Minir issue with MB
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Anonymous
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This is no big deal, but I do find it throwing me off a lot and wanted to get some perspective. Just for context, I work part-time for a SAHM with somewhat limited mobility so that she can do errands sans kids and so kids can have some really active mornings that are hard for her to keep up with. My MB is a planner by nature, and (over)analyzes everything, which is fine, whatever. I do find it frustrating though that she often seems to have a lot of trouble making a decision on something (little stuff), and I am just not always up to discussing it for 30 minutes and/or it's time sensitive and I need her to just pick something so I can do what needs to be done.
E.g., I will show up and she will tell me that she's trying to decide whether she should do her workout before or after the grocery store and I will be trying to listen politely, etc., when I am really trying to feed the kids breakfast and unload the DW and pack snacks for our outing and I just want to say, "do whatever, but I need to focus on my job right now." Another one that happens a lot will be when I say, "We can do X, Y Z today if we leave right now, or we can just do QRS, if you want us to have a more low-key day and she will waffle back and forth and ask for my opinion and come up with 3 other ideas for the day, etc. and I am thinking, "The clock is ticking!" I think she partly just likes having someone to talk to, and probably I just need to deal or whatever, but I just wondered if anyone had any tips on how to politely phrase a request to "poop or get off the pot" lol. |
Anonymous
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Yikes! I feel for you OP....This would be tough to deal with for me too.
I think she is a little scatterbrained and has a tough time making a decision. Okay..Maybe A LOT scatterbrained. Lol. Anyway, you do not have to be harsh, but you can be firm and just tell her that you really need a set decision now so that you can get on w/planning the day w/the kids. Then once she tells you a plan, say to her, "Okay great. Then we will do XYZ for today." If necessary, repeat it a few times to reinforce for her that is what you will be doing. If she tries to switch things up, maybe change the subject if you can..?? |
Anonymous
| Agree with PP's advice. I would also stop phrasing things in the form of a question. If you have an option to do X, Y, Z or Q, R, S make a decision before you bring it to MB. Then when you come in just tell her "I'm going to do X, Y, Z with the kids today, so we need to get going as that starts at 10!" If there really is something in the way of that plan that MB flags up, it's fine to then amend it, but clearly MB doesn't do well with multiple options, so try to limit bringing them to her as much as possible. |
Anonymous
| Stop giving her so many options. Just go in with a plan,, say "we're going to to X today, sound good?" Don't leave the decision making up to her. |
Anonymous
| Wow, you seem so bitchy. If I were the MB and saw this post I would fire you in a hot minute. |
Anonymous
| I don't feel sorry for you OP. Yes it sucks but you ( and many others) will encounter many people with different personalities. That is part of life and something you learn to deal with, more importantly, respect. Most will tell you to move on but the truth is, you will be hurting yourself. A person can't grow and learn unless you work through it, instead of avoiding it. Grow up and learn to respect that not every person will do things your way. |
Anonymous
Errr.... I don't think she was insinuating that her MB should think as she does? She is simply venting her frustrations of having a MB who wants to discuss every little minute detail to the core. She isn't asking to change her, she's asking how to politely discuss things with ehr. |
Anonymous
OP was stating that this wasn't a huge issue nor a deal-breaker or anything...Simply a minor annoyance that she wanted some advice/input on. Why are YOU making such a big deal about it...??! OP, ignore this and the PP before. These people are just plain rude and impolite. Mean people suck. 
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Anonymous
Totally agree. If everyone looking for advice on how to improve their working environment (both MB and Nanny alike) needs to just suck it up, then we might as well just shut down these boards. |
Anonymous
As I said, it takes Mb 30 minutes to decide what to have for lunch, so i bet she can't choose to fire me in one minute!! |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
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I am a planner so I understand her need to plan things. I also get how thats annoying to other people.
I dont get why you feel the need to rush the morning though when you first get there? If she needs time to waffle on when you arrive then dont plan an activity that needs you to leave the house in 10 mins. On occasion if you know you need to be quick getting out the door then tell her the day before. |
Anonymous
| You're getting paid. Why do you care? |
Anonymous
| Sounds like MB is probably lonely and looking to chat which can be really annoying when you're trying to work. Maybe start jotting down outings you plan for next week on Fridays that way she had time to review and know what's going on for the next week? |