Just found out my nanny family is leaving me
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I received the news of their move yesterday. I was in shock because they have strong ties here and I never though they would move elsewhere. I guess DB got offered a job he couldn't refuse. I know as much as its hard on me, it's even harder on them. They have to uproot their lives and MB had to quit her job. I wish them nothing but the best but 2 months seems so soon. Also the finding another family as great as they were will be hard.
Just a vent. I've dealt with this situation in a previous family, but this is hitting me super hard for some unexplained reason. |
Anonymous
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It's often the hardest thing, OP. I'm sorry.
How old are the children? How long have you been helping them? Be sure to get your reference letter asap. |
Anonymous
He is 8 months. I will be with them for 6 months when it ends. DB already stated he will write me a letter of recommendation and help me find a new position anyway that they can. It's just so tough. I had this exact situation happen and I wasn't that bummed out. It feels like a break-up. I'm more in a state of shock because I never thought it would happen with this family. I had it mapped out that they would be my last family before I earned my degree. I even was searching apartments to move closer to them. I'm just bummed. Also not a huge fan of change! |
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Keep this in mind nothing is "permanent" everyone"s situation changes. A parent could lose his or her job, mother decides to
quit her job to stay home because she can't deal with her job any longer. They may decide to put them in preschool earlier than planned because you have taught them very well. ( this is happening to me now) It comes with the territory. My last job both the mom and dad were in tears trying to tell me they had to let me go because of high tuition bills of their two preschool kids. I though someone had died, before I was hit with the news. I had been with them when the babies were little until they were almost 4, it is hard at first but you can't roll over and die. |
Anonymous
| OP is exactly right. It sometimes feels like a break-up. Or a divorce, for that matter. |
Anonymous
| OP, that stinks, sorry. At least they seem to be going about it the right way ( 2 months notice, reference, help finding a new job) |
Anonymous
They are going about it the right way and I am very fortunate to have worked with them for this long. It's just very sad. I am grateful on top of everything they are dealing with, they are willing to help me find another position. That's why it's hard to let such good people go. They did say ( half-jokingly) about me moving with and being their nanny. Unfortunately I can't do that. |
Anonymous
| I hope the family allows Nanny to stay in the children's lives, in whatever way possible. Maybe babysitting a few times a month. It's never the easiest thing to do, but it reduces the negative consequences of loss, for sure. |
Anonymous
Scrap the babysitting option, considering a faraway move. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry, OP. My charge is only 9 mos and I've been with him since birth. I would be heartbroken if he needed to move away.
Yes, you will find another good job and you will get bonded to another baby or children - but I totally understand how much this sucks for you right now. |
Anonymous
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I always leave behind part of my heart, with every child I've cared for. I gave my all to each one.
I wish people would understand that some nannies are simply like that, even if the parents were a nightmare. |
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OP here. Thankfully I have employers who really appreciate me and understand. MB even said the dad was so worried about seperating my charge and I. MB looked like she was going to cry at one time but didnt. I know they are sad and were nervous to tell me. I know I will find another great family but its still hard. I didn't imagine it would end so soon. Like I said, they have jobs where they were tied to them and never did I think they would leave. In going to miss my charge so much and I worry about his possible new nanny. If she will care for him like he deserves and how hard everything will be on him. It's hard to say goodbye to our charges. We have talked and they still have family/friends here and will be back often. MB & DB said I'm welcome to stay at their place if I ever go to that area and I can always see my charge when they come back on town. I'm very happy I will be able to do that. |
Anonymous
| I had the exact same thing happen a couple weeks ago. I had been hired by a great family last fall who asked me for a 2-2.5 yr commitment. Then a couple weeks ago they decided to move 3 hrs away...a week after telling me they were definitely wanting me to help find a nanny share for the days we didn't already have one lined up. On one hand I want them to be happy but on the other I'm really annoyed about it. They're not moving for work, they're just moving to move. They don't even have jobs lined up yet. They're buying a bigger house (they told me they're not saving enough money so they wanted to move someplace with a lower COL) but I'm from that area and my parents and friends live there so I know for a fact it's not lower COL, plus they're buying a more expensive house. So I'm going through the annoyed phase right now. |
Anonymous
Did they give you a reference letter yet? |
Anonymous
OP here. It's not exactly the same. We both wanted a long-term arrangement but this job offer was out of the blue and abrupt. It allows DB now works 60-90/hr weeks and this job will allow more time with MB and my charge ( and possible siblings). I understand why he jumped at it. They aren't leaving just to leave. I know a lot of decision went into this and they weighed it all out. I'm not annoyed and there are no hard feelings. It's just a sucky but happy situation. MB and DB are wonderful people, employers, and parents. I'm happy for them and I think the overall situation of less stress, hours, etc., will be great for them. It's just too bad it had to come to an end so soon instead of years down the road. I know that they love me and wish they could keep me but unfortunately I can't make that type of move happen. I know we will keep in touch and its not the last I will see of my charge. |