NF keeps eating my food
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Anonymous
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I will start off by saying that I love my job and have a wonderful relationship with my NF. Having said that, they won't stop eating my food.
I am a vegan, which means I eat no meat, eggs or dairy. I bring all of my own food, all of which works for my diet. They gave me permission to store food in their refrigerator and pantry. I feel like I'm constantly missing food items. I bring a lot of fruits and veggies. MB is constantly using my produce and allowing guests to drink my soda. I came back from a 10 day vacation today to find that my $7 bottle of vegan salad dressing was taken with them on a beach trip. I had to eat dry lettuce and veggies for lunch. I have to very carefully plan my meals and when I'm missing a key ingredient to my meal, it throws everything off. I can't just scrounge something up for lunch. I will occasionally text MB to ask if she knows where my food went, but she doesn't seem to take the hint. I have no problem being direct and asking her to leave my food alone, I just don't want to sound like a petty jerk. I don't want to put labels on things, as that seems like a jerk move. The things they use are not things MB buys, so she isn't mistaking them for hers. Any advice on how to tactfully ask them to keep their mitts off my food? |
Anonymous
| I should also say that when I bring it up, Mb always offers to replace it. It just sucks to never be able to count on what food I will have based on whether or not they ate it. |
Anonymous
| Do they have a housekeeper who cleans their fridge? My parents did growing up and she always tossed more than was necessary |
Anonymous
No housekeeper. This is all fresh, good food. |
Anonymous
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You do need to speak up to remind your nanny family that you have to eat there and that if they eat things, there may be nothing left for you. Then buy some tasteful labels and put your food in containers with these labels.
-MB |
Anonymous
Specifically, the point is, you can't go out for lunch, so you count on your food being there. They may not have been thinking about this. |
Anonymous
| Looks like she doesn't give a damn. |
Anonymous
| Just bring enough for the day. |
Anonymous
| I bring my own food every day |
Anonymous
+1 I know it's a pain, but you can make your salad the night before and put enough salad dressing in a small container. |
Anonymous
| There's no such thing as vegan soda. Just bring your food each day. |
Anonymous
| I would take your own food every day. If they are using your produce, it sounds like you are keeping quite a few things there and especially with fruits and veggies (vs. packaged things in brands they don't buy) it can definitely get confusing. I don't always know what DH buys vs what our nanny brings and if he's traveling, I can't always easily ask him. Bring your meals daily in unique containers (so that if you have leftovers they are clearly yours). |
Anonymous
I don't think she implied the soda is vegan. |
Anonymous
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I'd probably just pack my lunch daily. Or if that doesn't work pack a couple days at a time. Definitely don't leave cases of soda and bottles of salad dressing there.
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Anonymous
| Speak to the whole family and let them know your are labeling your food because it has been going missing, especially MB. Honestly explain that this is expensive food that your counting on as meals. Write your name on every food item that comes into house, keep your receipts and if they eat your stuff tell them and ask for the money to replace. If she offered to pay you back you must say yes and take the money. You need to communicate honestly and like an adult, stop being so nice about something that's upsetting and speak up for yourself! This is easy! |