My Nanny's Same Sex Wedding

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Don't let yours kids be on this thing,this is the most stupid thing I can read on this page,

[Anonymous]

I'd be thrilled for my nanny, excited to attend, and honored that she wanted to include my kids. I would go w/ bells on.

[Anonymous]

Some of the nannies on here are Bridezillas.

1. Being in a wedding is not someone everyone enjoys and many people decline requests for their kids to be in them. One of my cousins really wanted 2 year twin girls in their wedding. The wedding was scheduled after their bedtime in area where the timezone change would have made it even worse. She threw an overdramatic fit to anyone who would listen when my other the cousin, the mom, tried to explain that 2 extremely overtired toddlers in her wedding would be a disaster. This is a more extreme example but whether you or gay or straight when you extend an invitation for kids to participate in a wedding it is only an invitation not an obligation. If the parents decline, you are gracious not offended about it!

2. You never EXPECT your employers or employees to travel to your wedding. You can invite them but again its only an invitation not an obligation.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the nannies on here are Bridezillas.

1. Being in a wedding is not someone everyone enjoys and many people decline requests for their kids to be in them. One of my cousins really wanted 2 year twin girls in their wedding. The wedding was scheduled after their bedtime in area where the timezone change would have made it even worse. She threw an overdramatic fit to anyone who would listen when my other the cousin, the mom, tried to explain that 2 extremely overtired toddlers in her wedding would be a disaster. This is a more extreme example but whether you or gay or straight when you extend an invitation for kids to participate in a wedding it is only an invitation not an obligation. If the parents decline, you are gracious not offended about it!

2. You never EXPECT your employers or employees to travel to your wedding. You can invite them but again its only an invitation not an obligation.

You do understand that the only reason stated for not attending or being in this wedding was the sexual orientation of the participants, right?

Being offended by such outdated bigotry is not the same as being a bridezilla who expects the world to stop on her special day.

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No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be thrilled for my nanny, excited to attend, and honored that she wanted to include my kids. I would go w/ bells on.

Exactly!

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

Not to mention, in this case, if the ONLY reason the family would not attend or be apart of the wedding is because it is a same sex wedding, than that is plainly and simply bigotry and yes, I would quit immediately.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

Not to mention, in this case, if the ONLY reason the family would not attend or be apart of the wedding is because it is a same sex wedding, than that is plainly and simply bigotry and yes, I would quit immediately.

You must have been a bridezilla or will be a future one if you're going to bitch about your employers dropping everything to come to your wedding on short notice. You sound absolutely like an entailed brat.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

Not to mention, in this case, if the ONLY reason the family would not attend or be apart of the wedding is because it is a same sex wedding, than that is plainly and simply bigotry and yes, I would quit immediately.

You must have been a bridezilla or will be a future one if you're going to bitch about your employers dropping everything to come to your wedding on short notice. You sound absolutely like an entailed brat.

What aren't you understanding? Its the REASON they don't want to attend that is offensive, not the simple fact that they don't want to attend. If I invited my bosses to my wedding, and they declined, no problem. If they get huffy they didn't know I was gay, have an issue with attending a same-sex wedding, etc. that I'd have a problem with. They are of course entitled to feel however they want, but it would be crystal clear after that, that this family is not a good fit for me.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Then your gay friends and relatives are tip toeing around you because they know you are uncomfortable and prejudiced. HAHA "interactions with same sex couples"...get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

Not to mention, in this case, if the ONLY reason the family would not attend or be apart of the wedding is because it is a same sex wedding, than that is plainly and simply bigotry and yes, I would quit immediately.

You must have been a bridezilla or will be a future one if you're going to bitch about your employers dropping everything to come to your wedding on short notice. You sound absolutely like an entailed brat.

What aren't you understanding? Its the REASON they don't want to attend that is offensive, not the simple fact that they don't want to attend. If I invited my bosses to my wedding, and they declined, no problem. If they get huffy they didn't know I was gay, have an issue with attending a same-sex wedding, etc. that I'd have a problem with. They are of course entitled to feel however they want, but it would be crystal clear after that, that this family is not a good fit for me.

PP-It is probably best not to argue with this person on the subject, the real reason for OP not wanting to attend is clear, for some reason, this person is hell bent on making it the nanny's fault (not to mention it's hard to take anyone seriously who can't bother to spell check their insults). I hope OP's nanny takes this for what it is, and is sufficiently hurt...and then moves on from this family who, despite her 9 years of service, does not value her beyond her position as "the help".

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Anonymous wrote:No several nannies have gone on about how they would turn up their noses and quit if their employers and kids did not agree to drop everything and be in their weddings. They would have no idea what the reason was nor should it really matter.

We have several gay relatives and friends. They are far more understanding that you don't just announce something and expect everyone not to take time to adjust if they haven't had many interactions with same sex couples.

Just putting it out there, you sound like a jerk. Yes, I would quit. Its called being caring and loving to a nanny who loves your family.

Oh no, you do not get it both ways. Many nannies complain about their bosses trying to get in their personal lives and then get offended when they don't want to come to your wedding.

Im not one of those nannies, I have always viewed nannying as a very personal job and have known my nanny families on a very personal level...

Not to mention, in this case, if the ONLY reason the family would not attend or be apart of the wedding is because it is a same sex wedding, than that is plainly and simply bigotry and yes, I would quit immediately.

You must have been a bridezilla or will be a future one if you're going to bitch about your employers dropping everything to come to your wedding on short notice. You sound absolutely like an entailed brat.

What aren't you understanding? Its the REASON they don't want to attend that is offensive, not the simple fact that they don't want to attend. If I invited my bosses to my wedding, and they declined, no problem. If they get huffy they didn't know I was gay, have an issue with attending a same-sex wedding, etc. that I'd have a problem with. They are of course entitled to feel however they want, but it would be crystal clear after that, that this family is not a good fit for me.

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