Cussing at NF
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Anonymous
| Have any nannies ever cussed out or went off on their mb or db and if so what happened? Fired on the spot. I'm just curious. |
Anonymous
| Nope never done that. I have had MBs/DBs do and say some crazy things after I give notice. One DB threatened to "make me stay". I wasn't sure what exactly he meant, but seeing as how he was a brawny 6'6 man, I told my MB that if she wanted me to work through the remaining 3 weeks of notice she would see to it that I never saw him again. They gracefully followed that up with a threat to sue. Sometimes I feel like I should have cussed them out. It was a true test of my patience and professionalism. |
Anonymous
| The very first nanny we ever hired did that to me (I'm an MB) because we didn't use a pacifier and she disagreed. She was fired that evening. |
Anonymous
| I got very angry at my DB but never cussed or raised my voice but I was clearly angry and "went off" (charge was asleep and in the other room) That was on a Friday - on Monday we all acted like nothing happened. That Monday afternoon, I apologized for getting so angry but told him I was not sorry about the content of my rage! I was right theoretically but wrong in my emotion. Everything has been great since. |
Anonymous
| NO I never have, but an ex-friend did. The parents were divorcing and she went off on the mom. (I met her through the family, I worked for them for a short time too, one day a week, and left a couple months later when I realized how crazy they were. The other nanny and I remained friendly.) She went off on the mom, screamed at her that she was a terrible mother etc etc. Probably all true stuff, but still, very immature. I wasn't the least bit surprised when she cut me off a few months ago when she and I had a disagreement about something. She's nearly 50 BTW. Much too old to be acting like a 16 yr old. |
Anonymous
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No but would love to. My current employers are a nightmare - especially the DB. I get "I know it's not your job but I need you to _____" or they are LATE - often hour late without even the courtesy of a call to their children. They regularly "forget" to pay me but never seem to forget to leave me all their filthy dinner dishes in the morning (which I have to wash in order to use the sink and make the kids' breakfast) which is NOT a part of my job according to our contract.
Yes, I am looking for another position and will leave as soon as I get one. I don't need their reference and pray I never see either one of them ever again. The children are sweet - I feel so sorry for them having these two jerks as parents. |
Anonymous
Ugh, I'm sorry, OP. I had a horrid DB/MB once and I still get a little sick thinking about what why put me (and their poor child) through. Best of luck finding a new position. |
Anonymous
| You can't make this stuff up, people. I know it's true and not so unusual. Most families who hire FT nannies aren't regular people. |
Anonymous
What are you talking about "most families that hire FT nannies aren't regular people"?!?! So a family with two working parents isn't "regular"? What would a couple, say a doctor and a lawyer, with no family in the area do for childcare if they were "regular"? Anyway. I've never lost my temper with an MB/DB but I have used strong language over safety concerns that were not being addressed in a timely manner. They respected my forcefulness because they knew it was coming from a place of genuine care and not judgment. |
Anonymous
You judged them to be slow with their childproofing responsibilities. Don't apologize for saying the right thing. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry for your situation, too. Now I feel like cussing out your DB!!! I know you'll find a wonderful new job soon - your concern for the children of this horrible couple tells me that you're probably a great nanny. |
Anonymous
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No, I would never cuss at my boss.
I mean, trust me there were some I wanted to drop the "F-bomb" on. But I am on medication for bi-polar and am older now. But back in my 20's when I wasn't on meds, I would have most certainly talked back. |
Anonymous
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If a nanny ever behaved that way in our home he/she would be fired immediately.
If I, or my husband, ever behaved that way toward our nanny I would fully expect him/her to quit. |
Anonymous
| I have never cussed at or yelled at my employers however my current family did get a forceful conversation that childproofing was not an option (I'm talking the bare bones basics of a child gate on the steps and covers on the gas stove and open electrical outlets). I basically told them that either they could do it or they could buy the supplies and I would do but but that I was not willing to work in a home with absolutely no childproofing and 2 very active 8 month old twins. |