is love of the child. All your riches can’t ever fairly compensate a complete stranger who gives her love and loyalty to your child. Parents who think babies and toddlers don’t need love from a primary caregiver are grossly mistaken. Without love, a child will have future problems with relationships. Just look at all the 30 and 40 somethings still single, but didn’t want to be single. I can bet you anything that most of them had premature daycare, or revolving door nanny care. Their earliest attachments were repeatedly broken, starting when their parents left them with an unknown person, and in an unknown place (daycare) for 8-12 hours a day. So, if *you* love your child, you treat their caregiver like gold. every. single. day. And just remember, the more often that nanny door swings, the higher the bills you’ll pay for your child’s therapy appointments down the road. Young children require continuity of care. A top notch nanny is there to provide the best possible care of your child, not to accommodate your mood swings or insecurity issues. While the previous poster may be saving lives without any thanks, the successful nanny is literally saving your child’s emotional life, as long as you found a nanny who is consistent, competent, and mostly importantly, loves your child. It has therefore been said, some mothers treat the nanny better than their husbands. They understand the importance of maintaining their child’s bond with the primary care giver during the critical foundational years of life. |
That’s… a pretty big leap to say that the ONLY way to have a healthy marriage / successful life is to have had a nanny as a child. LOL. Got a cite? Research study? What about SAHMs? SAHDs? Just as an anecdote, my best friend is the most accomplished woman I know. Double Ivy undergrad and med school. Amazing marriage. Great kids. She was a daycare kid. |
No one said you have to have a nanny to be successful. Please check your compression.
Here’s what you do need: stability, competence, and love. |
PP, I think you need to check your comprehension. |