Nannies: do you give more to your charge and their home then to your own?

[Anonymous]

For those of you balancing work and home, do you ever feel guilty about being so great for someone else's family? At the end of the night when you don't have the wherewithal to cook for your own family or can't keep your eyes open to hear from your own kids and husband about what they need, what do you do? Quit?

[Anonymous]

YUP.

God, I wish I had the energy to cook nice stews and clean my house the way I do at work...but after ten hours of juggling an infant and a toddler, cooking, laundry, playing, art projects, refereeing time outs and answering "what is that?" a thousand times all I have energy for at home is a bowl of cereal and maybe a once over with the vacuum once a week. My poor DH doesn't know what he's missing!

[Anonymous]

EVERY good worker gives more on-the-job,
than at home. Human nature.
"Balance" is a grand MYTH.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and it's starting to really erode my home life. I work a split shift and have a second job in between the off hours at my main job (ie: my hours are 530-7am, 8-6pm, 630-830pm, 10-5am, M-F). I've worked myself to the bone, I give give and give more at work and as a result feel as though I don't even know my own DC anymore. The one job I've tried to quit and am guilted every time into staying. She's a single mom and it's more like she sees me as a co parent now and not just her PT nanny. Just yesterday she wanted to know why I didn't take sick DC to the doctor, informing me I'm listed as on his forms as an emergency contact/can seek care for him.
I want to quit this job so bad and yet I keep going week after week. I'm giving my entire life to these 2 jobs and in return I have no life at all.
Sorry for my little mini rant, I'm kinda at my breaking point.

[Anonymous]

Omg absolutely. I leave things at work spotless, laundry folded and organized meticulously, make cookies and things for fun. At home it's all I can do to run the dishwasher, all my clothes get dumped into one load and never folded right away, and I definitely almost never cook for fun. And that's why I love being home, lol I can leave it messy and relax and no one cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and it's starting to really erode my home life. I work a split shift and have a second job in between the off hours at my main job (ie: my hours are 530-7am, 8-6pm, 630-830pm, 10-5am, M-F). I've worked myself to the bone, I give give and give more at work and as a result feel as though I don't even know my own DC anymore. The one job I've tried to quit and am guilted every time into staying. She's a single mom and it's more like she sees me as a co parent now and not just her PT nanny. Just yesterday she wanted to know why I didn't take sick DC to the doctor, informing me I'm listed as on his forms as an emergency contact/can seek care for him.
I want to quit this job so bad and yet I keep going week after week. I'm giving my entire life to these 2 jobs and in return I have no life at all.
Sorry for my little mini rant, I'm kinda at my breaking point.

When do you come home? I assume you sleep during the 10-5 job, but this is insanity! Help the mom find a replacement and quit already!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and it's starting to really erode my home life. I work a split shift and have a second job in between the off hours at my main job (ie: my hours are 530-7am, 8-6pm, 630-830pm, 10-5am, M-F). I've worked myself to the bone, I give give and give more at work and as a result feel as though I don't even know my own DC anymore. The one job I've tried to quit and am guilted every time into staying. She's a single mom and it's more like she sees me as a co parent now and not just her PT nanny. Just yesterday she wanted to know why I didn't take sick DC to the doctor, informing me I'm listed as on his forms as an emergency contact/can seek care for him.
I want to quit this job so bad and yet I keep going week after week. I'm giving my entire life to these 2 jobs and in return I have no life at all.
Sorry for my little mini rant, I'm kinda at my breaking point.

Up your rates so you can be a better nanny with fewer hours to work. What are you currently charging?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:EVERY good worker gives more on-the-job,
than at home. Human nature.
"Balance" is a grand MYTH.

+1. My dad was a school teacher. He didn't have much time or patience left over for us kids when he came home.

[Anonymous]

Our job is different that we believe children deserve the very best we have to offer ever single day. Some nannies are in it for the paycheck. Those who do the job with integrity find it hard to answer MBs multiple texts then get berated for texting to check in on their own child. In other jobs you can make a short personal call without having the boss treat you like a puppy killer.

[Anonymous]

You should always do what you think is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you balancing work and home, do you ever feel guilty about being so great for someone else's family? At the end of the night when you don't have the wherewithal to cook for your own family or can't keep your eyes open to hear from your own kids and husband about what they need, what do you do? Quit?

No way ,no way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and it's starting to really erode my home life. I work a split shift and have a second job in between the off hours at my main job (ie: my hours are 530-7am, 8-6pm, 630-830pm, 10-5am, M-F). I've worked myself to the bone, I give give and give more at work and as a result feel as though I don't even know my own DC anymore. The one job I've tried to quit and am guilted every time into staying. She's a single mom and it's more like she sees me as a co parent now and not just her PT nanny. Just yesterday she wanted to know why I didn't take sick DC to the doctor, informing me I'm listed as on his forms as an emergency contact/can seek care for him.
I want to quit this job so bad and yet I keep going week after week. I'm giving my entire life to these 2 jobs and in return I have no life at all.
Sorry for my little mini rant, I'm kinda at my breaking point.

Up your rates so you can be a better nanny with fewer hours to work. What are you currently charging?

For the main job - the 8-6 and 10-5, I make 100000 a year
For the second I had a moment of weakness and charge 35....a day

[Anonymous]

Yes I do, and I'm really tired of it. I'm tired of busting my ass at work for this family, making home cooked meals, cleaning up after all of them not just the kids, keeping up with the laundry, and more, only to get home after 12 hours at work too tired to cook my child a real meal, laundry piled up, and a short temper with my husband. I do and do and do for these people, and they constantly want more. I am literally counting the days until my degree is finished and I can leave nannying behind. I will never cook, clean, or wipe the butt for anyone but my family again.

[Anonymous]

I don't have my own family, but I definitely get lazy with my own house.

I will come home and not feel like cooking for myself or doing another load of laundry.

I will not be the nanny who takes her kids to a daycare while I go watch someone else's kids. I don't want to do that.

[Anonymous]

That is why I didn't work as a nanny UNTIL my own children were older.

There is no way I could have worked as a nanny when my own children were younger.

No way.

Now I can run around w/younger kids, clean up after them, etc., then when their parents come home, I get to go home and just kick up my feet and relax.

If I had to go home and then chase my own small kids around, I would have gone nuts.