Nanny Confessions 2013 Editions

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole internet speak here and other forums where parents are.

I don't mind MB/DB. Mother boss/dad boss. Makes sense.

But snowflake for kids? DH/DW.... darling husband/darling wife.

It's all cheesy.

My confession is that I personally believe any family who has a live-in nanny (or even worse, AP) are bad parents. I will judge you and so do many other people. Only exceptions in my book are: illness, loss of a parent, or children with special needs. Otherwise, all most people see is "lazy parents. entitlement. workaholics who prefer being out of the home. people who are unfit to be parents."

You're a dumbass. ....so ignorant. Please get some education!

Silly person!

My friend is a nanny for parents who are in their residency, and without her they would be screwed. Day care hours not there to help out with their erratic schedule. I know once their they have more stable hours, they won't need a live-in, but for now this is what works for them and it helps. So I hope one day, they don't treat you for an illness, you ingrate!

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Anonymous wrote:I let your baby watch sesame street every day.

Wow. As an MB, yeah, you are definitely making me grumpy about nannies. I manage to entertain my baby without TV on the days I'm with the baby, and you can too.

My days are extremely long ( sometimes 13-14 hours a day). I shouldn't say everyday. It's more like 2-3 times a week. Baby falls asleep 20-30 minutes into the show.

I'm the PP. I only WOH 2 days a week. My days at home are longer than yours because I'm up before the baby wakes up and cleaning up after she goes to bed. I know from personal experience how long it can be (since I know the nannies on this board seem to think that all MBs can't handle their own kids) as well as how fun. Sesame Street is not required and I want my kid to have good sleep associations, not learn to fall asleep in front of the TV.

Please stop making excuses and do your job well. Have some professional pride.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't have any "confessions". I like my job, and it's really not that hard to do what is expected of me. No need to go out of my way to be nasty or rude to the family.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we not keep doing this? We have a hard enough time getting any respect in this forum, we don't need to hand the bitter MBs ammunition.

I agree! As entertaining as I think these confessions can be I don't think that us nannies are doing ourselves any favors by posting them. Already people in this board see us as untrustworthy, entitled, and over payed. Most of us are probably pretty great the majority of the time so why group all of our worst and most unsavory confessions here all in the same place, thus making nannies as a group look a lot worse than we really are.

Who cares what people on this board think? This isn't a job interview, it's an anonymous forum. I'm an MB and yes, I read things on here that make me cringe but I love and trust my nanny with my son-the most important person in my life. This board doesn't make me feel otherwise.

I care because this board is one of the most popular and most visited nanny forums on the internet. For every MB that we see post that are probably hundreds, maybe thousands, that are reading and judging us. I really do feel like this gives nannies a bad name. I am sure that there are people who browse these boards before deciding to get a nanny. If they were on the fence and they read this post do you think it would make them want one? Probably not. I care about how people in general view me as a nanny and how people in general view nannies as a whole.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we not keep doing this? We have a hard enough time getting any respect in this forum, we don't need to hand the bitter MBs ammunition.

I agree! As entertaining as I think these confessions can be I don't think that us nannies are doing ourselves any favors by posting them. Already people in this board see us as untrustworthy, entitled, and over payed. Most of us are probably pretty great the majority of the time so why group all of our worst and most unsavory confessions here all in the same place, thus making nannies as a group look a lot worse than we really are.

Who cares what people on this board think? This isn't a job interview, it's an anonymous forum. I'm an MB and yes, I read things on here that make me cringe but I love and trust my nanny with my son-the most important person in my life. This board doesn't make me feel otherwise.

I care because this board is one of the most popular and most visited nanny forums on the internet. For every MB that we see post that are probably hundreds, maybe thousands, that are reading and judging us. I really do feel like this gives nannies a bad name. I am sure that there are people who browse these boards before deciding to get a nanny. If they were on the fence and they read this post do you think it would make them want one? Probably not. I care about how people in general view me as a nanny and how people in general view nannies as a whole.

Oh get over it. There are plenty of MBs and nannies who don't even know this website exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board is the reason why I would NEVER hire a nanny. My children are much too precious to be under the care of one of you crazies.

And we're probably still better than you on our worst days!

[Anonymous]

Relatively new to the board MB here and I must say = these conversations are frequently horrifying. I have a great nanny, who wouldn't have a clue how to be active here thank goodness!

I'm on a couple of parenting related listservs and boards and have learned much that I didn't realize about the danger of anonymous posts. It's impossible to tell who is intentionally provoking arguments, who the repeat offenders are, and who has genuine questions and advice.

Sure makes me value age in a nanny though - if my nanny were 20-something I'd be afraid she was on here and be paranoid. You all can be pretty awful (which has nothing to do w/ the career choice - by the way. Your attitudes would be unacceptable in any work setting.)

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This thread sounds bogus.

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I'm on a couple of parenting related listservs and boards and have learned much that I didn't realize about the danger of anonymous posts. It's impossible to tell who is intentionally provoking arguments, who the repeat offenders are, and who has genuine questions and advice.

I agree. I am a nanny (23, btw) and I am horrified by some of the posts as well.

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I get resentful of you for being too damned lazy to at least get your kid's pee-soaked sheets and clothes off his bed and into a laundry basket. I am angry that you consistently wait until I have washed and changed their bedsheets to "experiment" with your 4-year-old by taking off his nighttime pull up and then he pees the bed after I've already changed and cleaned it 2 days prior. I am beyond angry that you now have me washing YOU and YOUR DH's nasty sexed up sheets on a regular basis when before I was only responsible for the kids' laundry. And I HATE, as in DESPISE YOUR nasty ass cats who puke and poop all over your house while I am here and you expect me to clean it up while I am 7 months pregnant! Fuck no! That's why I leave it for you!

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I am pissed that every time I work on an organization project in the house that you have for me, it gets completely destroyed within a day or two! So I'm not making a huge effort to keep doing those things now.

[Anonymous]

Some of these are so sad. My confession is that I have nothing to hide. I love my bosses, my charge, and my job. This is been the best year and a half of my life and I feel very grateful that this family found me. I'm not sitting here saying I'm perfect...we all have our off days. But I have never felt so dedicated and motivated as I do when I am with my charge. I love him very much and I have an amazing connection with him as well as my MB and DB. Not all nannies are bad...and not all MBs are bad, either. There are bad teachers, doctors, lawyers, etc...so yes, there are bad nannies and unfortunately many of them choose to unleash their unhappiness in the form of anonymous nasty comments here. It will never change...this is the internet. But I've never been happier and I am sure that there are other nannies/MBs who have the same kind of relationship!

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Anonymous wrote:Horrible MB's lead to purposely careless nannies.

I'm a nanny and I do not agree.

If parents are bad, you don't make the children suffer. You quit.

I agree. I never understand this sentiment.

[Anonymous]

Lighten up. I doubt you've never bent a rule or known plenty of people that do. My confession is I have MB completely fooled. I have an ECE degree. I can fill out a daily log with amazing things we have done all day. She has no idea that DC usually naps in his stroller while I shop at the mall or just plays in the sandbox while I meet up with friends. I shorten his nap time on the log so she doesn't try to give me any housework. If she brings up a task, I quickly whip out my ECE lingo and go on about all the developmental activities that I need to plan. She goes out the door and I watch videos on my computer. My charge is a happy kid. He gets to play and I get to do whatever I want. Easy job and to top it off I make more than most nannies. I get away with this because I'm smart. I will not work for WAHMs and will not work in house with a nannycam. I seek out moms who want the best for their kid. They are the most easily fooled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lighten up. I doubt you've never bent a rule or known plenty of people that do. My confession is I have MB completely fooled. I have an ECE degree. I can fill out a daily log with amazing things we have done all day. She has no idea that DC usually naps in his stroller while I shop at the mall or just plays in the sandbox while I meet up with friends. I shorten his nap time on the log so she doesn't try to give me any housework. If she brings up a task, I quickly whip out my ECE lingo and go on about all the developmental activities that I need to plan. She goes out the door and I watch videos on my computer. My charge is a happy kid. He gets to play and I get to do whatever I want. Easy job and to top it off I make more than most nannies. I get away with this because I'm smart. I will not work for WAHMs and will not work in house with a nannycam. I seek out moms who want the best for their kid. They are the most easily fooled.

I'm a nanny and I think your attitude is disgusting. If you have an ECE degree and the mother has hired you and pays you nicely for it, you ought to get off your ass and use it. There are so many awful parents out there who wouldn't give a damn what you do during the day so long as their kid is alive when they get home. Go work for them. But to search out moms who truly want what's best for their kids and trick them into thinking you are it, then manipulate them is deplorable.