just was reprimanded for taking charges on walk..

[Anonymous]

I have worked for this family for almost 3 years and am not a young nanny. I have been nannying for almost 15 years. That being said, my charges have been inside all week and the sun is finally out today. I bundled them up (live in DC area) with hats, gloves and their winter coats and we went on a nature walk (ten minutes outside) to gather flowers for a craft I have planned later. I get back to the house and DB had been sleeping and finally had woken up to start his work day and had left while we were out. I had 4 missed calls from him on my cell phone which I left here to go on a short walk and he called the house phone which I picked up. I got yelled out for him not knowing where we were (have never once had to check in with parents before going on a walk or taking the kids out anywhere with this parents). I also got yelled out because its cold outside and they shouldn't be out in the cold. I am 30 years old and know that its cold out, I bundled all of us up and stayed in the sun for the entire 10 minutes we were outside. We picked a few flowers and came right back in for snack. I am super pissed right now. I am not a child babysitter that put your kids in danger. I took them for a quick walk to get some fresh air and do a craft. I can not stand this DB. I have posted about him many times on this forum. He shouldn't have been home at 11 in the afternoon since his work starts at 9 and he sleeps in constantly. I have never been required to check in or let them know we are leaving the house and have taken them out a million times to pool, library, walks, etc. Just wanted to vent I guess. I am furious at being yelled at like a child. I can't stand this guy. Am I crazy for being offended about this??

[Anonymous]

I don't know it sounds like the dad freaked out when he woke up and you guys were gone, had no idea where you were, and couldn't get a hold of you. I think that is reasonable. But then he was probably so freaked out that he couldn't get his emotions in check which is why he yelled at you.

First part is reasonable (if I didn't know where my kids were with the nanny and I tried calling and there was no answer I'd get worried) the second part is completely unreasonable. (the yelling I mean)

I think you need to have a sit down and discuss this whole situation once everyone has calmed down.

[Anonymous]

Op here, its not like I just started with them. I am very outside person. He has woken up probably 500 times or more in the past 3 years to us being gone. I start working for them at 8 am. I take charge to school in the morning and then leave with younger charge all day. He has woken up many times with us being gone with no freak out. I take them outside everyday I can. Its like he was looking for a reason to yell at me.

[Anonymous]

Why in the world have they been inside all week? Yesterday it was raining, sure, but Monday was gorgeous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, its not like I just started with them. I am very outside person. He has woken up probably 500 times or more in the past 3 years to us being gone. I start working for them at 8 am. I take charge to school in the morning and then leave with younger charge all day. He has woken up many times with us being gone with no freak out. I take them outside everyday I can. Its like he was looking for a reason to yell at me.

OK well sorry, was just trying to give my perspective. Guess it was wrong. If you are this unhappy at your job, just look for another one.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why that is important or helpful 11:54??

[Anonymous]

Op here: I appreciate your perspective and you are right. If I didn't have a relationship that I do with this family, and I was new and took the kids somewhere without asking permission, absolutely he should freak out. I should be fired I would think. And that is something I would never do. But in this case, I think he just likes yelling at me. I love love love these kids and MB. But I can't stand the DB. Not quite sure I'm.ready to just quit but thanks you for your help!

[Anonymous]

OP is a saint to put up with that kind of disrespect from him. Did he behave like that in front of the children, OP?

[Anonymous]

could you talk to mb? maybe bring it up? in the future just shoot him a text message when you head out and he's home

[Anonymous]

I'd want to start texting him nonstop with every little thing I'm doing, annoy him with it , but I wouldn't. I would schedule a time to sit down with both of them to discuss the situation and expectations on both ends.

[Anonymous]

After three years he should be able to guess that you took them out and it shouldn't be a big deal...he's just a jerk. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. I would think of looking somewhere else. It is very disrespectful and honestly if he doesn't trust you at this point when will he? It's not your issue, but his.

[Anonymous]

What a self-absorbed overgrown child he is. Those poor children.

[Anonymous]

I think I've read some of your other posts about this DB and really, you need to have a meeting with both MB and DB or you need to move on. Being yelled at by your boss - or really by anyone - is unacceptable, and if you're the poster I think you are his behavior all around is equally not ok. Either meet with them both to discuss necessary boundaries or put out feelers for a new job. Or both. (And good luck, he sounds like a nightmare.)

[Anonymous]

Op here, I just wanted to thank everyone for your responses. Just knowing that I was heard and that others are thinking of me and getting validation that I am okay to be pissed off made a world of difference. This was starting to ruin my day but reading all the great support and suggestions here made me be in such a great mood! I am off work now and am going back out to enjoy this beautiful sunshine with a smile on my face thanks to all of you!