MB not on board with potty training

[Anonymous]

DS is eager to use the potty. He sometimes tells us after he goes in the diaper and will often attempt to go to the toilet himself. After a couple conversations, we all agreed on a plan for potty training. In the two weeks since, though, DC has been diapered any time I am not with him. I only work 4 days so I literally have to start over after three days of him not being taken to the bathroom.

I followed up with the parents who assured me they would like training to continue. However, when I asked them to be consistent I got a lot of excuses about how everyone is so busy. MB also seemed hurt because DS is resistant with her.

DC and I are both frustrated. He is having accidents. I am on the verge of just diapering him again. Big sigh, potty training is tuff stuff for all of us.

[Anonymous]

Sit down with mom and have a real talk. Potty training is hard, it requires a heavy investment of time in the beginning but that usually only lasts a week or two. However, during that time everyone has to be 100% on the same page. If things are too busy for you now, can we look at your calendar and choose a time you would be able to dedicate your time at home to potty training DC? He's eager and able so the sooner the better, but I'm afraid going back and forth will only lead to a regression and set us back really far.

Also suggest that she buy some cheap packs of underwear so she can just throw them away when he has accidents. Maybe she's feeling like she can't handle the clean-up/laundry end of things and that's a really simple solution.

[Anonymous]

Lazy parents like this are unbelievably selfish. Don't they know anything?

[Anonymous]

You can't do anything, OP, if the parents don't follow through when you aren't there. It is confusing and very frustrating for the child. I'd stop the potty training until your MB is willing to do it.

[Anonymous]

I'd get another family that cares.

[Anonymous]

How old is the child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is the child?

He is three and four months.

[Anonymous]

It's high time, OP. What are they waiting for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's high time, OP. What are they waiting for?

OP here. I agree that it is age appropriate to potty train. They don't seem to agree that it has to be done day and evening and weekend. I only diaper DS for sleeping. They diaper him literally 100% of the time I am not working. Then Monday morning I am cleaning poop out of the clothes and carpets. Handling pee and poop is part of the job and it does not scare me. What really rubs is to have to scrub poop out of the clothes yet again knowing that it will be a repeat scene every Monday after he has been diapered all weekend. Unfortunately, DS seems to have realized that using the potty is a bigger responsibility so he now asks for his diaper back whereas last week he was excited to wear underwear.

[Anonymous]

Wow - he more than old enough to start potty training. Of course he isn't enthusiastic about it anymore since his parents didn't share his enthusiasm. Sad. As pointed out. OP, there is nothing you can do four days a week. I hope he's a small boy so that kids don't make fun of him.

[Anonymous]

I feel MB has lost her privilege of making the choice. What she is doing is disrespectful and really harmful to the child. The nanny should not participate in something that is harmful to the child. At the risk of losing the job, just refuse.

[Anonymous]

Strop training until they are ready to step up. Its confusing and frustrating for your charge. I'd probably start looking for a new job myself. I wouldn't want to work for parents that are too lazy to do what's best for their kid, and I couldn't keep my mouth shut and watch it. They are on the horizon of the actual parenting work, and things are only going to get worse if they are lazy about it. Too lazy to potty train, too lazy to discipline, too lazy to teach and read, etc.

[Anonymous]

They are cheap parents and you should find another position. I am not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are cheap parents and you should find another position. I am not a nanny.

You also did not read the thread. This has nothing to do with money.