How many times a day do MB/DB call to check on the kids?

[Anonymous]

So I've been with NF for a little over a year, and MB calls to check in at least once, if not twice a day. Once a day I think is fine, but when it becomes twice a day I kind of start feeling that there's a lack of trust. I would also completely understand if charges were babies/toddlers/young kids, but one is preteen and the other is an early teen.
Just wondering, how many times do they check in with you and what are your charges ages?

[Anonymous]

You are watching their child. Twice a day is reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Never unless there is a particular concern, like my MB MIGHT text to check on how a child's cold is improving (or not). Other than situations like that I initiate all contact. I've been with them three and a half years, with a 3.5 year old and a 1 year old; even in the beginning with their first baby they'd only text to check in very occasionally.

[Anonymous]

They don't call or text except rarely when the child is sick or something unusual is happening. I usually send them pictures a couple times a week to which they will sometimes respond to with oh how cute, etc. But I think some parents just like checking in and maybe are bored, try not to take it personally!

[Anonymous]

Approximately 0 times per day. My charge is 13 months old.

[Anonymous]

An MB here. My 2 year old has been with our nanny for a year and I've never checked in. Only called if I forgot to give some pertinent info.

[Anonymous]

My ex MB was like that. She was just paranoid. We had to call when we left the house when we arrived somewhere and when we arrived back home. This was after several years. I didn't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

I call every hour unless I'm in a meeting. I don't really trust our nanny. She seems sweet but not "bright"....

[Anonymous]

I was paranoid when I first went back to work. I easily called 3-4 times a day. By six months I was down to calling once a day.

[Anonymous]

I can see calling initially in the beginning just to make sure things are transitioning smoothly, but after a while if they are calling you daily, then that is overkill.

They should not be calling you regularly at all, unless there is a specific concern.

You have a job to do and it is a complete distraction to have to take their phone calls.

My bosses never call to check in unless the child was perhaps a little sniffly that day or there were some other concern.

Either your bosses are totally paranoid or they do not trust you completely.

I could never work for a family that had either one of these characteristics.

[Anonymous]

The only time MB or DB call during the day is if we have a scheduling change that I need to be aware of or if one of them is travelling for work they'll call shortly after lunch and chat with each kid for 2-3 minutes.

[Anonymous]

OP here- MB and DB are both in very busy, high demand jobs, as MB so often reminds me. This is why I'm confused as to why she calls daily sometimes twice, and every time I feel like she criticizes something. Teen stays up until 4 am, and she calls next morning and is upset with me when I can't get him up before 11. They come back from vacation, are jet lagged since there was a 7 hours time difference and schedules are still off for kids, so they have lunch an hour later at 1:50. She calls and is upset that they're having lunch so late bc now they won't eat dinner. I had to explain to her that they has just gotten back the night before, and kids schedules were still a little off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call every hour unless I'm in a meeting. I don't really trust our nanny. She seems sweet but not "bright"....

Why do you have someone you don't trust watching your child?

[Anonymous]

Only in an emergency or if the child is sick. I care for infants and toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Have you been good about giving updates in the morning about your plans for the day and in the evening about what you did? They may just be looking for more information. Also, with a preteen and an early teen, it may be more about checking up on the kids and not on you - have they gotten into trouble recently? Can you proactively provide a mid-day update or ask your MB if there is something specific she is concerned about? Are there no younger kids? It's unusual for kids that old to have a nanny at all.