I am afraid of my mb's reaction

[Anonymous]

Early September was our 4 year "nannyversary" and my mom boss gave me a lovely present (jewelry) worth of about $2500.
I didn't know the price (and wasn't interested in knowing as I find that very rude) BUT my husband told me I should bring back the present to the store so we could use the money for something useful.
Of course I disagreed and I thought we were fine ... until last night when I came home and my husband told me he did go to the store and got the $ ... My heart just dropped ....
We had a terrible argument and I haven't spoken to him since then.

Now the big problem is that I am invited (with my husband) to my mb's new housewarming party tomorrow and she mentioned smiling to me that I should wear the necklace, that she wanted how it looked on me etc.
I honestly don't know what to do ... I'm stuck, can't eat, am really mad at my husband (who already used most of the money - on useful things but still !!!)

My husband (who's American - I am Italian), says this is quite common to bring back a present you've been given at the store if you don't like it or want cash etc.
This is not something we do in my home country and I'm very scared my mom boss will be very disapointed in me ...

Can you help me ? thank you

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

What kind of store gives you $2500 in cash without a receipt? Anyway, if my husband returned a gift that I was given without my permission and then went on to spend the money (I don't care if it is on useful things or not) I would be beyond pissed at him. I would probably just not wear it and then say I forgot if she mentions it again. Your husband sounds like a real controlling jerk.

[Anonymous]

You're husband is an asshole. But I'm not at all sure I believe this is real. I think 8:12 is right.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I can't understand why my husband did this, this is so unlike him. We have had been tight with money for a little while but as long as the morgage/food/bills were paid, that's all I was asking for. He is tired of the situation and is looking for ways to find money, but doing this really disapointed me.

The store where the jewelry was bought didn't ask for the receipt, now I don't get why, I guess they knew it was bought from them ?
Anyway, where I come from you accept the gift with a smile, even if you don't like it. Whatever the amount you don't bring it back or sell it or whatever.

I sadly don't have the money to buy it back, otherwise that's what I would do. I guess I'm just gonna have to face my mb and tell her the truth.

[Anonymous]

Um, that's not a common American thing to do. Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Do you typically wear jewelry ? I've been given it but I don't wear it because I'm allergic. If she mentions why didn't you wear it say oops I forgot or I personally say I love the necklace but I'm allergic to jewelry I'm keeping it safe in my jewelry box thank you so much it means a lot.

[Anonymous]

OP, your husband went to a pawn shop and that's how he got cash. The story he is telling you is bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your husband went to a pawn shop and that's how he got cash. The story he is telling you is bullshit.

This. A jewelry store is not going to refund the full price, in cash, of something without a receipt.

Frankly, I would tell my MB the truth. "My husband pawned the jewelry without telling me and expressly against my stated wishes. I am so sorry; it was a beautiful gift and really meant a lot to me."

[Anonymous]

Who gives there nanny a necklace worth 2,500 that seems crazy to me. I'm lucky to get a 50 dollar gift card.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am Italian too (married to an American), and if your story is true (which I frankly doubt - your husband told you last night he got the money back and he has just spent almost everything? as others have pointed out, no jewelry store will give you the money back for a $2500 necklace, especially without receipt, at best he went to a pawn shop - and I find strange that an MB would give such an expensive gift to a nanny, when the nanny may not even like it or wear it) you have a much bigger problem than telling your MB you do not have the necklace anymore. you have a husband who stole from you something that belonged to you, pawned it and spent all the money. he should now take a second or third job, wash dishes in restaurants at night or whatever he can find and buy the necklace back.

[Anonymous]

Yor husband is jerk guy,you have to stand I front him and say ,this my gift,please go away.....

[Anonymous]

This story is insane. I would take something of DH's and lawn it and keep the money.

[Anonymous]

Your problem is not with MB, it's with your DH. Tell him that if he doesn't get back the necklace for the party, and if he ever pulls something like this again, you are divorcing him.

You make decisions like this as a family, not as a controlling asshole.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I'd divorce him over this because I have zero tolerance for controlling assholes who do things just to be mean. He is a jerk and is round up some stuff of his to sell, tell him to get another job, be a man and provide. Man, stuff like this pisses me off. You're better off without him. And yes, I'd tell mb the truth so she knows not to buy something flashy like that again.