Why do MBs always insist that a nanny's job is to make their life easier?

[Anonymous]

Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

[Anonymous]

You aren't a mom are you?

[Anonymous]

Snort. It's because it's your job to make my life easier. You accomplish this by taking care of my kids, their meals, their laundry. Way easier than daycare.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I do feel part of my job is to make life easier for the family I work for. Does that mean I am a doormat? No. But it does mean showing up and showing up on time so they can get to work in the mornings. It means I don't bring my drama to work with me. It means taking excellent care of the children so they don't have to worry about the person who takes care of the children.
It means picking up after the children, keeping a journal so the parents know what we did during the day. It means staying a few minutes late without complaint if the parents are running a few minutes late every once in a while.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess- you don't have many jobs that last longer than one or two years- right? EVERYONE'S job in life is to make their bosses life easier- no matter what the profession. My nanny has been with us for more than 5 years BECAUSE she doesn't have your attitude. If you don't make a parent's life easier- then they might as well switch to daycare when the little ones get past the infant stage. In life it is a good practice to understand who writes the paychecks and do what you can to make their life easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

MB echoing this response 100%.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

I agree with your post fully, but I think what OP was trying to get at is the frequently expressed attitude that a nanny's job is to make her MBs life easier as a vague and general idea. My job may be to make your life easier but I firmly believe that means only within a certain scope. It might make it easier for you if I did adult laundry, cooked gourmet dinners, or drove you to and from work each day, but that doesn't inherently make it my job. My job is whatever we agreed upon, and that's it. A lot of MBs construct basic childcare only jobs, paying an average rate for an average job, THEN start expecting anything under the sun that "makes their life easier" without any adjustment to compensation or consideration for the fact that your nanny signed up for the job you outlined for the reason. I don't do adult laundry or housekeeping, and I don't take jobs that include those duties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

I agree with your post fully, but I think what OP was trying to get at is the frequently expressed attitude that a nanny's job is to make her MBs life easier as a vague and general idea. My job may be to make your life easier but I firmly believe that means only within a certain scope. It might make it easier for you if I did adult laundry, cooked gourmet dinners, or drove you to and from work each day, but that doesn't inherently make it my job. My job is whatever we agreed upon, and that's it. A lot of MBs construct basic childcare only jobs, paying an average rate for an average job, THEN start expecting anything under the sun that "makes their life easier" without any adjustment to compensation or consideration for the fact that your nanny signed up for the job you outlined for the reason. I don't do adult laundry or housekeeping, and I don't take jobs that include those duties.

PP here and I agree with your post too. I think there are a lot of MBs [/i]on DCUM[i] who certainly have unreasonable expectations but DCUM is not the real world in any way. I guess I'm just not sure what the point of the OP was exactly. The crazy MBs aren't going to read this post and say "you know what, you're right, I really shouldn't expect the nanny to do my laundry and make my bed." The reasonable MBs already know that and get irritated by posts like this that make it seem like all MBs are crazy. If you work for an unreasonable employer, I'm sorry, but then find a new job instead of coming on DCUM and acting like all MBs are the enemy. Maybe that wasn't OP's intention but anything that says MBs "always" do xx or "all MBs" just rubs me the wrong way just as I think most nannies are irritated by posts saying things like "ALL nannies are lazy" etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

I agree with your post fully, but I think what OP was trying to get at is the frequently expressed attitude that a nanny's job is to make her MBs life easier as a vague and general idea. My job may be to make your life easier but I firmly believe that means only within a certain scope. It might make it easier for you if I did adult laundry, cooked gourmet dinners, or drove you to and from work each day, but that doesn't inherently make it my job. My job is whatever we agreed upon, and that's it. A lot of MBs construct basic childcare only jobs, paying an average rate for an average job, THEN start expecting anything under the sun that "makes their life easier" without any adjustment to compensation or consideration for the fact that your nanny signed up for the job you outlined for the reason. I don't do adult laundry or housekeeping, and I don't take jobs that include those duties.

PP here and I agree with your post too. I think there are a lot of MBs [/i]on DCUM[i] who certainly have unreasonable expectations but DCUM is not the real world in any way. I guess I'm just not sure what the point of the OP was exactly. The crazy MBs aren't going to read this post and say "you know what, you're right, I really shouldn't expect the nanny to do my laundry and make my bed." The reasonable MBs already know that and get irritated by posts like this that make it seem like all MBs are crazy. If you work for an unreasonable employer, I'm sorry, but then find a new job instead of coming on DCUM and acting like all MBs are the enemy. Maybe that wasn't OP's intention but anything that says MBs "always" do xx or "all MBs" just rubs me the wrong way just as I think most nannies are irritated by posts saying things like "ALL nannies are lazy" etc.

It's the entitlement culture. Is your child part of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Correction, my job is not to make your life easier, it's to take damn good care of your children while you work and do any child related cleaning up after them. If you need someone to make your life easier, hire a personal assistant.

What you don't seem to understand is that taking "damn good care" of my children DOES make my life easier. Showing up on time, taking good care of my children, making sure they are happy and well cared floor and leaving my house in the condition you found it in are pretty basic things any halfway decent nanny should do and those are all things that make my life easier. Of course many nannies do much more than just those things and they are the nannies holding the long term highly paid positions. Making my life easier doesn't have to involve emptying my dishwasher or doing my laundry. It means doing your job as a nanny to the best of your ability so I know my children are happy and well cared for while I'm at work so I can do my job.

I agree with your post fully, but I think what OP was trying to get at is the frequently expressed attitude that a nanny's job is to make her MBs life easier as a vague and general idea. My job may be to make your life easier but I firmly believe that means only within a certain scope. It might make it easier for you if I did adult laundry, cooked gourmet dinners, or drove you to and from work each day, but that doesn't inherently make it my job. My job is whatever we agreed upon, and that's it. A lot of MBs construct basic childcare only jobs, paying an average rate for an average job, THEN start expecting anything under the sun that "makes their life easier" without any adjustment to compensation or consideration for the fact that your nanny signed up for the job you outlined for the reason. I don't do adult laundry or housekeeping, and I don't take jobs that include those duties.

PP here and I agree with your post too. I think there are a lot of MBs [/i]on DCUM[i] who certainly have unreasonable expectations but DCUM is not the real world in any way. I guess I'm just not sure what the point of the OP was exactly. The crazy MBs aren't going to read this post and say "you know what, you're right, I really shouldn't expect the nanny to do my laundry and make my bed." The reasonable MBs already know that and get irritated by posts like this that make it seem like all MBs are crazy. If you work for an unreasonable employer, I'm sorry, but then find a new job instead of coming on DCUM and acting like all MBs are the enemy. Maybe that wasn't OP's intention but anything that says MBs "always" do xx or "all MBs" just rubs me the wrong way just as I think most nannies are irritated by posts saying things like "ALL nannies are lazy" etc.[/quote]


YES!!!!

[urbannanny]

9:22 and 9:44 you both rock. Great example of nannies and MBs finding equilibrium on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I think of my job as helping the home run more smoothly, and I sure hope that translates into making my MBs life easier because she works hard, loves her kids, and respects me immensely. It's my pleasure to do the big and little things that make the days (and especially the nights) go easier, including having the kids fed and bathed when she gets home so they can have some time together before bed that isn't a battle.

[Anonymous]

MUTUAL respect is key here. It's rather disappointing how many parents seem to forget that little ingredient. It can so easily make (or brake!) the entire relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MUTUAL respect is key here. It's rather disappointing how many parents seem to forget that little ingredient. It can so easily make (or brake!) the entire relationship.

I agree. But nannies forget also you know.

PS - break, not brake.