Messes left behind
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Anonymous
| Nannies, do you ignore messes that were made while you were not working? If child colors on walls, leaves sticky food on walls or floor, if DB and MB leave their cups on the counter, dishes from dinner, clothes in bathroom, etc? Is it petty to ignore or is it being a pushover when you do clean it up? There has been chocolate spread across the living room wall and cabinet all this week from over the weekend and I have ignored it, now I'm wondering if this is just a stand off between myself and bosses. |
Anonymous
| They're slobs. Gross. Don't touch it. Quit when you need to. |
Anonymous
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Ugh. I'm an MB and I don't understand people who behave this way.
Sorry you're stuck with that. |
Anonymous
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It depends...
My summertime family regularly leaves dishes piled up from the weekend, clothes all over the finished basement where the playroom is, and other messes around the house. Because it's so common I've learned to ignore it; however, occasionally I'll go above and beyond if I know it's been a particularly stressful week. My school year family leaves messes so rarely that I always clean then up when it happens. They believe in leaving the house for me the same way they want to come home to it which is So wonderful. |
Anonymous
+1 from an MB. If they are generally slobs and usually leave their messes for you to clean up then don't do it. If this is unusual I think it would be nice of you to do it. I always try to leave the house perfect and clean when the nanny arrives but I also know that because I do that she wouldn't hesitate to clean up a mess that happened when she wasn't there. We have a great relationship with the nanny and I think it's because we work as a team. We both just do what needs to be done regardless of whose watch something happened on. The other day she walked in while I was in the middle of cleaning up the babies diaper explosion. She immediately took the dirty clothes to rinse them while I finished cleaning off the baby. Likewise, if I come home while she is putting the children down for a nap I will clean up the dirty dishes from lunch that she didn't get to yet. |
Anonymous
| Clean it depending on the situation. I always cleaned it. What is the big deal about a few dishes. |
Anonymous
It's called "job creep." Lol. |
Anonymous
Your job is working in someone's home. You want to be a valuable employee. Remember with all jobs, one is always replaceable. Don't think so highly of yourself that you are not replaceable. |
Anonymous
This is one of the dumbest things I have heard. Yes, as a nanny you are replaceable but that does not mean that we have to clean up after disgusting bosses so that we don't get fired. Yes, our job is working in someone's home but that does not mean that part of our job is cleaning up messes that were made by the parent's or kids when we were off duty. If you worked in an office and someone kept spilling coffee on the counter and didn't clean it up, is it your job to clean it? No. Kind of the same thing with OP's question. OP, I would leave it. That's disgusting and the second you start cleaning up messes like that, they are going to start expecting that from you. To be honest, my NF is not the cleanest family at all. They have a weekly house cleaner come in but the 6 days a week that she is not here cleaning, their kitchen is a disaster. DB leaves his oatmeal bowl on the counter every single morning and I NEVER wash it. Some will call me lazy or whatever but I don't care. My job duty is not to clean up after him and you know what? My bosses have NEVER commented on that. DB comes home at night and washes it himself. They KNOW that is not my job so they don't expect that from me. Occasionally I will clorox the counters if they are gross but that is just because I don't want to be making the kids sandwiches or whatever on a dirty counter. |
Anonymous
Did you know you're replaceable? |
Anonymous
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I have 2 nanny families- my ft one that generally leave the house spotless every day and MB apologizes profusely for leaving even the rare glass in the sink for me and I always clean up if I see something they didn't get to or whatever, because it's a give-give relationship with a lot of mutual respect.
Now my other nanny family, I noticed right away they were...messy. And I cleaned up twice at the beginning. Bad, bad move. They just got dirtier and messier and I have my notice two weeks ago when I saw bugs. Like roaches, bugs. Gag |
Anonymous
+2 from a nanny. I have the same relationship with my NF as pp MB describes and am always willing to jump in and help with things that aren't technically part of my job because we do work as a team. If I didn't feel as respected or felt like everything was being left for me, I'd probably do a lot less to maintain appropriate boundaries and limit job creep. |
Anonymous
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Total slobs, seems like they are allergic to a broom,vacumm,sponges
or anything to do with cleaning. As we speak the sink is full of dinner and breakfast dishes. Whatever was cooked last night remains in the pans along with juice in cups, yogurt cups halfway full just thrown on the sink. The floor counters and table is sticky with crap. They wonder how I get their marble counters so clean. I do clean and sweep but I am not touching the dishes. Honestly I want to puke, I don't even leave one dish in my sink and I don't even use my dishwasher. |
Anonymous
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If I were ever in that situation I would probably clean the child-related things and obviously, if I needed to use the kitchen to make the child's meals, I would have to clean part of it. But no - generally, if MB or DB leave a coffee cup in the living room where the child and I never go, that coffee cup is there when they get home.
And I wouldn't last long in a dirty house anyway. Gross. |
Anonymous
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It depends.
If I have free time, I do it just to have something to do because I am a clean-freak. But if I do not have the time, then I do not do the crime which may end up kicking my butt in the long run when the family starts expecting me to do this from me. Uh..By the way, your nanny family house sounds gross and disgusting. Maybe call the health dept. Eww.... |