MB/DB gave notice and no is asking me to stay - opinions!

[Anonymous]

I recently posted in the " general" section about a parting gift. MB accepted a position in another state and it was all ending on good terms. Yesterday DB/MB told me that they will not be moving. I am not sure what happened with the offer or is it any of my business to know. I am conflicted. I've been with them a year and love my job. I was shocked and sad when they told me. I digested it all and started applying for other positions. On one hand, I do love working with them and it would have been 2-3 years (DB said so himself), if this didnt come up. A few of my nanny friends are saying move on because this situation could occur again. I'm torn. I don't want this to happen months or another year down the line, but I've never been been happier at a job so far. I know they weren't looking at the offer came as a shock but it was too good to pass up. Ladies, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

This is a no-brainer. You stay. No job on the face of the earth is guaranteed.
Your friends aren't so bright on this issue.

[Anonymous]

Celebrate and tell them how happy you are to keep working with them. Do it today. Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Are they paying you ok, or do you need to discuss a raise?

[Anonymous]

Something I noticed in this nanny industry is that, both parents and nannies look at what's best for them first then think about what comes after. I would of been SO pissed, but you hadn't had a job elsewhere yet, hold on to this one and let them know that they must tell you in advance next time, also I would ask if this would occur again and really tell them how you feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Were you the nanny who was so traumatized in the other thread? Maybe they realized their mistake, and how much their children really do need you. This is fantastic news.

Of course you stay with those children, as long as you're well-treated and well-compensated. Be happy!

[Anonymous]

So they're not moving, and they want you to stay on? And you loved working for them and it was a great job?

What's the problem?

Maybe they were too hasty in telling you about the move and something fell through, but I think that speaks to them being really honest with you and giving you as much notice as possible. It sounds like none of this is a reflection on their satisfaction with your performance, or your satisfaction w/ the job.

So - yay - you get to stay in a job you love. Right?

[Anonymous]

They probably did not get the income or relocation package they needed to move. Once all the income/benefits were negotiated, it was not that attractive or maybe the husband looked at the job market and could not reasonable get a job. Or, maybe the company pulled the plug for some reason - my husband has had jobs fall through. He's in IT contracting and that's very common given all the companies competing to put someone in a position. If you change families, this could happen again. A parent could easily lose their job or have a huge pay cut (we just went through this) or many other reasons why to let their nanny go. When you are so dependent on one family/income source, you have to be prepared that their lives and livelihood will impact yours.

[Anonymous]

PP, this is one good reason I have two well-paying PT jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they paying you ok, or do you need to discuss a raise?

I get paid well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So they're not moving, and they want you to stay on? And you loved working for them and it was a great job?

What's the problem?

Maybe they were too hasty in telling you about the move and something fell through, but I think that speaks to them being really honest with you and giving you as much notice as possible. It sounds like none of this is a reflection on their satisfaction with your performance, or your satisfaction w/ the job.

So - yay - you get to stay in a job you love. Right?

+1

[Anonymous]

OP. No I am not the one who posted about the traumatic leave or whatever. I am the post asking about a part gift for the family. They did give me a months notice so its definitely not like they left me hanging. They pay me well and have said it had nothing to do with my performance. They offered I move with but I declined. They recommended me to several friends already, so I know I'm well-liked and great at my job. I think I'm going to stay.

[Anonymous]

I am confused by the title of your post vs. the question you asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am confused by the title of your post vs. the question you asked.

How you confused? OP laid it out pretty clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused by the title of your post vs. the question you asked.

How you confused? OP laid it out pretty clear.

Sigh. She left out the "w" in the title "now is asking" - not rocket science.