Nanny and Mother's Day

[Anonymous]

I feel so honored that my nanny brought me a gift for Mother's Day. She's also a mother, should I reciprocate? Or is that weird?

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I would honored if my employer responded. And I don't even have kids!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I think it's weird she gave you a gift and weird that you'd reciprocate. She isn't your mother and you aren't her mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think it's weird she gave you a gift and weird that you'd reciprocate. She isn't your mother and you aren't her mother.

So sad you have such negative superficial view of the nanny/family relationship. I'm blessed. I've worked for wonderful families and I consider Mother's Day the busiest day of the year-kind of like accountants around April 15th It's never weird to do something nice for someone without ulterior motive. I wish my sister a Happy Mother's Day, my grandmother, some of my other friends who are moms and previous MBs I have worked with and with whom I'm still in touch. Be mature enough to know that it is huge undertaking to trust another person with your precious child. If you don't feel that way, you need to move on, grow up or recognize.

[Anonymous]

I always give my MB a Mother's Day gift. A card with flowers or edible item. Don't think it's weird. Now I'm not one of those weirdo nannies who expects a MD gift when I don't have kids...that is odd.

[Anonymous]

If she's also a mother, I think it would be totally fine to get her, say, a card and some flowers for MD.

I always do things for my MBs. The older the kids, the more it becomes just facilitating them. This year I have two MBs (AM job with 1-yo twins and PM afterschool elementary job). I "helped" all the kids paint some cheap flower pots and plant some herbs, and I helped the big kids plan and prepare a MD breakfast (they cut up some fruit for fruit salad and chose some fancy cheeses from WF) and helped them make cards. For little ones, I also did herbs (albeit with a lot more help!), I made pancakes so she won't have to cook, and i sewed them matching outfits in her favorite colors and took photos for a card from them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so honored that my nanny brought me a gift for Mother's Day. She's also a mother, should I reciprocate? Or is that weird?

I would reciprocate.

I don't think I have an obligation to give anyone a gift on Mother's Day except my own mother, and my child's Grandmother (his other parent passed away), but if my nanny reached out like this, I'd probably reciprocate because I would know that she would think it was OK, and it was an easy way to make her feel honored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think it's weird she gave you a gift and weird that you'd reciprocate. She isn't your mother and you aren't her mother.

So sad you have such negative superficial view of the nanny/family relationship. I'm blessed. I've worked for wonderful families and I consider Mother's Day the busiest day of the year-kind of like accountants around April 15th It's never weird to do something nice for someone without ulterior motive. I wish my sister a Happy Mother's Day, my grandmother, some of my other friends who are moms and previous MBs I have worked with and with whom I'm still in touch. Be mature enough to know that it is huge undertaking to trust another person with your precious child. If you don't feel that way, you need to move on, grow up or recognize.

I wish my friends, family and MB a happy Mother's Day but don't do anything for them (no cards, no gifts). It has nothing to do with my relationship to my MB (who I happen to love) but my understanding of what Mother's Day is. Mother's Day is a day to honor MY MOTHER not anyone else's mother!!! And you comment about my need to "move on, grow up or recognize" is ridiculous. You and I disagree. You do not need to justify your position by denigrating mine with childish insults.

[Anonymous]

Do a craft and card no gift shes not your mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think it's weird she gave you a gift and weird that you'd reciprocate. She isn't your mother and you aren't her mother.

So sad you have such negative superficial view of the nanny/family relationship. I'm blessed. I've worked for wonderful families and I consider Mother's Day the busiest day of the year-kind of like accountants around April 15th It's never weird to do something nice for someone without ulterior motive. I wish my sister a Happy Mother's Day, my grandmother, some of my other friends who are moms and previous MBs I have worked with and with whom I'm still in touch. Be mature enough to know that it is huge undertaking to trust another person with your precious child. If you don't feel that way, you need to move on, grow up or recognize.

I wish my friends, family and MB a happy Mother's Day but don't do anything for them (no cards, no gifts). It has nothing to do with my relationship to my MB (who I happen to love) but my understanding of what Mother's Day is. Mother's Day is a day to honor MY MOTHER not anyone else's mother!!! And you comment about my need to "move on, grow up or recognize" is ridiculous. You and I disagree. You do not need to justify your position by denigrating mine with childish insults.

Relax, Francis.

[Anonymous]

Some people here are happy and some are crabby.

[Anonymous]

It has never occurred to me to give my employer a gift or card for Mother's Day. No matter how much I like and respect my MB, she isn't my mother. I've helped my charges make cards and gifts for their mothers over the years and told my DB with his first baby that the first Mother's Day is very important to his wife but nothing more.

I have a mother who I celebrate Mother's Day with and children who celebrate Mother's Day with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people here are happy and some are crabby.

I am very happy and have never disliked any MB I ever worked for - in fact, I actually liked them all a great deal and had/have wonderful relationships with them that have continued - and I still never did anything more than wish my MBs a happy Mother's Day on the Friday prior. Like the PP wrote, I celebrate Mother's Day with my mother and my daughter. Maybe it is different for young nannies who don't have children, but I think it is inappropriate to give your employer a Mother's Day gift. Just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I helped the kids with a gift for their mom and they made her breakfast.
I got a card and a gift from my MB for being "like a mom" to her kids.
I love them

[Anonymous]

MB here. I would never expect a card or gift from our nanny for Mother's Day. We have a great relationship, but I would expect her to save her MD gifts and cards for her mother.

She does always help my DD create a card and gift and I think it is very sweet of her to do that. It isn't her job, but as a single mom, it is a great kindness I appreciate.