What do you think about my employers ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound very high-maintenance. I'm glad I don't have anyone in my life who would make such a big deal out of a gift.

This is NOT a gift !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to get over yourself OP. If you work for them then they should be paying you for all time you care for their kid(s). If you're not enforcing that you are making a mistake.

If you are friends with them then you will be complicating the working relationship.

You sound like a nightmare in the whole gift expectations/assumptions department. I don't get all the anger and entitlement. Let it go. It's just a freaking baby sling - they meant well, you don't want it, you've beaten this horse enough.

I can imagine their side of this and I bet it isn't good either. They're probably looking for alternate childcare options at this point.

OP here.

They're not looking for alternate childcare, we are signing our contract next week.
I don't know any homedaycare in my area that use slings so they can look if they want, nobody will carry the baby like the mom does.
I think it's great she does it, it's her baby and she does what she pleases.
It's not my baby and I don't want the babies to get use to the arms and then cry when you can't carry them.

If I follow some advice here, maybe I should buy some alcohol for my non drinking friend for xmas, after all I love champagne !
I hope she won't be offended !!

[Anonymous]

I think you are really going to have to have a conversation about the baby-wearing issue. It sounds like it might be important to the parents, and it sounds like you are adamantly opposed to it for some reason I do not quite understand. You need to have a friendly chat and make sure you end up on the same page.

Not that it matters, but personally I don't see if as a huge deal either way -- no need to carry a baby around ALL day, as a few diehards do, but at the same time, your assertion that it makes for a baby for refuses to ever be put down has not been my experience. One can use it part of the time to carry/comfort a kid and not make them dependent on it.

Anyway, it's better to open up a respectful conversation now.

BTW, if you DO decide to do this, slings and wraps can be a little hard for people to use if they aren't "into" or used to them. I used a structured carrier (lots of buckles, more fitting to my non-artistic personality). Worked great. Really wonderful for keeping your hands free or taking walks in places where a stroller is a liability.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I respect their view about the baby-wearing and understand they like to do it.
Their kid isn't the only one in my care and I can't carry everybody more than needed.

I will talk to them soon, thanks for your input.