Family wanting to come to nanny's house?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone heard of this? I just had a phone interview with a family who wants to come visit me and see my house before making a hiring decision. Is this like the weirdest thing ever or is it just me? What does where I live have to do with how I perform my job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone heard of this? I just had a phone interview with a family who wants to come visit me and see my house before making a hiring decision. Is this like the weirdest thing ever or is it just me? What does where I live have to do with how I perform my job?

That's really weird. I'd say no.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB. I would never ask to do that. I can say though, that having seen my nanny's house long after we hired her I would have been concerned.

But no - that's not an appropriate request and I'd consider it a red flag.

[Anonymous]

I was polite about it when she asked if I was okay with it, but it is not happening!

[Anonymous]

If I wanted the job bad enough and had a nice home to feel proud of sure . I'm a live in nanny so I don't have my own house though.

[Anonymous]

For me it would be a red flag but if I otherwise liked them I might be OK with it. I'd have a light snack to offer.

[Anonymous]

Yes I would make sure my house was very clean, smelled nice and I would make fresh squeezed lemonade and have a cheese, cracker and fruit platter out.

[Anonymous]

Not unless the job description required my kid at your house

[Anonymous]

Umm, am I the only nanny trying to make it in a studio apartment I can barely lay down in? Trust me MBs you do not want to see my apartment full of miss matched curb finds on craigslist. Thia is a very strange request OP.

[Anonymous]

I would deline. It's non of her business where and how I live. And there are many families that don't ask that, so I rather take a job that respects my privacy. I also don't think my roommates would appreciate me walking potential employers through the house.

[Anonymous]

Unless the child will be at your house this is super weird.

[Anonymous]

Early on my nanny intimated that she'd like to have my DS over to visit at her family's home (she was one of four kids, living in a 2BR apt with the Mom) and after I saw it, I knew I couldn't let him go. Not because of how it was kept or anything, it was just so hectic and crowded! Everyone has their normal. She was very proud to have our family meet hers (she'd requested it after working for us about a month) and I was definitely happy to meet them. But hours there with the cousins, aunts, siblings, etc would freak me out if I weren't there.

She has since moved into her own apartment with roommates, but hasn't asked again. I think once she got a dose of some privacy and adult living, she probably realized she wouldn't want to bring a toddler to her house anyway!

[Anonymous]

Be careful, I had a friend whose employer kept asking to go to her house. She invited her over and the lady fired her
because her house was so nice. She told her she no longer needed her money since she was so well off.

[Anonymous]

I was working for a family and after a few months they asked if they could see my house and meet my parents (who I was living with at the time). They only did so because I had a pool and also took my charge there for weekends when the parents wanted a date night. I would never allow someone who I'm interviewing with over or an employer who's children won't be coming there. Plus I really don't have the room for children at my apartment

[Anonymous]

I am a very firm believer in maintaining professional boundaries. I had an interviewer ask me this once and I replied by asking them if their current employer inspected their home prior to hiring them (yes, it's snarky but it made my point immediately). As is, the only reason my current employers have seen my house is because they had a family emergency where it was easier to drop the kids off with me versus waiting for me to get to their house.