It is different because it would be reasonable to assume that the parents are paying attention to actual gifts and would know that it's in the house. You can't make the same assumption about party favors for a drop-off party. If it were me, I probably would have mentioned it in person: "I was thinking about the favors for Aiden's party. You know, his school has one of those over-the-top zero-tolerance policies about toy weapons. Should we mention to the parents that the favor is a toy knife? I'd hate for some kid to stick it in his backpack and end up expelled or something!" |
| If I was a mom of a kid attending this party, I would be PISSED! We don't do knives or weapons of any kind so I would be furious that anybody would even think of giving this to my kid. |
There's no need to get all riled up. Your way is not the way for everyone on Earth. Plenty of people do allow knives and other weapons and their kids grow up to be perfectly fine, well-adjusted adults. If your kid got that, just re-gift it or throw it out. You don't have to get into a whole big thing about it. |
+1. Just tell your kid why and toss it out. Your house, your rules. |