MB had a miscarriage today

[Anonymous]

My MB had a miscarriage today. She didn't know she was pregnant and it was super early, but it's still just awful.
She and DB have been at the hospital all day and I have cleaned the house and arranged delivery from their favorite restaurant for dinner.
Should I say something to her or just leave it?
I've never been in this situation and want to do the right thing.
Condolences or no?

[Anonymous]

I think what you've done already with cleaning the house and ordering dinner is very thoughtful. I don't think I would say anything unless she brings it up or seems to want to talk. I would just be extra nice and let them know about dinner and be on my way so they can be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what you've done already with cleaning the house and ordering dinner is very thoughtful. I don't think I would say anything unless she brings it up or seems to want to talk. I would just be extra nice and let them know about dinner and be on my way so they can be alone.

OP here. That's what I was thinking too. I don't want to make her talk about it.
Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Very thoughtful of you. I don't think anything more is necessary. Maybe a card if you think about it.

[nannydebsays]

Yes, condolences are needed. Be brief, tell her you're sorry, and maybe offer to arrange dinner delivery for the rest of the week.

[Anonymous]

What your doing is way over the top. Why is she at the hospital? How far along could she have been if she didn't even know yet.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think what you have done speaks volumes. If you want to say something just say "I'm so sorry." and leave it at that, but I don't think it's necessary.

You'll also have plenty of chances to say that tomorrow or the next day. Your quiet thoughtfulness I am sure will be hugely appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What your doing is way over the top. Why is she at the hospital? How far along could she have been if she didn't even know yet.

Why?

I think it shows she cares.

[Anonymous]

As someone who's had a miscarriage, just say you're sorry and leave it at that. You sound like a caring person.

[Anonymous]

You sound lovely. She'll appreciate everything you have done. That was really thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a very compassionate as well as caring person in general OP.

I would keep my condolences short and sweet.

A simple "I am so sorry for your loss.." will suffice for now.

I am sure your acts of kindness will speak volumes.

[Anonymous]

I bet she's glad your sharing her personal life on a large website. Even if it's anonymous if she reads this I'm sure she'll know it's you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she's glad your sharing her personal life on a large website. Even if it's anonymous if she reads this I'm sure she'll know it's you

I sincerely hope your say gets better.

[Anonymous]

My MB had a miscarriage I felt really sad even though I hadn't known she was pregnant. They were at the hospital practically all day. She told the kids(2 &5) she was sick so they made her a get well soon card and we bought her flowers, I cleaned and made dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she's glad your sharing her personal life on a large website. Even if it's anonymous if she reads this I'm sure she'll know it's you

Right because OP has provided details to make her boss recognizable? Oh wait, she didn't. Don't be a bitter nanny just because you have a miserable life and are jealous another nanny seems quite happy in her job.