Do I have the right to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you don't have the "right" to know but I would ask anyway. I'm happy she is under treatment but if I found out my child's nanny was on meds I would have 2nd or 3rd thoughts about her.

Exactly. I don't want someone with a mental illness around my children. Sorry if this is harsh or not politically correct, but after the Ortega incident you cannot be too careful. Sorry to offend anyone suffering from depression.

Surprise! I suffer from depression and don't take any medication for it! YOU'LL NEVER KNOW. I am with kids EVERY SINGLE DAY. Bwah ha ha!

[Anonymous]

Some parents are really not so well.

[Anonymous]

OP, would you fire your nanny or have second thoughts about her if you knew she suffered from mild anxiety? Anxiety is something a large population of people have, yet few seek treatment, which you know controls their symptoms, and makes them BETTER! Can you honestly say you'd rather have a nanny with anxiety/depression who wasn't being treated vs. a nanny who goes to see a doctor and likely also a therpist to control symptoms of either thing?

If so, I'd say yank your kids out of her care right now, quit your job, and start homeschooling cause your kids are likely going to have a ton of years ahead of them being cared for and loved by people (teachers, sitters, coaches) with these hidden illnesses.
Just think how you'd feel if your son/daughter grows up, develops an anxiety disorder, seeks treatment (as is the responsible and brave thing to do) and then is denied employment or discriminated because of it. It would be extremely disheartening, right?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, would you fire your nanny or have second thoughts about her if you knew she suffered from mild anxiety? Anxiety is something a large population of people have, yet few seek treatment, which you know controls their symptoms, and makes them BETTER! Can you honestly say you'd rather have a nanny with anxiety/depression who wasn't being treated vs. a nanny who goes to see a doctor and likely also a therpist to control symptoms of either thing?

If so, I'd say yank your kids out of her care right now, quit your job, and start homeschooling cause your kids are likely going to have a ton of years ahead of them being cared for and loved by people (teachers, sitters, coaches) with these hidden illnesses.
Just think how you'd feel if your son/daughter grows up, develops an anxiety disorder, seeks treatment (as is the responsible and brave thing to do) and then is denied employment or discriminated because of it. It would be extremely disheartening, right?!

Would I fire her if she had anxiety? Absolutely not.

Would I fire her if she suffered from depression. Possibly. My thoughts are always with the best interest of my children, not my nanny.

[Anonymous]

OP, you did snoop by picking up the bottle and reading the label. Shame on you. You should be confessing to your nanny, not interrogating her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you did snoop by picking up the bottle and reading the label. Shame on you. You should be confessing to your nanny, not interrogating her.

Ok, maybe I made some mistakes. However, I honestly think I have the right to know if the person who watches my children is mentally stable. Does that make me unpopular? Oh well, my children will ALWAYS come first.

[Anonymous]

What if you OP were the one diagnosed with depression - can your spouse take your kids from you.

Or what if your job found out you had depression - could they fire you because they feel you could harm Co workers, clients, make rash decisions that effect the company.

I'm not saying you have depression but if the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel.

Also if your children have sleep overs at friends homes - how will you know those parents aren't on anything? Or someone doing car pool? Coaching your kids sport? Driving the school bus?

If and that's a big if because this medication could be used for a handful of things, your nanny is depressed at leased she's mature enough to get help. A lot of people ignore it and don't get any help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if you OP were the one diagnosed with depression - can your spouse take your kids from you.

Or what if your job found out you had depression - could they fire you because they feel you could harm Co workers, clients, make rash decisions that effect the company.

I'm not saying you have depression but if the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel.

Also if your children have sleep overs at friends homes - how will you know those parents aren't on anything? Or someone doing car pool? Coaching your kids sport? Driving the school bus?

If and that's a big if because this medication could be used for a handful of things, your nanny is depressed at leased she's mature enough to get help. A lot of people ignore it and don't get any help.

Parent does not equal nanny. It doesn't matter, I regret this question already because people take it the wrong way. We as parents are ALWAYS concerned for our children's wellbeing, maybe I'm being "mama bear" but when you read the papers about nanny abuse, ect...it makes one worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate reading stuff like this. A few people very close to me are on antidepressants or anti-anxiety meds and I HATE to think they'd suffer job discrimination because of it. That's what leads to people not seeking help--fear that they'll be judged for it.

Although most peopel with depression wouldn't hurt children, I personal wouldn't hire a nanny if I knew she had depression because I don't want that to affect my child's care. A depressed nanny isn't going to be the most uplifting, attentive, active, nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you OP were the one diagnosed with depression - can your spouse take your kids from you.

Or what if your job found out you had depression - could they fire you because they feel you could harm Co workers, clients, make rash decisions that effect the company.

I'm not saying you have depression but if the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel.

Also if your children have sleep overs at friends homes - how will you know those parents aren't on anything? Or someone doing car pool? Coaching your kids sport? Driving the school bus?

If and that's a big if because this medication could be used for a handful of things, your nanny is depressed at leased she's mature enough to get help. A lot of people ignore it and don't get any help.

Parent does not equal nanny. It doesn't matter, I regret this question already because people take it the wrong way. We as parents are ALWAYS concerned for our children's wellbeing, maybe I'm being "mama bear" but when you read the papers about nanny abuse, ect...it makes one worry.

I understand OP. It's hard coming on this forum and asking for help because alot of the people are over-dramatic and twist things.. You're better off going to nannysupportgroup.com .. Nobody jumps down your back and you get real advice.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't 4:03 leave here and go to the other site where no one jumps down your back? Oh, they threw her out of there? Hmmm....

[Anonymous]

You asked for advise, most people told you you were wrong. You've chosen to ignore said advice and are now whining that everyone didn't pat you on the back for snooping and discriminating. Please apologize to your nanny, then fire her so she isn't subjected to your nonsense anymore.

[Anonymous]

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you don't have the "right" to know but I would ask anyway. I'm happy she is under treatment but if I found out my child's nanny was on meds I would have 2nd or 3rd thoughts about her.

What exactly would your thoughts be, if you don't mind sharing?

Are you more qualified than a doctor? Do I need your permission to treat my medical problems?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you did snoop by picking up the bottle and reading the label. Shame on you. You should be confessing to your nanny, not interrogating her.

Ok, maybe I made some mistakes. However, I honestly think I have the right to know if the person who watches my children is mentally stable. Does that make me unpopular? Oh well, my children will ALWAYS come first.

Depression, especially under the care of a doctor, does not make a person crazy, unstable, and out of control.