Raise for 2nd Child - When Should it Start
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Anonymous
| Hello, we are expecting our second child soon and fully intend of course to adjust our nanny's compensation package appropriately. My question is, however, when should the new rate start? I will be home for maternity leave for 13 weeks and, while there maybe some time that our nanny is left with both children, it won't really be the norm until I am back at work. Just curious about what others have done. Thank you! |
Anonymous
I honestly don't see why you would raise her rate. If she requests a raise that is a discussion you can have, but to just do it seems a little foolhardy. |
Anonymous
| That raise should begin once you make them baby her responsibility. If she will be helping you throughout your maternity leave, which it is unlikely that she wouldn't, it should start when the baby arrives. If you truly mean, and will follow through, for her to have nothing to do with the baby while you are on leave, then start it when you return to work. I would suggest at least paying an increase rate for any hours she has both children, even if it will be a rare occurrence. You could give it as a bonus at the end of your leave, which is always a PITA for a nanny. |
Anonymous
Beeeeep. Not OP's question. Try again. |
Anonymous
I honestly don't see why you would want to make such an ass of yourself around here. |
Anonymous
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As a nanny, I would expect the raise to begin when I was actually responsible for both children.
However, please be aware, OP, that your being home with a new baby may bring up behavioral issues with your older child that can be very, very hard on a nanny. Your older child may feel jealous and want to spend time with you, he/she may stop listening to your nanny, and/or there may be regressions. You and your nanny need to be open and on the same page to make the transition easier for everyone. |
Anonymous
| Mb here. We started the raise as soon as baby was born. I was home for 12 weeks, but let's face it. Even if the baby isn't the nanny's responsibility yet, my staying home with a new baby was distracting for the older one and there were definitely times nanny had to step in to assist me with something as I had a fairly complicate delivery/recovery. Even though nanny wasn't responsible for the baby yet, it definitely changed the nature of her job and DH and I felt she should be compensated accordingly. |
Anonymous
Listen to this wise mother.... |
Anonymous
| i am at home now w/ birth of 2nd child and we gave nanny an immediate raise. i have her watch the baby for a few hrs a day to catch up on sleep, shower and pump. i also spend time w/ the older one. |
Anonymous
Another very smart mother here. |
Anonymous
| I have been given raises by different families when the baby was born. Even if MB or DB are home, it still is more work for the nanny. |
Anonymous
MB here, and I would give the raise immediately. Even though your nanny won't have full responsibility for both children while you're home she will have to deal with you being home! 
Seriously, it's a PITA for nannies to have family underfoot all the time. It's a smart investment in the long-term relationship to just start the raise as soon as the baby is born. Congratulations! |
Anonymous
| Definitely give the raise immediately. |
Anonymous
| We're having our second this fall and are giving the raise for baby #2 as soon as we get back from the hospital. I want to have the option to have her take care of both when I need it - it would be wrong to ask her to do that and to not pay her for it. |
Anonymous
| Agree with the majority consensus here. MY MB, for example, would want to cook whole meals during the day whereas before she just left their lunch in the fridge for me to warm. During one bout of homemade bread making I swore my arms were going to fall off from rolling. It was fun for her to have DH in the kitchen but I definitely did all of the cleaning and the most tiring/tedious tasks. |