Do I have ANY say?!
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Anonymous
| I didn't shoot anything down. Those suggestions are great but getting MB to agree is a different story. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry 10:27! I definitely meant the poster before you. |
Anonymous
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The children are not brats for wanting to be outside all day at the pool in the summer. The parents are not bad for hiring a nanny to take them to the pool. The nanny is not bad for not enjoying being at the pool all the day.
This job is the wrong fit for this nanny. The kids and parents need a nanny that not only will give them the summer experience that they are hiring someone to provide but one who enjoys it. The nanny needs a job that doesn't require her to be outside all day with kids. OP your choices really are to search for a job with different needs or just deal with the heat by getting into the water. I suspect that its not just the heat but that you are bored being at the pool all day. Its very unfair of you to try to curtail the kid's activities because you are bored. Either do the job you were hired to do or find one that is a better fit. |
Anonymous
| OP I'm very interested to see this thread. I guess I must defer to majority opinion, but I'm very surprised; I've never had a job where the parents told me what I had to do with the kids (short of appointments, lessons, etc.) but rather they'd tell me what the kids might enjoy, or of an activity they heard was going on, and leave it to me to decide how to structure the day. So this is a new issue for me and I would probably feel the same way you do (being in the sun all day, even with a hat, really takes it out of me). I would hope that if you talked to your MB and said basically that, and that you didn't mind staying at the pool all day a couple of times a week but would she be okay if you took the kids to do ______ on the other days, I would HOPE she'd respect you as a person who also has human needs and preferences, and would agree. 7 hours at the pool, especially if it's every day or almost every day, is over the top in my opinion. Even when I take the kids to the beach, which is a big production and a fairly long journey, we don't stay more than three hours! |
Anonymous
Listen OP, I would completely understand how you don't want to be at a pool everyday but I would point out to you that this isn't the job for you. With younger kids, you are exactly right. They didn't have prefaces and developmentally were not picking their own activities. The nanny would do this. Older kids do have preferences and the nanny doesn't have the luxury of setting the agenda. The same thing happens with playmates. When the kids are younger, the nanny picks the play dates and its fine if these are with her friends and their charges. When the kids are older they have their own friends and its not appropriate for the nanny to be picking the play dates based on what is more enjoyable to her. This year we let the nanny go because the kids want to be in sports camps and we have a afternoon very athletic teenager/college student watching them for a few hours. They are outside all day and loving it. There is no way our former nanny could keep up with this. She offered to do it but she would have been miserable. The kids love, love the more active part time nanny. She wouldn't have been the right fit for when they were infants but she's great for their needs now. |
Anonymous
| Heaven forbid kids should be out playing in the pool a few hours a day. We did it as kids and while we weren't at the pool everyday, we did spend a lot of time at the pool or at the lake. And often, we would spend outside from morning until we were called home at night. Yes, even in the heat. We would go inside when we were thirsty or hungry, take a break, and then be back outside. |
Anonymous
In this case though, it's the MB telling the nanny that the kids have two swim lessons during the day, but it's the KIDS are want to stay at the pool and the MB is telling the nanny she needs to do what the kids want to do. I don't see an issue with that. And I agree with others that this is what this family is going to do in the summer. If the nanny can't or won't stay at the pool all day, then she's simply not a good match for this particular family. |
Anonymous
| No one should be able to endanger the health of someone else and making someone stay in sun five-plus hours everyday is dangerous. No amount of sun screen can protect this much. OP, you areooking at skin cancer down the road. |
Anonymous
| I am 100% sure that any doctor knowledgeable about skin cancer would not recommend being out in the blazing sun for this many hours everyday, especially during the highest risk hours between 10am - 3pm. I thought most people already know this. |
Anonymous
Why can't she wear long sleeves and a hat and/or sit under an umbrella? I don't think turning this into a safety issue is the best solution. As many posters have said, if the nanny explains to the mom that she would prefer not to be in the sun this long and presents a compromise that the kids would be happy with too, then that will have more weight than the nanny complaining that she's hot and the mom is giving her skin cancer and she won't be outside for longer than 2 hours. |
Anonymous
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Swimming lessons don't go for three and a half hours, OP. nice try, though.
No, you don't get a say here. Quit and find a job more suited to your needs. |
Anonymous
And the poor parent gets the privilege of baking in the sun herself. She should be a happy camper, don't you think? |
Anonymous
| Ha, you're funny, 15:44. Except, of course, if you didn't get the post. |
Anonymous
Yes they do actually, both of my kids (7&9) are on summer swim team at our local pool and have swim 8:30am-12:30 then again in the evenings most days.... that's the swim world... |
Anonymous
| Get a hat, a book and find some shade. Or, as PP have suggested, another job. |