Live-in nanny - babysitting for other families?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, that's a very useful reply. Came seeking actual, serious, helpful responses.

Not the Pp, but it is true. Maybe she just needs a break from your kids. And that isn't a bad thing at all. It doesn't mean your kids are terrible kids or that they misbehave, it just means that maybe she needs a change of scenery plus the additional income. I think all of us get fed up at our job at some point or another and if our boss asked us to work overtime, we'd kind of mumble under our breaths about it.

Are the kids she is babysitting for different ages or genders? Or it could be that she's a little burned out and knows that if she babysits other kids, she can do some of the activities that she does with your kids, and they won't be bored of it because it will be new.

I am the first PP who suggested she might need a break from your kids. It was it meant to be snarky or imply that your kids are bad in some way. I need a break even from people that I really like. It's about taking a break so you can be refreshed. Also, what is expected of her as a casual babysitter for another family is probably very different than what you would expect from her on date night.

[Anonymous]

Even if she is a live-in, you do not own her. She is free to do whatever she wishes on her free time. Frankly, OP, it is obvious why she would wish to be away from you.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she makes more money babysitting for the other family then she would with OT. Assuming she doesn't make the typical nanny wage since she gets room and board than babysitting outside her primary job might mean extra income. Also, I will turn down my full time employers for weekend babysitting jobs so I can babysit for another fsmily I really like. I don't see my pt families often so I'm normally excited to play with the kids, they also pay me more.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the needing a break replies. She works for you full time, lives with you too...who wouldn't need a change of venue after a while? OP you need to have a few people you can call so your nanny can have a break. It's hard to live and work in the same place and after a while the walls start to close in I think.

[Anonymous]

OP, how far in advance are you asking her about babysitting?