How do you deal with a husband whose getting tired of nanny's time off?

[Anonymous]

If you keep failing to hire decent help to raise your child, at some point you need to give it up, and do it yourself, no? Stable care is essential, not optional. At some point, enough is enough.

It's your child here, remember?

There is nothing in OP's post to indicate that she "keeps failing" to hire decent help. For all you know, this may be the first nanny she has ever let go.

I get your agenda. You are anti nanny. You think working mothers should quit and SAH. That's fine. But this "revolving nanny door" you use to justify your agenda is a straw man. It doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you keep failing to hire decent help to raise your child, at some point you need to give it up, and do it yourself, no? Stable care is essential, not optional. At some point, enough is enough.

It's your child here, remember?

There is nothing in OP's post to indicate that she "keeps failing" to hire decent help. For all you know, this may be the first nanny she has ever let go.

I get your agenda. You are anti nanny. You think working mothers should quit and SAH. That's fine. But this "revolving nanny door" you use to justify your agenda is a straw man. It doesn't exist.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who is appalled at the caliber of people, parents are entrusting their children with. It's horrifying.

And I am continually appalled at your failure to use commas appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
People who are well-compensated for their work usually perform well on the job and are typically stable.

People who are paid poorly are notoriously
"HIGH TURNOVER".

What do you expect?

(Hint: You get what you pay for.)

Sorry, but this just isn't true, especially in the nanny world. Some of the hardest working, most reliable nannies are the illegal immigrants getting paid a pittance. Besides, it may be true that legal workers in below-market jobs tend not to stick around long, but this OP does not have a turnover problem. She has a reliability problem.

OP, some nannies just don't understand what it means to have a full time job. They put their personal lives first and call out for any number of reasons--some good, some bad, most avoidable with proper planning and a true committment to the job. The first nanny I ever hired was like that, and it was definitely not a function of low pay (we paid at least market and $2 more per hour than her initial request). It was a function of her honest failure to understand the difference between a professional nanny position and a casual babysitting gig with a lot of hours. This kind of mentality is especially common among young women who have never had a full time professional job.

You need to do two things: sit her down and explain why her absences are a hardship for you, and tell her that her time off needs to be limited to the paid time off that you provide per her contract. You might also consider limiting sick time to actual illness rather than doctor's appointments. I've worked for at least two companies with that policy. Of course, some employees feel compelled to use all their sick time, so the downside of that policy is more unexpected sick calls.