would/did you invite you MB or family to personal events? I.e. baby shower

[Anonymous]

I am getting together a guest list for my baby shower to give to my mother and wanted to get some opinions on inviting MB to shower? I have worked for them for 2 years now and we maintain a very nice, professional relationship. Would you invite MB to baby shower or other event (bridal shower, actual wedding, birthday,etc.)? I don't want to make her feel obligated to attend or like she has to buy a gift.

[Anonymous]

My charge was the ring bearer in my wedding. He's 21 now and planning his own wedding, but that little boy will always be like a first son to me. I've loved him since he was 9mos old.

[Anonymous]

Probably not.

I say it's best to keep things professional and friendly with her.

It might put her in a really awkward position if you do invite her and she doesn't want to come and then she has to politely decline.

I would simply err on the side of caution and not invite her.

Congrats by the way!

[Anonymous]

Please don't. It will seem like you're just looking for a gift. Your MB is your professional world. Your baby shower is in your personal world.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm so glad I've had different MBs than the other nannies posting on this thread. The ones I have worked for would totally come to a baby/wedding/etc event. Yes my MBs were my boss but damn ladies, it's ok to be friends, too. I still have lunch monthly with two of my former MBs- from a share that ended 6 yrs ago. We've gone to countless lunches/birthdays/showers, etc for one another

[Anonymous]

In professional settings bosses and coworkers are invited to personal events. I just attended my former charges bridal shower. I think its fine to invite her! Congrats!

[Anonymous]

My MBs would be thrilled to attend a special event.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the nature of your relationship with your MB. It sort of sounds like the answer in your case might be no.

I don't think there's a right or wrong - but I don't think anyone who doesn't know you and/or the MB can give you a useful answer.

[Anonymous]

Um, I invited my boss to my wedding. A boss at another job attended my fathers funeral. It is normal in the non nanny world. Why would it be not ok in this situation?

[Anonymous]

I invited my employers to my wedding. They see me every day, called the proposal before it happened, and have been curious and supportive through the planning process. I can't imagine not inviting them.

[Anonymous]

I was invited to an MBs baby shower and would not hesitate to invite them to mine if the occasion arose.

[Anonymous]

I was invited to an MBs baby shower and would not hesitate to invite them to mine if the occasion arose.

[Anonymous]

It definitely depends on the relationship you have with the family. I invited my mb to my bridal shower and I know she was happy I did. The whole family came to the wedding and I was so happy they did. I share in their joy all the time, why can't they celebrate mine?

[Anonymous]

I'd invite if you feel comfortable doing so, and if she doesn't want to come, she can decline.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the relationship. My former employers came to my sister's wedding - who also sat for them when I wasn't available. All was fine. I went to my former charge's 1st Communion and a baby shower mb threw for her sister in law (who I was friendly with.) No awkwardness at all.