Please help!!

[Anonymous]

In general, do MB's have other sitters come in for extra hours if your nanny works full time? Covering so many extra hours seems like a recipe for nanny burn out.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP , what a completely unbelievable story! Especially your account of that crazy conversation. If even a tiny bit of this is true, your answer is pretty simple.

Quit.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for the run of bad luck you have had and I hope you find a family worthy of you and I admire you for standing up for yourself. Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From an MB/DB perspective, what would be the right thing to say in this instance I explain my short time with this family and not sound like I'm bad mouthing them?

"I was often needed to stay hours late with no notice, and my schedule simply couldn't accommodate the extra time."

Something like that? I've had a string of bad luck lately...my long term job ended in September when the kids began school full time. I had accepted a new job, but then at the last minute had to decline, as I found out DB was not willing to obey the law and pay taxes. That caused some desperation, as money is a bit tight right now, and the jobs I've accepted since then have been so bad. One MB had an outrageous and explosive temper that caused me to quit, and the other family did not pay me two weeks in a row, which meant I had to quit that job, too. It's starting to reflect badly on me.

You don't need to say anything. Say you have not been able to find a position that would be the right fit with you. Mention things that you need, like taxes being paid and not 1099 but w-2, and you can explain that these were issues you were having with other jobs that you had been offered but would not work for you, so you want to make sure everything is clear beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Do not mention the position unless asked. If asked I would cite the details since it is ridiculous what they did but you need to make sure you can describe it dispassionately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general, do MB's have other sitters come in for extra hours if your nanny works full time? Covering so many extra hours seems like a recipe for nanny burn out.

Our full-time nanny does extra sitting hours for us but it is strictly voluntary. One of us then stays home with the kids.

[Anonymous]

That's why it's always Godoy to have them sign a detailed contract starting any work. I have mine and regret not adding some things like sick days, PTO, paid holidays and etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general, do MB's have other sitters come in for extra hours if your nanny works full time? Covering so many extra hours seems like a recipe for nanny burn out.

I work over 45 hours a week and if my bosses need additional hours, they use a babysitter so that I do not get burned out. I very much appreciate them doing this.

[Anonymous]

If you pay overtime like you're required to, it rarely makes sense to have your nanny cover extra babysitting. We'd much rather pay a babysitter $15 an hour on a Saturday night than pay our nanny $24 (and increase the odds of burnout, too).

[Anonymous]

My nanny likes to make the overtime, so we offer babysitting gigs to her first. If she can, she does. And yes, we pay her overtime rate. We have other babysitters to call if she declines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny likes to make the overtime, so we offer babysitting gigs to her first. If she can, she does. And yes, we pay her overtime rate. We have other babysitters to call if she declines.

This is us, too. But I don't pay overtime. Yes, I know it's illegal -- flame away. Sometimes she wants to do it, sometimes not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nanny likes to make the overtime, so we offer babysitting gigs to her first. If she can, she does. And yes, we pay her overtime rate. We have other babysitters to call if she declines.

This is us, too. But I don't pay overtime. Yes, I know it's illegal -- flame away. Sometimes she wants to do it, sometimes not.

Cheap fasist pig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nanny likes to make the overtime, so we offer babysitting gigs to her first. If she can, she does. And yes, we pay her overtime rate. We have other babysitters to call if she declines.

This is us, too. But I don't pay overtime. Yes, I know it's illegal -- flame away. Sometimes she wants to do it, sometimes not.

If you know it illegal why do you do it to her? Would you be okay if your boss just followed those employment laws that suit them? Or the people who will care for and teach your children throughout their lives, should the laws governing their job be taken merely as suggestions? What you're doing is wrong. If you know it's illegal, stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nanny likes to make the overtime, so we offer babysitting gigs to her first. If she can, she does. And yes, we pay her overtime rate. We have other babysitters to call if she declines.

This is us, too. But I don't pay overtime. Yes, I know it's illegal -- flame away. Sometimes she wants to do it, sometimes not.

Cheap fasist pig.

If you are going to use a term, learn how to spell it. It's fascist.

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP. I'm glad you stood up to yourself. I'd definitely start looking for another job because if they do fire you, they will do so without warning most likely.

You are 100% in the RIGHT! They're to arrogant and selfish to understand. Boy, I can't believe there are people like that in this world.