A question for MB's regarding hiring a nanny?

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny currently searching for my next family. So far I have interviewed with 3 families, turning down one offer. I interviewed with a family that seems to be a perfect match yesterday. Four hours later ( same day) the parents requested background checks. Today they checked my references and offer me the position. I've heard from two references and they said the prospective employers were really excited about me and were complimenting my experience and knowledge through the entire call. When they called to offer, they didn't seem very enthused or happy. I'm obviously aware that its good they offer right away but I've never had anyone boast about me to other references and then be unenthusiastic offering me the position. Any reasons why? Should this be a red flag? However, they did compliment on my professionalism during the interview.

[Anonymous]

Its a negotiation strategy. They like you and are excited about you, but if you know that you have a stronger negotiating position. Your references gave you some great inside information, and now you can go into contract negotiations knowing how much they want you and that they're a little scared to show their cards. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're overthinking this OP.

I'm not an MB but am a very happily employed nanny and I had a similar experience - they were very formal and refined when offering me the position but enthusiastic during our interview and when talking to my references. I don't think it's a red flag at all, just professional people behaving professionally around a job offer. If it felt like the right fit to you when you met them you should absolutely go for it.

[Anonymous]

It's clearly how they are. I don't know that it's a reg flag, and should eliminate them, but I wouldn't completely discount it, either.

I'd be particularly observant how they behave with their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its a negotiation strategy. They like you and are excited about you, but if you know that you have a stronger negotiating position. Your references gave you some great inside information, and now you can go into contract negotiations knowing how much they want you and that they're a little scared to show their cards. Good luck!

+1

[Anonymous]

I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

[Anonymous]

They probably do not want to get over excited just in case things do not work out.

Just like w/anything in life, no one wants to get their hopes up just to get them shot right back down again.

What is that old saying..."Hope for the best...But expect the worst...."

Or like one poster responded, it also could be a negotiation tool as well.

Either way, I wouldn't necessarily say it was a "red flag."

I say congratulations on your new job.

I hope things work out for everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

How do you recommend judging a person's integrity?

Or do you think it's better for nannies to play dumb, so you can continue taking advantage of them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

How do you recommend judging a person's integrity?

Or do you think it's better for nannies to play dumb, so you can continue taking advantage of them?

Nannies always say they want to be treated professionally so when someone gets an offer that is professional that is criticized? You really think potential employers should be jumping up and down asking you to come work for them?

Just out of curiosity, what if an employer posted that they offered a nanny a position who had seemed really enthusiastic during the interview but when she was offered the job she didn't seem that excited? Would everyone's response be to keep looking for a more enthusiastic less professional nanny? Somehow I think not.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny currently searching for my next family. So far I have interviewed with 3 families, turning down one offer. I interviewed with a family that seems to be a perfect match yesterday. Four hours later ( same day) the parents requested background checks. Today they checked my references and offer me the position. I've heard from two references and they said the prospective employers were really excited about me and were complimenting my experience and knowledge through the entire call. When they called to offer, they didn't seem very enthused or happy. I'm obviously aware that its good they offer right away but I've never had anyone boast about me to other references and then be unenthusiastic offering me the position. Any reasons why? Should this be a red flag? However, they did compliment on my professionalism during the interview.

You're overreacting and making a lot of assumptions, OP. If they weren't enthusiastic about you, they wouldn't have offered you the job. The problem is that you have issues and apparently need people to say or do things to meet your definition of enthusiasm. Be glad you have an offer. If you can't manage that, then you're probably better off passing on this family so they can find a nanny who won't hold them to such petty judgments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

How do you recommend judging a person's integrity?

Or do you think it's better for nannies to play dumb, so you can continue taking advantage of them?

Do they pay you what was agreed upon in a timely manner? Do they stick to your written and verbal agreements? Do they respect your time and outside commitments? Do they treat you like a professional with respect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

How do you recommend judging a person's integrity?

Or do you think it's better for nannies to play dumb, so you can continue taking advantage of them?

Do they pay you what was agreed upon in a timely manner? Do they stick to your written and verbal agreements? Do they respect your time and outside commitments? Do they treat you like a professional with respect?

Do you have a dream?

[Anonymous]

It might be a dream for you but it is a reality for many competent nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd continue my interviewing process, OP. Not all parents need to put on an act like that. They may have lots of money, but that won't affect how little they'll try to pay you. I don't care much for their kind.

Bad advice. They gave you a good offer and that is what counts. Do not judge someone based on whether they are a cheerleader.

How do you recommend judging a person's integrity?

Or do you think it's better for nannies to play dumb, so you can continue taking advantage of them?

Do they pay you what was agreed upon in a timely manner? Do they stick to your written and verbal agreements? Do they respect your time and outside commitments? Do they treat you like a professional with respect?

Parents who do all of the above, are few and far between.
Everyone knows it. Or are you new here?