Need advice- kind only please

[Anonymous]

Kind advice only please!
How long do you think you need to be with a NF before you decide if it's a good fit or not? I've been with my new nanny family for over a month. I don't feel connected to the little guy yet, and my MB is kind, but very particular about everything. We also can't leave the neighborhood. My last family really wanted me to be apart of their family and trusted me, my current MB does not seem to want me to be "too close" with her son, and seems to be having a hard time trusting me. I have had several families write to me on care.com, and I really want to see if there might be a better fit. I would feel horrible leaving, but I don't know if this is going to work for me. Thoughts? I'm really hurting, so please be kind.

[Anonymous]

A month is the usual probationary period. If you are planning on leaving, I'd do so now. No need to drag it out any longer.

[Anonymous]

Leave now if you don't feel it's the right fit. Dragging it out longer will make it worse for both sides. Find a new family and give 2 weeks notice. You shouldn't be unhappy and maybe MB will find a nanny that is a better fit for them, too.

[Anonymous]

If you're feeling like it isn't a good fit after a month then it probably isn't a good fit. Let MB & DB know and start job searching.

[Anonymous]

Honestly!!! Listen to what these ladies are saying!! Don't waste your time, energy or skill on something you don't feel passionate about. It will eat you up in the end! If you are feeling the tug just let her know. I would find a job first so start interviewing ASAP! Good luck!

[Anonymous]

MB here. If you were our nanny and you were unhappy or felt we were not a good fit, I'd absolutely want you to find a better position. That said, I'd also want to know what was making you unhappy and if there is anything we can do to fix the problem. Is there any way you could talk with your MB and work some things out?

If not, then you should definitely start looking for a better fit and give your NF as much notice as you can. Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for asking this question. I'm a week into my new nanny job and not feeling so great about it. I miss my old charges and MB so much, I've cried every day after work. If you feel like it isn't a good fit, I would definitely speak up. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

How many times are you going to post about this??

[Anonymous]

If you stay w/this position OP feeling the way you do, eventually your feelings will just build up over time and in the end you will end up feeling very bitter and disenchanted w/the whole situation overall and everyone will lose, most certainly the child.

I would do the right thing and give your notice to leave now. Give them ample time to find a replacement and do not give them the real reason you are leaving, if you have to make something up to avoid any hurt feelings or awkwardness, then by all means, do what needs to be done.

Moving forward, I wish you the best in your future endeavors.