When Do You Start Being Taken For Granted?

[Anonymous]

Nannies: STOP doing housework. You are a child-carer.

[Anonymous]

...what about child related mess that happens during the day

[Anonymous]

It does not make sense for me as ananny to pick up the room as the child is going to make mess 10 min after I left, so my MB told me not to bother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

PP-- you don't just don't get it. Either because as a nanny you have never experienced it, or as MB/DB you are unaware that you are doing it. You would understand if this happened to you.

And this post isn't about being taken advantage of, it's about your employers loosing respect for you and treating you like part of the furniture. That you aren't a very special employee that is doing the most fantastic job helping you raise their children.

Thanks for clarifying. You are correct. None of these complaints are about being taken advantage of. They are about you not being thanked enough for being a "very special employee".

Well, welcome to the grownup world of work. Most of us are not thanked profusely for doing our jobs on a daily, or even weekly, basis. Many of us save lives and are never thanked. This is life.

Find some joy in the little successes of your day. Maybe MB doesn't remember to give you a gift card on your nannyversary, but I bet you get smiles and hugs from your charges. Try to appreciate that and complain less. Who knows, maybe you will be able to stay in a job for more than 2 years!

+1. The nannies on this thread need to grow up. They are disgruntled because they don't get birthday gifts from their boss? Because the boss expects them to do a great job without constant coddling? Because no one asks them how they are feeling on a regular basis? Woweee.

I’ll make it blunt for you.

The greatest gift a nanny can give a parent is love of the child. All your riches can’t ever fairly compensate a complete stranger who gives her love and loyalty to your child.

Parents who think babies and toddlers don’t need love from a primary caregiver are grossly mistaken. Without love, a child will have future problems with relationships. Just look at all the 30 and 40 somethings still single, but didn’t want to be single. I can bet you anything that most of them had premature daycare, or revolving door nanny care. Their earliest attachments were repeatedly broken, starting when their parents left them with an unknown person, and in an unknown place (daycare) for 8-12 hours a day.

So, if *you* love your child, you treat their caregiver like gold. every. single. day. And just remember, the more often that nanny door swings, the higher the bills you’ll pay for your child’s therapy appointments down the road. Young children require continuity of care. A top notch nanny is there to provide the best possible care of your child, not to accommodate your mood swings or insecurity issues.

While the previous poster may be saving lives without any thanks, the successful nanny is literally saving your child’s emotional life, as long as you found a nanny who is consistent, competent, and mostly importantly, loves your child. It has therefore been said, some mothers treat the nanny better than their husbands. They understand the importance of maintaining their child’s bond with the primary care giver during the critical foundational years of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

PP-- you don't just don't get it. Either because as a nanny you have never experienced it, or as MB/DB you are unaware that you are doing it. You would understand if this happened to you.

And this post isn't about being taken advantage of, it's about your employers loosing respect for you and treating you like part of the furniture. That you aren't a very special employee that is doing the most fantastic job helping you raise their children.

Thanks for clarifying. You are correct. None of these complaints are about being taken advantage of. They are about you not being thanked enough for being a "very special employee".

Well, welcome to the grownup world of work. Most of us are not thanked profusely for doing our jobs on a daily, or even weekly, basis. Many of us save lives and are never thanked. This is life.

Find some joy in the little successes of your day. Maybe MB doesn't remember to give you a gift card on your nannyversary, but I bet you get smiles and hugs from your charges. Try to appreciate that and complain less. Who knows, maybe you will be able to stay in a job for more than 2 years!

+1. The nannies on this thread need to grow up. They are disgruntled because they don't get birthday gifts from their boss? Because the boss expects them to do a great job without constant coddling? Because no one asks them how they are feeling on a regular basis? Woweee.

I’ll make it blunt for you.

The greatest gift a nanny can give a parent is love of the child. All your riches can’t ever fairly compensate a complete stranger who gives her love and loyalty to your child.

Parents who think babies and toddlers don’t need love from a primary caregiver are grossly mistaken. Without love, a child will have future problems with relationships. Just look at all the 30 and 40 somethings still single, but didn’t want to be single. I can bet you anything that most of them had premature daycare, or revolving door nanny care. Their earliest attachments were repeatedly broken, starting when their parents left them with an unknown person, and in an unknown place (daycare) for 8-12 hours a day.

So, if *you* love your child, you treat their caregiver like gold. every. single. day. And just remember, the more often that nanny door swings, the higher the bills you’ll pay for your child’s therapy appointments down the road. Young children require continuity of care. A top notch nanny is there to provide the best possible care of your child, not to accommodate your mood swings or insecurity issues.

While the previous poster may be saving lives without any thanks, the successful nanny is literally saving your child’s emotional life, as long as you found a nanny who is consistent, competent, and mostly importantly, loves your child. It has therefore been said, some mothers treat the nanny better than their husbands. They understand the importance of maintaining their child’s bond with the primary care giver during the critical foundational years of life.

That’s… a pretty big leap to say that the ONLY way to have a healthy marriage / successful life is to have had a nanny as a child. LOL. Got a cite? Research study? What about SAHMs? SAHDs?

Just as an anecdote, my best friend is the most accomplished woman I know. Double Ivy undergrad and med school. Amazing marriage. Great kids. She was a daycare kid.

[Anonymous]

No one said you have to have a nanny to be successful. Please check your compression.

Here’s what you do need:
stability, competence, and love.

[Anonymous]

PP, I think you need to check your comprehension.