is it time to fire our nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny has been with us for close to 3 years. She came along when DC1 was 4 months and now we also have DC2 who is one year old. We pay fairly. We give her about 4 weeks paid time of, pay her sick days which are unlimited. We pay for her metro as she does not drive. Gave her $2.5K bonus this year. Help her with some of her errands since she does not drive. She has been exceptional during the first year. She was pretty good during the second. Now she is becoming a pain for me. She is constantly unhappy and exerting psychological pressure on us. just to give an example, we gave her time of so she could rest up from 12/23 to 1/3. We did not have vacation ourselves and worked. We had to come up with a different arrangement for those days and she got paid by us. When we returned she fell sick and did not work half of this week. This is unfortunate. We paid her. Since I could not find back up child care I ended up staying at home and watching the kids. Being a software engineer I had to catch up at night on the work and be up in the night to make sure my deadlines are met. Today I had to go to work pretty early in the morning to make up for the missed time. So, we could not pick her up at the station as we normally do when the weather is bad. She was letting my DH know that she is unhappy about that because it is cold. She also said that she needs to leave earlier today because it is her pay day and it takes her a while to put money in the back. She of course wants to get paid for hours not worked. This means I have to leave the work early. I can always leave work early and say it was an emergency or something and then make up the work when everyone is sleeping but I am getting pretty pissed about the attitude.

Thoughts?

OMG OP - is your nanny my nanny? Ours has become a lazyt entitled b*tch and I am firing her as soon as a spot opens up at the local daycare(s). I am so fed up with the nanny making up stories why she cannot work every week that I am willing to take almost ANY daycare slot just to fire ours - and she has been with us for 2 years but this has escalated and escalated. Could it be cultural? Ours is from central america.

[Anonymous]

OP, you have a major credibility or a troll. I do not believe you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you have a major credibility or a troll. I do not believe you.

what's so hard to believe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that she is sharing her financial issues with you is very unprofessional.

Agreed. If you are truly paying her well, and for that kind of nice vaca time, then if I were in her shoes, I would never ask to leave early and I'd have to be verrry sick to have a sick day. I know that the parents I work for, depend on me to be there, otherwise their schedules, and jobs will be in jeopardy. And, I would never share my personal issues with them. Seems like she's crossing boundaries left and right. I would be pissed too.

[Anonymous]

Do you really not care about the person who cares for your child?
That person has a strong influence on your child