Need perspective: am I being raciest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

First off, I owe no one an apology for expressing my opinion on the subject or my impression of OP. Second, I never called op racist nor did I make such rude comment as you stated. She asked if she was racist for feeling that way which I gave her my opinion which was no however her feelings show a deeper issue with stereotypes. Your narrow minded example of what you deem to be diverse is actually a real issue you need to address because it reflects the stereotypes I was trying to explain. Are all people from NH culturally repressed, of course not. Have I come across many who have never had the opportunity to form friendships with people outside their own race because they never had the opportunity, absolutely. Does that make them racist, absolutely not. However, it would explain why they would be wary of meeting different ethic groups and would have weird ideas of how those groups function. Most likely from stereotypes they learned through family or media. My suggestion of treating this particular family just like any other family is appropriate because their skin tone doesn't reflect who they are as people and cannot tell you their culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

First off, I owe no one an apology for expressing my opinion on the subject or my impression of OP. Second, I never called op racist nor did I make such rude comment as you stated. She asked if she was racist for feeling that way which I gave her my opinion which was no however her feelings show a deeper issue with stereotypes. Your narrow minded example of what you deem to be diverse is actually a real issue you need to address because it reflects the stereotypes I was trying to explain. Are all people from NH culturally repressed, of course not. Have I come across many who have never had the opportunity to form friendships with people outside their own race because they never had the opportunity, absolutely. Does that make them racist, absolutely not. However, it would explain why they would be wary of meeting different ethic groups and would have weird ideas of how those groups function. Most likely from stereotypes they learned through family or media. My suggestion of treating this particular family just like any other family is appropriate because their skin tone doesn't reflect who they are as people and cannot tell you their culture.

Hello, African-American is a culture.

[Anonymous]

OP - As long as they look like they can afford a nanny. For example, if they live in the ghetto in a small apartment than I'd probably pass them up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - As long as they look like they can afford a nanny. For example, if they live in the ghetto in a small apartment than I'd probably pass them up.

Are you kidding me with this comment? What an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

First off, I owe no one an apology for expressing my opinion on the subject or my impression of OP. Second, I never called op racist nor did I make such rude comment as you stated. She asked if she was racist for feeling that way which I gave her my opinion which was no however her feelings show a deeper issue with stereotypes. Your narrow minded example of what you deem to be diverse is actually a real issue you need to address because it reflects the stereotypes I was trying to explain. Are all people from NH culturally repressed, of course not. Have I come across many who have never had the opportunity to form friendships with people outside their own race because they never had the opportunity, absolutely. Does that make them racist, absolutely not. However, it would explain why they would be wary of meeting different ethic groups and would have weird ideas of how those groups function. Most likely from stereotypes they learned through family or media. My suggestion of treating this particular family just like any other family is appropriate because their skin tone doesn't reflect who they are as people and cannot tell you their culture.

Hello, African-American is a culture.

Is AA a culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

First off, I owe no one an apology for expressing my opinion on the subject or my impression of OP. Second, I never called op racist nor did I make such rude comment as you stated. She asked if she was racist for feeling that way which I gave her my opinion which was no however her feelings show a deeper issue with stereotypes. Your narrow minded example of what you deem to be diverse is actually a real issue you need to address because it reflects the stereotypes I was trying to explain. Are all people from NH culturally repressed, of course not. Have I come across many who have never had the opportunity to form friendships with people outside their own race because they never had the opportunity, absolutely. Does that make them racist, absolutely not. However, it would explain why they would be wary of meeting different ethic groups and would have weird ideas of how those groups function. Most likely from stereotypes they learned through family or media. My suggestion of treating this particular family just like any other family is appropriate because their skin tone doesn't reflect who they are as people and cannot tell you their culture.

If you were talking about "skin tone", you'd say brown, black, olive, etc., not "African American". Your thinking is severely convoluted, to say the least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.



I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.


I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

"We" don't owe her an apology, but you might, for your nonsensical post.

Your indicator of diversity is food, and apparently, when you want a certain food (diverse experience), you go to a specific restaurant. If you don't want to experience a different culture because it might be totally new, you skip the restaurant. Oh my, what a superficial view of diversity and culture. But you don't stop there.

I'm not sure how you make the connection between your terrible restaurant analogy and the OP's question, but somehow you seem to think that respecting diversity means respecting groups that are not your favorites. I guess you mean tolerating the existence of restaurants you don't want to visit, because OP asked about interviewing with an AA family, not dining out. Unless you mean that you think respecting diversity means of groups that aren't your favorite means tolerating the existence of AA families. Either way, you sound as least as ignorant as the OP and your post is ridiculous.

OP lives in 2013, not 1950. There are Black people in NH, and they're families just like any other family. There are gay families in NH, and they are families like any other family. There are single parent families in NH and they are families like any other family.

Grow up, OP, and live in the glorious future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.



I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.


I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

"We" don't owe her an apology, but you might, for your nonsensical post.

Your indicator of diversity is food, and apparently, when you want a certain food (diverse experience), you go to a specific restaurant. If you don't want to experience a different culture because it might be totally new, you skip the restaurant. Oh my, what a superficial view of diversity and culture. But you don't stop there.

I'm not sure how you make the connection between your terrible restaurant analogy and the OP's question, but somehow you seem to think that respecting diversity means respecting groups that are not your favorites. I guess you mean tolerating the existence of restaurants you don't want to visit, because OP asked about interviewing with an AA family, not dining out. Unless you mean that you think respecting diversity means of groups that aren't your favorite means tolerating the existence of AA families. Either way, you sound as least as ignorant as the OP and your post is ridiculous.

OP lives in 2013, not 1950. There are Black people in NH, and they're families just like any other family. There are gay families in NH, and they are families like any other family. There are single parent families in NH and they are families like any other family.

Grow up, OP, and live in the glorious future.

You "guess" wrong. But don't worry about it. Lot's of people guess wrong. They don't need to know much of anything, because "guessing" is easier for them.

[Anonymous]

Well, if a reader has to guess, your post is nonsensical and worthless, especially since you didn't bother to actually address the points. If "lot's" of people guess wrong, you are inarticulate and ignorant.

Thanks for clearing up that you are indeed as exactly as I guessed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, if a reader has to guess, your post is nonsensical and worthless, especially since you didn't bother to actually address the points. If "lot's" of people guess wrong, you are inarticulate and ignorant.

Thanks for clearing up that you are indeed as exactly as I guessed.

You are indeed articulate and brilliant, as we can clearly see.

[Anonymous]

If they look like they are professional and high end than yes. However, if they have several kids and live in the ghetto and are trying to offer $4/hour than bolt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for acknowledging diversity, 9:02. Everyone is not "just like every other family". Step out of your little hole and smell the roses.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at here? I'm from an extremely diverse community with friends of all races, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. In my eyes a family is one or more individuals raising a child/ren together. While they may have different religions, parenting philosophies or traditions none of that is a reflection of the color of their skin. Those are typically cultural and just because a certain race may have more of a cultural connection with certain traditions doesn't mean they all do. OP being nervous about interviewing with this family solely because they are African American is most likely due to some preconceived notion of how that family will act/be based on their race alone. Rather than just seeing them as any other family who might have similar or different traditions and parenting philosophies as her own. Somehow they are dramatically different from a white family because they are black? Not every white family is the same, why do black, Hispanic or Asian families have to be based on race and stereotypes alone? That is just ignorant.

I'm calling you out on your denial of diversity and it's general characteristics. For instance, when I want Italian, Greek or Ethiopian food, I know where to go. Sure, the Italian place can certainly surprise me one day with wontons on the menu, but not likely. Sometimes I know what I want, and other times I'll be adventurous and try something totally new.
Now, will I move to Ethiopia for a year without knowing if I like Ethiopian cuisine? No. I'm past that stage in my life when I might have considered that.
Part of respecting diversity, is respecting all people, not just your favorite groups. The OP from NH has every right to ask her questions here without being made to feel "racist" and stupid.
Ever been to NH? I have and there isn't a lot of "diversity" there. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am to have been raised among many different cultures and skin colors. I think we owe her an apology here.

First off, I owe no one an apology for expressing my opinion on the subject or my impression of OP. Second, I never called op racist nor did I make such rude comment as you stated. She asked if she was racist for feeling that way which I gave her my opinion which was no however her feelings show a deeper issue with stereotypes. Your narrow minded example of what you deem to be diverse is actually a real issue you need to address because it reflects the stereotypes I was trying to explain. Are all people from NH culturally repressed, of course not. Have I come across many who have never had the opportunity to form friendships with people outside their own race because they never had the opportunity, absolutely. Does that make them racist, absolutely not. However, it would explain why they would be wary of meeting different ethic groups and would have weird ideas of how those groups function. Most likely from stereotypes they learned through family or media. My suggestion of treating this particular family just like any other family is appropriate because their skin tone doesn't reflect who they are as people and cannot tell you their culture.

If you were talking about "skin tone", you'd say b
rown, black, olive, etc., not "African American". Your thinking is severely convoluted, to say the least.

Why is this so confusing?