Should I Ask For a Raise Too?

[Anonymous]

Advice Please.

I have been working for an extremely HNW family in NYC for close to 3 years. I work 70+ hours a week. A couple months ago I got up the courage and asked MB if I could lower my hours to around 50, because I am getting burned out and missing out on a social life. She said yes!!!

I am very passive person and feel severely uncomfortable talking about money. I make an "okay" hourly wage, but nowhere near great. I am an excellent nanny, my NF tells me that non-stop. I know I have been earning almost half of what other high end nannies earn in the area. I love my NF and their children so much, but they are cheap! I haven't had a raise or bonus in 3 years.

I would like to ask for a big raise, but I'm afraid they are going to cut my salary even more.

Should I ask for what I'm worth?

I am tired of discounting my services for people who can clearly afford the best!

[Anonymous]

You cut your own income (as a nanny, you should not be salaried) by working less hours. You can asked for a higher payrate but they may not be willing to do so, in which case, you should look for a new position.

[Anonymous]

Get a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Your fault for accepting a position that pays less than you think you are worth

[Anonymous]

What advice did you want? Be honest here.

[Anonymous]

How much do you earn? You apparently cut your own salary by asking for a cut in hours, which cuts your overtime considerably. In fact, at 70+ hours per week, I cannot imagine why your NF didn't hire a second nanny to eliminate all overtime pay. What do they do for those 20 hours more per week? Is there a part-time nanny now covering those?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Advice Please.

I have been working for an extremely HNW family in NYC for close to 3 years. I work 70+ hours a week. A couple months ago I got up the courage and asked MB if I could lower my hours to around 50, because I am getting burned out and missing out on a social life. She said yes!!!

I am very passive person and feel severely uncomfortable talking about money. I make an "okay" hourly wage, but nowhere near great. I am an excellent nanny, my NF tells me that non-stop. I know I have been earning almost half of what other high end nannies earn in the area. I love my NF and their children so much, but they are cheap! I haven't had a raise or bonus in 3 years.

I would like to ask for a big raise, but I'm afraid they are going to cut my salary even more.

Should I ask for what I'm worth?

I am tired of discounting my services for people who can clearly afford the best!

You aren't worth any set amount. You are only worth what they are paying you, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Advice Please.

I have been working for an extremely HNW family in NYC for close to 3 years. I work 70+ hours a week. A couple months ago I got up the courage and asked MB if I could lower my hours to around 50, because I am getting burned out and missing out on a social life. She said yes!!!

I am very passive person and feel severely uncomfortable talking about money. I make an "okay" hourly wage, but nowhere near great. I am an excellent nanny, my NF tells me that non-stop. I know I have been earning almost half of what other high end nannies earn in the area. I love my NF and their children so much, but they are cheap! I haven't had a raise or bonus in 3 years.

I would like to ask for a big raise, but I'm afraid they are going to cut my salary even more.

Should I ask for what I'm worth?

I am tired of discounting my services for people who can clearly afford the best!

You aren't worth any set amount. You are only worth what they are paying you, sorry.

I am worth the *most* I can get. Lol. How much are you worth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Advice Please.

I have been working for an extremely HNW family in NYC for close to 3 years. I work 70+ hours a week. A couple months ago I got up the courage and asked MB if I could lower my hours to around 50, because I am getting burned out and missing out on a social life. She said yes!!!

I am very passive person and feel severely uncomfortable talking about money. I make an "okay" hourly wage, but nowhere near great. I am an excellent nanny, my NF tells me that non-stop. I know I have been earning almost half of what other high end nannies earn in the area. I love my NF and their children so much, but they are cheap! I haven't had a raise or bonus in 3 years.

I would like to ask for a big raise, but I'm afraid they are going to cut my salary even more.

Should I ask for what I'm worth?

I am tired of discounting my services for people who can clearly afford the best!

You aren't worth any set amount. You are only worth what they are paying you, sorry.

I am worth the *most* I can get. Lol. How much are you worth?

Well I seem to be worth $35/hr since that is what I get.

[Anonymous]

After three years, I am surprised they haven't even offered you a raise themselves. You are right, they are cheap.

I would take the bull by the horns and ask them but I do not know what you mean when you state that you want a big raise, if you ask for a huge increase, since they are so cheap, I highly doubt they will go along with your request.

And it may affect your relationship with them.

I would ask for a raise, but not too much of an increase.

[Anonymous]

Unless there's a problem, you get a raise every year.